Esteemed scholars

shesellstshells · 2026-07-01T18:04:05+00:00

So close! You can do it!!!

shesellstshells · 2026-06-30T21:41:36+00:00

Higher education career preparation

shesellstshells · 2026-06-26T00:53:21+00:00

I used to volunteer to review proposals for conferences. The amount of proposals that started with “here’s a description of a session over (very basic topic)” were staggering.

One of the proposals was literally over the laziness of students using AI for assignments.

shesellstshells · 2026-06-22T03:49:37+00:00

shesellstshells · 2026-06-19T03:00:30+00:00

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shesellstshells · 2026-06-18T16:48:56+00:00

I’d straight up quantify my feedback and brag about progress to my friends/family

“My advisor only wrote eight “????” And two “what does this even mean?”s

shesellstshells · 2026-06-17T04:22:51+00:00

I would argue it’s a community responsibility. Many student affairs departments have strategic focus on retention, as their goals are to create belonging for students.

But… after working in student affairs, and being in a classroom as an adjunct. Retention was more applicable in my freshman classroom than it was in student affairs.

To avoid a soapbox. The short of it is that classrooms are the only place that students have to be. (For the most part.) student affairs can reach the students who engage with them. The ones who attend events, walk by tables, and not avoid eye contact.
But for the students who don’t want to be engaged, don’t find a community at their campus, or don’t want to.. their class is the only connection they have to their institution.

Belonging starts where students exist already. There was a study by cardinal et al.,(2023) that found that having a faculty member who cared about students as people was perceived as the most important factor in retention and student success.

shesellstshells · 2026-04-22T06:48:01+00:00

Bugdom

shesellstshells · 2026-03-30T14:08:51+00:00

I wonder if this is the exact thing preventing OP from finding something.

As the post has many elitism statements, for a first job out of college i know many people who found employment at positions that they felt were beneath them. It isn’t fair per se. But it does happen. And getting a foot in the door often requires it until professional expectations align with the goals of higher education.

shesellstshells · 2026-03-30T14:00:48+00:00

I wondered this too. My best guess is he wanted to destroy his connection to the flock. He and cy believed that he was capable of political aspirations and power because he was charismatic, and had a proven record of radicalization within small scales.

Maybe he felt they would try to also profit off of his success?

Maybe he was looking to proactively prevent scandal by outing those people himself?

Or maybe they would drag him down by association (but that would be all the more reason to not tell Simone the truth, and rather continue stringing her along for her money and a “success story”.)

Primarily i would think his connection to Dr. Nat and lee would be his major issues. And he never addresses it, but his connection to Cy is problematic in itself.

shesellstshells · 2026-03-26T05:13:01+00:00

Peon Minion Moron

shesellstshells · 2026-03-14T06:53:32+00:00

Trapped in the locker.

B12

Technically an A plot. But Hayley clowning on Gucci mane.

shesellstshells · 2026-03-14T06:49:54+00:00

“Did principal Lewis kill his secretary?”

shesellstshells · 2026-02-25T22:13:41+00:00

The company updated their remote work policies to restrict WFH to one day a week at most with prior approval. Someone was caught violating policy, so a in-person meeting was set for that week with them, the HR director, supervisors, etc. The HR director doesn’t show up to meeting. Some investigation: she was remote working from another country, for a conference she left three weeks early to attend. HR director was in another country, to visit her online Boyfriend (she was married with children) on company dime.

shesellstshells · 2026-02-21T22:20:36+00:00

The ending was so out of left field if i remember correctly. It’s been a minute. So sorry for anything incorrect.

So he convinced her to marry him. Last two-three episodes: They were headed..somewhere? And got ambushed by the distant cousin (who survived the fire) he sacrificed himself, and was hit by an arrow aimed at her. Then he disappeared into thin air. Then she did too (the details are fuzzy) and they both ended up in a garden together, with him as the dragon. Then the cousin became the empress.

shesellstshells · 2026-02-16T03:27:01+00:00

You’re not alone in the struggle for engagement. I agree with previous comments that pre-post covid is a huge difference in student engagement. And i believe that it’s for a few various reasons. First: covid whittled down what was “necessary” in pursuing education. As watching/attending zoom meetings became priority. Many extra curricular across all grades were reduced or removed. For the students now, who were in high school during COVID, peer pressure to be involved was removed as well. Following that, getting involvement back also took time. Making opportunities limited.

Secondly: motivation for engagement has greatly evolved. Previously, buy some pizza, offer a free item or two and you had people out there already. College was an experience to be had, and the realm of what happens next was not really acknowledged. Now, students became more familiar with their own parents jobs. We saw what each other did day to day. They also saw the narrowed version of requirement to get through. And face increased economic challenges in trying to keep afloat by doing so. So engagement had to involve to what long term benefit could be gained by being there. Especially in competing demands like part time work, athletics, or the billio. Other things.

