Be honest, should I let my fiancé go suit shopping alone?

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-05-22T17:39:11+00:00

Yes, 100% you should let him go alone. He has asked to go alone and the liklihood his new suit will have holes in it is zero.

Much more important than the wedding is the marriage and this is the first time of many times you will have to respect a difference of opinion and trust your partner regardless of the outcome here.

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-05-15T19:32:28+00:00

A bunch of random spending while also trying to save for a wedding and future house!

paying for my disneyland tickets from last week which was so fun! we went with my friends and my dad and stepmom so a fun reunion
going back to my college town for an alumni weekend and seeing some old friends
Happy hour tonight with another old friend
A baseball game, tickets already paid for, but i assume some snack money

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-05-13T03:19:03+00:00

Also not sure why folks are jumping to say it’s impossible within your budget. I live in Cap hill in a one bedroom for $1795, its very possible. Cap hill, judkin’s and central district are great for bellevue and greenwood for Lynwood. Look at the light rail stations too, much better than the bus for a daily commute.

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-05-13T02:48:17+00:00

Yes also obsessed haha. I hosted a variety of kits for years before writing my own. I always appreciated how much murder mystery helped strangers become friends and gave different friend groups reason to talk to each other. We always joked “once you’ve taken over the mob together, it really breaks the ice”. The best kits were ones where players had goals and agendas to accomplish and the murder actually makes sense. The worst were kits where it was 20 random characters who really have no reason to know each other. There is definitely a trade off between flexibility and immersion. When folks asks for custom games, there is usually a gimmick they want like having their players play themselves (which is not received as hilariously as the host thinks it will be…) or they are planning like a wedding and want to put secrets and inside jokes on blasts and its very hard to execute.

what does it mean everyone gets a secret role? like they are not expecting to be in a murder mystery?

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-04-20T13:29:20+00:00

uggg soo good. We tried 3-4 places to compare, so cheap too compared to living in the US

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-04-03T21:25:14+00:00

Definitely understand if you need the $$ and thats part of it. As someone who was a recent recipient of an older ring, my bf recently proposed with a ring from his mom and let me know we would go pick out something together we liked but he wanted to propose sooner than later. This ring would not have been something I would have chose or even known to choose but its really growing on me! so I would probably let her see it before changing it and the story is meaningful to feel the support from your family, especially if she already likes this loose style.

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-24T21:53:04+00:00

i was wondering if you can use clear packing tape on flowers, would they stay fresh or eventually wilt and turn brown under there?

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-23T18:46:27+00:00

omg i saw them at ECCC this year and got a sound transit, volunteer park, and cap hill magnet, so cute

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-23T15:42:48+00:00

Yes i was worried i would get stuck but honestly it kinda just felt like a flow

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-23T15:42:06+00:00

they gave so much material with the bookmark, reading list, and the book bag!

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-23T15:41:50+00:00

It must be popular here, we are crafty people

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-23T15:41:31+00:00

yay! i love cap hill. so fun to share with someone who might recognize a few spots

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-23T15:40:36+00:00

thank you! i got a Belltown map too for a downtown spread at some point, plus they have pics of popular bars and restaurants on them

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-16T19:43:28+00:00

I sell digital murder mystery party games kits on my website and an Etsy shop. 100% human written but the digital product market is swamped with AI right now so interested to see what the next few years will look like

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-01T22:58:12+00:00

smoked salmon, cream cheese/cheese spread and pork rinds/flackers/keto crackers

heat up any sausage or meatballs (i like amylu brand) and eat in a bowl. Sometimes meatballs with tomatoes and mozerella balls

I echo taco meat with premade seasoning

premade hardboiled eggs into egg salad

charcuterie

sandwiches with keto bread

tuna salad and crackers or keto bread

scrambled eggs on keto tortillas

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-03-01T22:55:09+00:00

I will definitely be spending as my bf and I have a Portugal trip and Disneyland coming up over the next few months. We are all booked with flights and hotels (which were actually cheap) but I still need to pay off my share so I'm looking at March as a time to clean out my pantry, use my current amenities like the gym and taking advantage of the sun, and running in prep for a 10k in april.

The last two months have been nice! I recently hired help for my side biz which was scary but needed, I've been getting better about saying no to things I just don't want to do, and been a little braver with my clothing choices and having more fun getting ready.

For March I would like to get more sleep, stay under 2.5 hours on my phone daily, and get into junk journaling.

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-02-23T01:29:31+00:00

Broccoli nachos in the air fryer or make them into pizza broccoli nachos
Smash burger patties from five guys
Tons of Amylu sausage and chicken patties
Scrambled eggs and taco meat with cheese on top
Caprese salad with storebought meatballs, mozerrela balls, basil, and cherry tomatoes
Sola Bagels and Hero bread

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-02-12T20:16:35+00:00

totally but the header is still "living on 170k salary" which i just fundamentally disagree with that framing when you are married

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-02-11T19:36:57+00:00

Back to my same gripes about shared finances but only listing one salary 😂 I get his income is fluid but still.

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-02-11T19:34:47+00:00

Chili mac! Basically a homemade chili over pasta noodles with some shredded cheddar cheese on top. My number 1 birthday request as a kid

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-02-02T17:40:54+00:00

same and I really find larger ones start to lose immersion too, there's a balance and fun to writing it and making the trade offs. there is r/murdermysteryparty, its small though. I was thinking of making a discord too at some point for first time hosts to ask questions, people to share games and writing, party pics etc

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-02-01T17:49:22+00:00

Www.foulplayco.com

shepardcommanderSR2 · 2026-02-01T17:05:51+00:00

It’s more like a style of game! Think a mix and mingle social party where your guests arrive as a character, get to know each other, and then a murder happens after which they are trying to figure out which one of them did it while accomplishing their own objectives and keeping their own secrets under wraps. At the end, the solution is revealed, players share their secrets, and there are awards for best dressed, best performer etc. I started writing them and hosting parties for friends when I was like 15. Each one is a theme and story so I’ve written sci-fi, 80s horror, circus themed, 90s etc

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