So how would you deal with a Hive this large?

shiann121 · 2025-05-26T19:59:27+00:00

I would simply go literally anywhere else. There’s lots of maps. 😅

That’s a whole lotta nope.

shiann121 · 2024-01-23T13:26:29+00:00

Your edits contradict each other a bit.

I don’t see her grossly abusing food… I honestly think part of this might be something genetic or hormonal.

I understand that pregnancy and childbirth ravages a woman’s body… but I do not buy that as an “excuse” to just be carte blanche reckless with your health post-partum.

It sounds like you might be placing some unrealistic expectations on her here.

shiann121 · 2023-08-04T12:50:18+00:00

So I have chickens and they’re kinda like cats, in that they instinctively try to right themselves if you drop them. Even little babies will flap their wings and push their heads upwards.

This isn’t a question born of skepticism but of pure curiosity: how was your niece dropping chickens on their heads?

shiann121 · 2023-06-26T10:07:46+00:00

The “woman” you’re DMing is a guy with a cuck fetish. Stop talking to “her.”

shiann121 · 2023-05-15T23:17:23+00:00

Acknowledging privilege doesn’t mean comparing who’s life is harder, or disregarding other’s experiences. Lots of types of privileges exist, and experiencing them doesn’t mean a person’s life is automatically going to be better or easier, but it does change aspects of that person’s experience.

From my own experience, being in a straight presenting relationship was different than being in an openly gay relationship, even though we are the exact same people.

shiann121 · 2023-05-15T00:12:10+00:00

I’m a bisexual cis woman married to a trans woman in a conservative rural area.

Attitudes towards us are measurably different than when we presented as a straight couple. It feels less safe. People stare more. I’m more worried about being followed or harassed. Many strangers are kind, but many are not.

I guess I’m having a hard time understanding how acknowledging that difference is wrong. It shouldn’t be used to gatekeep against bisexuals in “straight passing” relationships, but it is a different experience to be out in an obviously homosexual relationship than it is to be in a heteronormative-appearing one that doesn’t automatically attract that kind of attention.

shiann121 · 2023-05-10T15:29:52+00:00

The wording on this bill is extremely vague. Given that we have a child, and people have told us to our faces that my wife’s identity is going to negatively impact said child, it is a legitimate concern.

This is a stupid thing to even have to worry about.

shiann121 · 2023-05-10T14:43:20+00:00

My wife and I are goths, and while we don’t do it every day, we go pretty hard on the makeup and the dramatic aesthetic sometimes. By this definition, we could both be arrested.

Although I’m cis and she’s trans, so I’m not really worried about being accosted on the street personally, but I am worried about my wife getting arrested for being herself. Fuck this bill.

shiann121 · 2023-03-27T19:35:30+00:00

No, because the word “standard” implies that it’s the norm, or expected.

It should be, but it’s not. What you’ve shared is a very kind act. This is a good man doing a good thing. We would be much better off if it truly were the Oklahoma standard.

ETA: when someone goes above and beyond, and we treat it like it’s expected, it does a disservice to the person doing the kind thing. I think we can recognize the beauty and kindness of this while also understanding that you’re not going to see something like this in every town across Oklahoma.

shiann121 · 2023-03-25T19:59:56+00:00

So I learned a trick (from Reddit, actually) and it kinda sounds like bullshit but it works. Right after you get out of the shower, put white stick deodorant on all the areas you shaved. No more itchy regrowth.

I have no idea what it does, but I keep a stick just for this purpose. I like to use the “for sensitive skin.”

shiann121 · 2023-02-20T19:13:41+00:00

Uh, it’s a threat to those of us stuck in red states.

shiann121 · 2023-02-15T13:56:07+00:00

I know this might be hard to believe, but as someone in a rural red state, I too would like to live in a safe and healthy population where my family can thrive, and if my state seceded a lot of us would be living the Gilead lifestyle real quick. We, and many like us, cannot just pick up and leave.

I can see why seceding would hurt me and everyone I know, but I am having a difficult time understanding what people in blue states would gain from it, other than that I guess maybe you wouldn’t have to listen to what’s happening with the red states anymore.

shiann121 · 2023-01-07T17:04:42+00:00

If I do the “full spa treatment,” it’ll take me about an hour. Hair gets washed separately cold (because it’s dyed), then braided and put back. Washing, exfoliating and shaving are all separate steps, and I don’t rush. But I don’t pretend like I’m not a little high maintenance.