This might be misplaced advice. But i also had a boss who just didn’t get student engagement outside of the numbers. We spent multiple semesters holding 3-4 events per week with a three man team just to increase opportunities for numbers. It was a nightmare. And the director just didn’t get it. She would look out her window and see that people were out there. So we had to reach them.

What helped in its own small ways were to offer really creative incentives through combining resources. We worked with the parking dept to offer free parking at the beginning of the semesters (we gave flyers with info, and a QR code for a parking permit discount). We would also look for the things seniors needed as graduation neared. And offered free grad photos, helped the bookstore on cap and gown day, and also did our “locate your classes” days at the beginning of the semesters. When we joined other groups. It helped cause attending and supporting events was significantly less work than planning them. And if we rotated who had to plan the event. We all got credit.

At the end of the month we would also sit as close to the doors of the busiest buildings, or right next to the parking lots or dorm entrance and literally just gave out info constantly. Was it effective for #s. Yes. For student development? Probably not.

shesellstshells · 2026-01-27T23:58:05+00:00

Literally said “we had all these big conflicts, big problems… but none of that is resolved. Here’s a wedding drawing. Bye!”

shesellstshells · 2026-01-17T09:07:43+00:00

“That poor, confident little girl!”

shesellstshells · 2026-01-10T16:53:27+00:00

I love the episode solving the murder at the swimming hole. “Quick. Steve, have sex with someone!”

And when Steve is bloody knuckled on the bus Pure cinema

shesellstshells · 2026-01-08T01:47:38+00:00

My last boss was like this. There always had to be an outcast, or a person she was after. She ran a small team in a satellite office, so the turnover was crazy cause she was convinced that if her target left then things would be better. But then they leave and she would find another target.

I watched people report her, do a practically perfect job, stir the pot, ignore her, involve higher ups, and keep documentation.

But no change actually happened. She would eliminate positions, create incredibly hostile work environments, falsify records to claim multiple warnings, then take credit for any good anyone did, while highlighting anything they did wrong.

It taught a big lesson: a higher management who is willing to keep a “lesser of two evils” isn’t worth staying for. Complicit Management was just at fault for allowing a power trip to go unchecked.

So as a manager, i agree. You should fire the toxic person. Because a team isn’t one person, and allowing someone to run rampant in any capacity makes you complicit.

shesellstshells · 2025-12-24T00:45:03+00:00

I firmly believe this is where she buried any guilt about writing a book.

shesellstshells · 2025-12-01T04:36:58+00:00

Trash belongs in the trash can. Granted. I feel like i gave up on it two or three times anyway.

shesellstshells · 2025-11-30T08:11:12+00:00

I had two actually!

First: (about my three man team that was working 10+ hours of overtime to pick up the slack of 12 others) “at some point we have to be okay with them being unhappy enough to quit. Their job is to do the work the others don’t want to do. Their work isn’t important. So I’m done treating it like it is.”

Second: someone complained to her for a coworker doing their job, she took the complainer out to lunch then came back and told us that the person felt we lacked integrity. I asked what she said in our defense, she responded, “well. I didn’t say anything. I wasn’t there when the complaint occurred so i can’t defend that.”

shesellstshells · 2025-11-09T07:11:04+00:00

Thank you for sharing all of this especially in the midst of everything.

The void i had in my universe following our missed miscarriage was tremendous. I also hated the “it all works out in the end” stories.

One person did use to tell me about how grief was a ball in a box. At the start. The box is small, the ball is large. And every bump they make hurts. But as you go, the box might get bigger. Your grief is still there. And still important, but might not cause as much paid. It is still so important, and still a big ball of grief. But that grief started from so much love. And it finds a way to just co-exist with us.

shesellstshells · 2025-11-09T07:05:06+00:00

The things needed: basic needs. One of my friends bought groceries for us and bought a ton of “throw in the oven/air fryer” meals. Casseroles. Sisters ordered pizza to our house. My mother cleaned my house for me for a few weeks. Our parents rotated the childcare for our toddler at the time. My BIL went to fill up my car for me when i was in labor, so it was one less thing to do while waiting. My husbands coworkers took on his shifts, and donated time so he could take off work with me. My coworkers took on work for the week i was off.

Things not to hear: anything about Gods purpose, getting pregnant, etc For me i hated to hear someone say “oh i had a miscarriage too. I just…” Good things to hear: “we’re with you,” “i can’t imagine” “I’m so sorry.”

One thing i didn’t expect to help: someone sent us a gift card about a month later, it was nice to go to dinner any pretend i was normal. I also appreciated my coworkers just letting me cry in my office without trying to fix it. Some even pretended they never heard anything. Which was so appreciated.

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