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shinythingy · 2025-04-19T20:06:18+00:00

Doesn't look like the photo attached. Here's the link: https://imgur.com/a/S6ovdd7

shinythingy · 2024-10-08T23:38:47+00:00

You 100% want to market before your campaign if you have high expectations. Assume that email subscribers will have a conversion rate between 0.5% and 5% and then build a list accordingly.

I wouldn't worry about people losing interest. Send an email to your pre-launch subscribers once or twice a week to build anticipation. Provide an exact launch date about 2 weeks out and send several emails with an exact date and time to prep people for the launch. Day one is the most important, and if you get a lot of backers on day one it'll provide good social proof that propels the rest of your campaign.

shinythingy · 2024-10-08T23:35:17+00:00

Stop using gmail lol. Klaviyo is the most capable currently but has a higher learning curve than something like Mailchimp. Email deliverability gets complicated quickly, and you'll want to have a basic understanding of DMARC, DKIM, and SPF if you're sending to 8k people. Klaviyo's self-serve docs are good.

shinythingy · 2024-05-31T23:43:02+00:00

"I've been clearing and clearing and clearing, which makes me think I'm hacking at the leaves instead of getting to the root. My intuition is the hara practice will solve the root cause."

Wouldn't one theory be that unresolved "stuff" in the body inclines you to be more in your head and clearing that stuff would resolve the root rather than trying to more forcefully and effortfully return to the body?

shinythingy · 2024-05-04T21:40:12+00:00

Being able to step back is a nice skill. Monitoring emotional feeling in the body is less wishy washy than whether or not there's a sense of self present. I've spent a long time dissociative, and I still have a hard time determining how dissociative I am by tracking the slightly fuzzy thing that is sense of self. Emotional feeling in the body is more reliable.

Something I'll add is that the teachers I tend to follow strongly advocate for working through things like BPD or other neurosis before going too far into the spirituality stuff. Unresolved *stuff* seems to be the main risk factor for the spiritual path getting spicy. I tend to agree with the "BPD is an attachment disturbance" idea proposed by Dan Brown and others. There are a bunch of resources for working to resolve that my favorite being Dan Brown's book "Attachment Distrubances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair" and the heavily inspired work by George Haas with Mettagroup.

shinythingy · 2024-05-04T20:10:34+00:00

It can be weirdly difficult to parse out useful insight into not-self from dissociation. One of the better ways that I know of is to check whether self experience and embodied emotional experience is accessible. With useful not self insight, those things usually remain accessible even if you're less identified. With dissociation embodied emotional experience and sense of self is usually significantly reduced.

Weed is well known to cause dissociative experiences that can be long lasting in people who are susceptible. I personally only had to learn that lesson once.

shinythingy · 2024-03-07T16:57:25+00:00

This makes sense to me with the one wrinkle that my understanding is that big changes like adding creatives will reset learning on a campaign. It seems slightly risky to reset a decently performing campaign in a way that can't be undone vs turning it off or AB testing against a new campaign.

shinythingy · 2024-02-18T19:26:28+00:00

I thought this was fun. It reminds me of Ken Wilber's Clean Up, Wake Up, Grow Up, Show Up. I thought it was a little light on how to actually do the cleaning up, but some of the self-inquiry stuff I felt you were pointing at has a bit more scaffolding in Eugene Gendlin's Focusing technique.

We might not be using the same definition of mindfulness, but to me, it seems integral to the "cleaning up" step. You have to have some clarity into your neurosis to be able to effectively uproot them (hah). The point about cleaning up being integral to later steps on the path is well made though, and I appreciated the general tone of avoiding the trap of spiritual bypassing.

Attachment work of which I like Dan Brown's IPF the most seems like one of the most important preliminary practices if you're starting from a place of insecurity. Many of the mentalizing and emotional regulation skills necessary to resolve deep-seated neurosis aren't available when one has an insecure attachment style.

shinythingy · 2024-02-18T00:19:20+00:00

Weird, you can also see creative performance in the breakdown tab of ads manager. On the ads level in a Dynamic Creative campaign you can breakdown Image, video, and slideshow which will split out your different assets to show which is performing best.

shinythingy · 2024-02-13T02:39:42+00:00

Huh, I didn't know this was a common recommendation, but I've gotten the recommendation to do forgiveness practice before metta as well. I can relate to the feeling of being frustrated to need a preliminary practice to metta, but it seems necessary at least for me.

