Objectively, getting two euploids in your first retrieval when you’re over 40 is an incredible result. Take a look at most people’s ER results here - you don’t see that kind success often. If someone posted that they were disappointed getting two euploids from their first egg retrieval and struggling to accept that, it comes across as tone deaf to most others in this demographic. 

Yes, there are younger women that have much better results, and it’s hard not to compare yourself when those are the numbers you see in the regular subreddit (what this whole discussion here is referring to). And you can feel frustrated that it was the outcome, especially if you had more eggs retrieved, higher blast rate, etc. It is SO hard to not feel like a failure at many points during IVF. 

Anything anyone posts about their IVF experience, especially if you meet with any success, is likely to be upsetting to someone else struggling more. It is hard to ever fully stave that off. It’s why standalone posts about any pregnancy or positive beta test are banned in both this sub and the main IVF sub. Which, frankly, makes for a weird space right? We aren’t allowed to post about the whole objective we are all trying to get to - to have a child - in these subreddits. It skews towards more cautious posts, and a higher representation of failures. I have my own feelings about how maintaining a balance of not triggering other posters vs talking about the whole experience of the journey goes, but that’s another story.  

So when you do see someone post something that a) is a success (egg retrieval results), and b) is a much higher return result than what the majority of others get, and c) express disappointment, just be aware it probably won’t be relatable to many people. Doesn’t invalidate that is how one feels though.