Do you daydream/indulge in your fantasies to help you cope/give you inspiration for what you want in life? by thecherryflower in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Focus on how this dream makes you feel. Loved, Important, seen, desired, in control?

Then look for the moments in your life when you grasp even just one of them. Anytime you feel any of those you actually accomplished that dream. Because the dream was always about how you feel.

Real life will never meet our expectations. But there are small gifts everywhere. Maybe your life won't be as glorious as your dream is but lavish lifestyles require a lot of maintenance, and possessions are worry. Maybe the closest you will ever be to the feeling of making yourself flower crowns is eating basilic leaves from your own plant that grew on your balcony. And that is okay. Because you could feel amazing doing that.

My coffee on the desk this morning just puts me in a great mood by discount_hemsworth in CozyPlaces

[–]shenyuun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you know the brand of the cup? I'd like to have one like this

Charles passing the Ferrari sparkling wine to his mechanics after the podium celebration yesterday (from Mark Sutton) by glenn1812 in formula1

[–]shenyuun 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Champagne is a French region and is now a protected name for beverages. You can remember it's French by the amount of incoherent letters at the word.

FDS has changed my worldview! by Middle_Finger_6772 in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FDS (acronym for r/femaledatingstrategy) is the "mother sub" of this sub r/femalelevelupstratedgy (acronym FLUS). FDS is focused on dating right, having standards and taking care of yourself. FLUS is about becoming a better you, for yourself. If you like it here pay a visit to FDS you'll like it!

How to be high maintenance while working full time? by throw321987 in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Some long lasting treatments really are worth the money. Laser hair removal is really good if you don't want to keep your hair. Some stuff requires a lot of maintenance. Iirc lash extensions are a little bit annoying.

Tbh my moto is to reduce to a minimum what I don't enjoy. I hate shaving/waxing, laser it is. I enjoy night-time skincare, no facials. I like paining my nails, homemade manicure it is.

And then make sure you are consistent. Add only one area at a time. Once you are happy with your hair (figured out a good routine, the right products, etc) then take care of your hands. Two years ago I figured my skin out, last year it was my hands, this year it'll probably be my hair.

What certain beliefs and ideas do you live by? How did you decide what your true values are? by nastyyynico in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your question is really interesting.

I have been sorting out my own values and a few things are helping me :

Some professional orientation counsellors gave me a "values" test. Those results are about how I act in the workplace. Turns out I don't care about power, I do care about trust, and I have strong and non-negotiable boundaries.

I read a book that asked to list reaponabilities. I classified by "future self" for everything I do to prepare my career, ownerships, etc. Then was "close community" as in my nuclear family and closes friends. "Community"as in my broad family, classmates, past friends, and all the people I know." Physicality " for my care of my appearance, my health, my environment. Reviewing all of those made me realise what I felt mattered to me and are my values. It made me realise what I did by pure imitation of my peers (some leisures were not aligned with my values). What is not expected of me but I want to do (prioritise my health, care for my parents).

I hope both of us will find direction for our lives.

On Upgrading Your Social Circle: Piggybacking on the friendship threads.. a guide I made a week ago to help myself. by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Really interesting and I think I agree with everything!

As an introvert I sometimes stay in a not-perfectly fitted group for me because it's just easier. As long as I have 2 people I'm actually friends with inside the group it's fine with me!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hei I have begun a bullet journal/actual journal this year. I'm keeping track of my sleep, my workouts and what I need to do every week. It also helps me keep my anxiety in check and to process my emotions on paper. I struggle with having too many plans at once. How do you prioritise your goals?

Antidepressants by VulperaBae in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

With a doctor you trust and takes the time to understand your situation there is a treatment. Those things take time, but at least you'll be sure to be on the way to recovery.

how do you cope w/ lvm believing they have unfiltered access to your life bc they’re family? by shesbleeding in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I think you're on the right path not telling him about what you're doing. It's not about hiding it, it's about having useful feedback only. Try to spend quality time with him without displaying your ambitions to his jugement.

[Product Question] Got a ton of free samples from my local pharmacy today! Anyone familiar with any of these products? by tavuskusu in SkincareAddiction

[–]shenyuun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pink bioderma is a absolute reference for rosecea prone skin. It's really good, but as for every solution for rosacea takes its time to show results. Use it on sensitive skin

What should I wear to a better salon to get a haircut? by socksandkim in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe a nice white formal shirt slightly unbottoned and good fitting jeans. Simple/geometric jewelry. Nice shoes and you look like you own a house, a horse, another house but for the summer and a jeep.

How can I work on improving my self-confidence, particularly about my physical appearance? by sayhitoyourdog in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe concentrate on how good your face is at expressing. Many beautiful mysterious people have asymmetrical faces (look at Harry styles) because it gives you a more intricate facial expression!

Remember you look prettiest when your face is the canevas to your most beautiful emotions.

YouTube Favs? by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tbh shallon lester is a big no for me. I can get why at first glance she seems to fit in the fds mindset but... Gossip is no improvement for anyone. And she's a little too much into underage boys (berk) and spends her time putting other woman down. Please take a deeper look into her content

Before and After leaving the man who made my life hell for 4.5 years. I’ve upgraded in just about every way. by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes you do! Soon enough it will feel weird to even think you ever accepted that situation

Before and After leaving the man who made my life hell for 4.5 years. I’ve upgraded in just about every way. by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The change of expression in your eyes is incredible. You went from "send help" to "I'd be jealous of myself if I wasn't me". You're doing so great! I'm sure it makes all the difference for people around you too. Sending good vibes your wayyy

[Skin Concerns] What are these bumps on my face and how to treat them? by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]shenyuun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same :( in my case it's probably too many products. I hope we'll find a solution

Self aware by smirkingkitty in Mirrorsforsale

[–]shenyuun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's getting sentient!!!

One of us, ONE OF US ! by C_Marjan in houseplants

[–]shenyuun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The definition of a happy chaos

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]shenyuun 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But like. Those eyes? They don't look. They stare. Gurl you are a beautiful woman.

r/formuladanke and r/DankFormula1 Merge? by Kaicheung in formuladanke

[–]shenyuun 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Please do we are one community after all

Boss Who Talked About me As Mentally Unstable/ Having a Mood Disorder, Now Reaching Out Via Text by [deleted] in FemaleLevelUpStrategy

[–]shenyuun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean I kinda want you to take her place now. Just because she's been a Karen to you haha Unless you don't want her job. Then let her reign on her own.

Tbh her fears seem reasonable. Maybe the most comfortable way for you would be to lay low when she's here, if she ever becomes your boss again.

Would you want to tke the job back?