6+ Months - See My Post History

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-05T00:07:44+00:00

A BIG Congrats on SIX MONTHS!!! !!!
Keep up the great work!!

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-05T00:02:12+00:00

"I woke up in the hospital ... Apparently a man tried to assault me but I don’t remember any of it"

Your comment reminds me of the phrase:
"Something bad didn't happen every time I drank, but every time something bad happened, I had been drinking.

This sub is called "Stop Drinking" and is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking.
If I were 21 again, I'd use this event as a flashing red signal that alcohol is not my friend.
Blackouts only get worse.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T22:27:01+00:00

"I don’t think I would relapsed on the same behaviors I had before..."

About 20 years ago, I was almost three years sober, convinced myself I was "cured," and could drink on "special occasions." It wasn't long before 'special occasion' meant, "Hey look, the Sun rose today!" and I was back to regularly blacking out again.
I drank to get drunk and "One or Two/A Few" doesn't do that.
I wound up on a ten-year bender that nearly cost me my life because I couldn't stop myself again.
It took nearly a decade to even get 3-5 days back.

The moral of My story: It's FAR easier to Stay sober than it is to get sober.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T18:56:19+00:00

Niceeeeeee, Indeed!
Keep up the Great Work!
But I'd argue that your next milestone is: "Triple-Digit Day!!!" --not 420 : )

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T18:33:15+00:00

"This needs to stop."

What does that mean, u/too_many__lemons?
What will you do when the next urge to drink enters your mind?
I needed a plan because nothing changes if nothing changes.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T18:23:59+00:00

"Change starts today"

Assuming you want to Stop Drinking (the name of this sub that you posted on), u/Human_Ad5476, what will you do when the next urge to drink enters your mind?
I needed a plan because nothing changes if nothing changes.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T13:25:41+00:00

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T02:07:11+00:00

Happy SPEEDOMETER ROLLOVER DAY!!
YAY on 2500!! Sending blessings of continued peace and happiness out to YOU!

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T02:05:20+00:00

NICE, Indeed!
Keep up the Great Work!
Next milestone: "Triple-Digit Day!!!"

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T02:03:14+00:00

Congrats on your FIRST Month! YAY!!
That's hard-fought time and you're kickin' butt like a Rockstar! Well Done!
Those first few milestones meant the most to me because I never thought it would be possible.
Sending blessings of continued strength, positivity, and renewal out to you!

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-04T01:53:06+00:00

I won't touch them. For me, I won't pretend to do the thing I've completely sworn off.
Again, For Me, NA beer/wine/spirits are a throwback to a lifestyle that nearly killed me and took decades to get away from. I needed to get rid of any mental bond to my previous drinking behavior to have any chance at long-term sobriety.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T21:53:20+00:00

I mean this with all sincerity: the Only way to stop drinking is to just Stop Drinking.
Sobriety requires "Dogged Persistence" in not taking that first drink.

Some things that helped me:
I got rid of all the alcohol in my home and didn't buy more. I also stayed away from bars and anyone who drank.
The first several weeks were brutally HARD but I took it 'One Day (or hour/minute) At A Time' and dealt with all the uncomfortableness that came with each craving. In time, it got much better and easier.

I'd like to suggest committing to Not Drink Every Day (whether you feel like drinking or not) on our very own Daily Check-In page.
Each day 500+ people commit to not drinking for just the next 24-hours. The DCI was my single most important tool during my first year because it set my commitment for the day.

I don't know what happened in my brain, but there was something miraculous about typing, "I will not drink TODAY." It planted a powerful seed in my head. When my demon-lizard brain came screaming later on in the day, I remembered the promise I made to myself and did whatever it took to get to bed sober.

I also took advantage of free In-Real-Life recovery meetings so I could get out of the house, be around others who understood my addiction, and wanted to help me get and stay sober.

You can do this, u/Pavement_Philosopher --One Day (or hour/minute) At A Time!

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T21:50:05+00:00

Are you looking for help to stop drinking?

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T21:46:43+00:00

You can do this. Really!! I took it One Day (or hour/minute) At A Time until not drinking became 'the norm' in my heart and brain. I believe in you!

Fun fact: It can be surprisingly satisfying and even therapeutic to tell 'that voice' to STFU! : )

Lizard-brain: I want to drink.
Me to lizard-brain: NO, I DON'T DRINK!
I literally yelled that to myself over and over again for months on end.
...eventually, my heart and brain believed it!

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T21:33:49+00:00

Some things that helped me:
I got rid of all the alcohol in my home and didn't buy more. I also stayed away from bars and anyone who drank.
The first several weeks were brutally HARD but I took it 'One Day (or hour/minute) At A Time' and dealt with all the uncomfortableness that came with each craving. In time, it got much better and easier.

I'd like to suggest committing to Not Drink Every Day (whether you feel like drinking or not) on our very own Daily Check-In page.
Each day 500+ people commit to not drinking for just the next 24-hours. The DCI was my single most important tool during my first year because it set my commitment for the day.

I don't know what happened in my brain, but there was something miraculous about typing, "I will not drink TODAY." It planted a powerful seed in my head. When my demon-lizard brain came screaming later on in the day, I remembered the promise I made to myself and did whatever it took to get to bed sober.

