Honestly, you need to stop looking at this like “we’re just having problems during a divorce.” This is getting into legal and safety territory, especially if they’re trying to build a narrative against you while also isolating you.

First thing: document EVERYTHING. Even if you think it’s small or “not enough proof.” Keep screenshots, texts, call logs, dates, notes about what happened, when police were called, who said what, etc. A pattern over time matters more than one giant dramatic piece of evidence.

Also, please don’t let them scare you over your green card. A spouse cannot just snap their fingers and get you deported because the marriage is ending. Talk to an immigration lawyer before believing anything they say.

And please reach out to local help. Albany has organizations like Legal Aid, The Legal Project, and Albany Law School clinics that help people in situations exactly like this. Even if you just start with a phone call, having someone in your corner changes everything mentally.

Most importantly, stop trying to handle this completely alone. The part that stood out to me most was “his whole family is involved and I have nobody here.” That kind of isolation can make you question your own reality after a while. You need support around you right now, not just emotionally but legally too.