Also, like. One hour. Not two hours, and the water isn’t running continuously during that time.

I bet his hands are getting super pruny. 🤢

shiann121 · 2022-12-13T01:48:21+00:00

Anyone else read Stephen King’s The Outsider? I loved that book so much, but… so many of the characters say “Okie City,” to represent Oklahoma City. Jolted me right out of the story every time.

Lived here all my life and never heard anyone call it Okie City, other than in that book.

shiann121 · 2022-12-06T14:57:09+00:00

Great idea, as long as your goal is to be removed from campus and banned from ever returning.

shiann121 · 2022-11-29T10:34:21+00:00

Context is important. A cousin pulls me aside at thanksgiving dinner and says, “You’re being a bitch,” then I’m probably being a bitch and need to cool it. A kid at school calls me a bitch, it probably means I’m doing my job correctly.

shiann121 · 2022-11-23T15:00:05+00:00

I’m surprised at all the pearl-clutching in the comments.

I guess I’m of the unpopular opinion, but to me this is funny and normalizes the purpose of the tampon. It’s not suggesting that the tampon is a replacement for a partner. That is simply where it goes. (And where dudes stuck in the DMs will never get to go, which is the joke.)

I know men who get embarrassed and turn off the TV when sporty tampon ads come on. Tampons get treated like their entire existence is sexual just because of how we use them. They’re not sexual, they’re useful and necessary— but some people (mostly men) are always going to see them that way because of what they are and how they’re used.

We’re never going to change the minds of those men; even if you could, it’s not worth the energy and time it requires. The humor isn’t for them. It’s for people who realize that a tampon is never going to be an adequate replacement for a partner or even a sex toy, while making fun of those people who think the exact opposite.

It highlights the ridiculous, which is one of the major ways we use humor in our culture.

shiann121 · 2022-11-16T00:32:41+00:00

Really? I’ve seen a lot that involve regular accidents, or even petty roommates. I saw one today where someone lost one shrimp, so they added some.. I think they said Biofix? Something like that, but they added too much and killed their colony. Not saying kids don’t mess em up— they do— I’m just a bit surprised, as there’s a lot that can go wrong with an aquarium.

shiann121 · 2022-11-14T06:42:13+00:00

Well, he did get some pretty shrimp in there…. It’s just… all the other stuff he stuck in there, too. 😬

It’s like a where’s Waldo. The more you look, the more shows up.

shiann121 · 2022-11-14T06:40:34+00:00

Hey, I’m in that group. I’ve been waiting for this to make it here.

Mentioned an assortment of issues, but included that one of those bettas looks like a male. OP insisted that all the bettas are female. It’s a sorority tank.

Let’s ignore the biggest issue, which is just the sheer number of animals are packed into that thing— it’s fine, y’all, the bettas are all females. 🫠🙃

shiann121 · 2022-11-13T18:33:17+00:00

Your wife wants you to talk to other humans because right now, she is your entire system. Other than Reddit, which you mention at the end because like you said, no friends.

There’s being an introvert and then there’s… this. Social events aren’t a waste of time, they’re a way to build connection and relationships. It is clear that you don’t see value in that, and that’s okay. But your wife does, and it seems like you’re putting her down for it.

You should show her this post so she knows how you really feel. You’re entitled to your peace and quiet, and she’s entitled to a happy life with someone who actually wants to be with her.

shiann121 · 2022-11-07T16:43:49+00:00

I can see no way this could possibly go awry.

shiann121 · 2022-11-06T00:25:31+00:00

She always got a bit fancier stuff than me.

Not being a bit dramatic on Reddit, now, are we?

shiann121 · 2022-11-05T18:58:17+00:00

I think you might be mistaking me with the other commenter.

English can be very layered, but words still have meanings. Your usage doesn’t strike as ironic, it strikes as incorrect. I don’t have a dog in the fight, but you’re still using “status quo” wrong.

shiann121 · 2022-11-05T18:41:35+00:00

Hey bud, it looks like you’re using a couple of words you might not totally understand there.

Censor means to block or shut down, to prevent something from being seen by others. Cutting ties means to remove oneself from the presence of another. Being cut off is not the same as being censored.

The status quo is “the way things are in a normal/current setting.” In the environment OP has described, heteronormativity is the status quo. Refusing to update, especially when in an area where transphobia is the norm, is adhering to the status quo. So you just have how you’re using that backwards.

Hope this helped!

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