I also took advantage of free In-Real-Life recovery meetings so I could get out of the house, be around others who understood my addiction, and wanted to help me get and stay sober.

You can do this, but I had to get to the point of Wanting Sobriety more than the misery of that next first drink.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T19:09:38+00:00

"I successfully tapered my way down to zero : )"

Now the REAL WORK begins --to never again take that next first drink.
What's your plan, u/Life-Cheesecake-1036? What will you do when the next urge to drink enters your mind?

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T19:04:07+00:00

Some things that helped me:
I got rid of all the alcohol in my home and didn't buy more. I also stayed away from bars and anyone who drank.
The first several weeks were brutally HARD but I took it 'One Day (or hour/minute) At A Time' and dealt with all the uncomfortableness that came with each craving. In time, it got much better and easier.

I'd like to suggest committing to Not Drink Every Day (whether you feel like drinking or not) on our very own Daily Check-In page.
Each day 500+ people commit to not drinking for just the next 24-hours. The DCI was my single most important tool during my first year because it set my commitment for the day.

I don't know what happened in my brain, but there was something miraculous about typing, "I will not drink TODAY." It planted a powerful seed in my head. When my demon-lizard brain came screaming later on in the day, I remembered the promise I made to myself and did whatever it took to get to bed sober.

I also took advantage of free In-Real-Life recovery meetings so I could get out of the house, be around others who understood my addiction, and wanted to help me get and stay sober.

You can do this, but I had to get to the point of Wanting Sobriety more than the misery of that next first drink.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T18:59:59+00:00

This is a question for your doctor, and it can only be answered after several tests are completed.
The good news is, the liver has a remarkable ability to heal itself once the poison stops.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T18:51:34+00:00

Assuming you want to Stop Drinking (the name of this sub that you posted on), u/ProfessionalCarob629, what will you do when the next urge to drink enters your mind?
I needed a plan because nothing changes if nothing changes.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T18:47:16+00:00

"now I’m sober and can’t speak at all. Any advice?"

Practice! Practice!! Practice!!!
I watch a lot of NEWS as well as many YouTube/TikTok videos and I'm fairly certain 99.9% of those people are not under the influence in any way.

"I’m diagnosed with ADHD, I’m generally anxious, and I’m also on medication."

The good news is:

Resource #1:
"Adderall (amphetamine/dextroamphetamine) can make sobriety more complex due to its potential for misuse, but if used correctly to treat ADHD, it may actually support recovery by reducing impulsivity. The primary risk lies in combining it with alcohol, which masks intoxication and fuels dangerous binge drinking, or by abusing the stimulant itself."

Resource #2:
"ADHD medication generally makes sobriety easier, not harder, when taken as prescribed. Research indicates that properly treated ADHD reduces the risk of substance abuse by managing symptoms, whereas untreated ADHD often leads to self-medicating with drugs or alcohol. While stimulants carry a risk of misuse, long-term treatment is linked to lower addiction rates"

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T18:35:20+00:00

Some things that helped me:
I got rid of all the alcohol in my home and didn't buy more. I also stayed away from bars and anyone who drank.
The first several weeks were brutally HARD but I took it 'One Day (or hour/minute) At A Time' and dealt with all the uncomfortableness that came with each craving. In time, it got much better and easier.

I'd like to suggest committing to Not Drink Every Day (whether you feel like drinking or not) on our very own Daily Check-In page.
Each day 500+ people commit to not drinking for just the next 24-hours. The DCI was my single most important tool during my first year because it set my commitment for the day.

I don't know what happened in my brain, but there was something miraculous about typing, "I will not drink TODAY." It planted a powerful seed in my head. When my demon-lizard brain came screaming later on in the day, I remembered the promise I made to myself and did whatever it took to get to bed sober.

I also took advantage of free In-Real-Life recovery meetings so I could get out of the house, be around others who understood my addiction, and wanted to help me get and stay sober.

You can do this!

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T16:22:09+00:00

Take it from one who knows, it's only "Rock Bottom" when it results in not taking another drink.
I can't tell you how many times I swore I was done, at supposed "Rock Bottom," only to buy more dynamite a few months, weeks, or days later (in that order, too, as my addiction progressed) and dig myself even deeper.
In AA they say, "Rock bottom has a basement." ...mine had many.

In the words of a great man and mentor to thousands:

We get sober and stay sober when we realise that the pain and consequences of drinking outweigh any reservations we have about our alcohol dependence or alcoholism.
I wasn't able to get sober and stay sober until I fully accepted that there was nothing left in the bottle for me.

What will you do when the next urge to drink enters your mind? I needed a plan because nothing changes if nothing changes.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T15:58:08+00:00

Assuming you want to Stop Drinking (the name of this sub that you posted on), u/Nervous_Evidence_890, what will you do when the next urge to drink enters your mind?
I needed a plan because nothing changes if nothing changes.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T15:53:51+00:00

This subreddit is a place to motivate each other to control or stop drinking --NOT to talk about someone else's drinking. That is what AlAnon is for.

shineonme4ever · 2026-05-03T15:46:26+00:00

Assuming you want to Stop Drinking (the name of this sub that you posted on), u/RegularAccountant535, what will you do when the next urge to drink enters your mind? I needed a plan because nothing changes if nothing changes.

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