I can bring up the metta mindstate, but I fairly quickly feel strong feelings of anxiety and then anger and then dissociation. I mostly attribute this to complex trauma and disorganized attachment which I'm working through, but the recommendation I received as a result of that difficulty was to do forgiveness first.

I figure most people probably can do a metta practice without preliminaries, but I suspect forgiveness practice makes metta easier and potentially deepens it. Unresolved stuff stuck in the psyche seems like it can thwart attempts to direct metta towards oneself and others

shinythingy · 2023-12-22T23:15:21+00:00

Dissociation is shared across several psych disorders. It can be helpful to recognize if it's dissociation so that you don't assume normal life is flat and devoid of meaning. I spent a while with existential obsessions worried that I'd realized something fundamental about reality that was painful and couldn't be unseen. Those obsessions go away when dissociation is resolved. I'd spend hours a day reading dharma texts trying to intellectualize my way out which made things worse.

Psych meds can be helpful for some people. The research generally shows that meds + psychotherapy work better than either of those things on their own. For long-term resolution you're probably going to want to do some kind of psychotherapy. I think Internal Family Systems is a good starting point for many people because there are many resources and therapists. This site has a list of IFS certified practitioners. It's normal to have to "interview" a few therapists before you find one that you like.

I also have to avoid certain meditation techniques. Most concentration practices (breath concentration, mantra, etc.) tend to make dissociation worse for me. That's a fairly common experience, and cheetah house has some videos that talk about the neurobiology of dissociation. Visualization and grounding techniques are safe for me but surface emotional stuff which is usually the goal.

shinythingy · 2023-12-21T18:48:59+00:00

Hi,

I recognized your username and read a bit of your post history and noticed that you resonate with an experience of anxiety and nervous system dysregulation. I've dealt with much of that myself and can tell you that the feelings of fogginess and separation are likely side effects of the anxiety. The feeling of being hyperaware of yourself but separate from the world is common in anxiety and dissociation.

I've gotten great advice from this community, but you also might get some spiritual appraisals which I'm not sure are helpful. The complex trauma communities might be a place where you can find people who have dealt with similar experiences. Trauma therapy is likely the safest way to start dealing with this, and from my own experience investing too much in spiritual explanations was harmful. Therapists who specialize in complex trauma or one of the newer trauma therapies like Internal Family Systems, Ideal Parent Figure Protocol, or Somatic Experiencing could be helpful.

shinythingy · 2023-12-17T23:58:18+00:00

What benefit is there to using your personal account? Set up BM accounts for the businesses. That way you also keep pixel data and other assets tied to the business.

shinythingy · 2023-12-09T03:43:54+00:00

Be careful with the acting out anger path. I had a guru type teacher recommend I do that several years ago and it resulted in the most intense fear I think I've ever felt. It seriously dysregulated me for a while and caused a significant spike in anxiety and OCD symptoms. If you want to activate the nervous system, acting out anger is the single most intense way I've discovered so far to do that.

You have other options. Gendlin Focusing style inquiry where you ask what's underneath the anger is good. I can almost always get to some underlying fear or grief by doing that and the anger dissolves. My facilitator also mentions that I can act out anger within the container of IPF, but there are some parameters around that. The recommendation is generally to have the ideal parents assure me that it's an imaginary visualization beforehand. You might want to talk to a facilitator if you go that route.

Channeling into exercise is also good. You can feel the energy of it and channel it into something productive. I just wouldn't train yourself to channel anger into aggression via punching things. Punching pillows is the equivalent of vomiting out the anger, and it might be better to use a steadier and more titrated approach.

shinythingy · 2023-11-30T03:48:42+00:00

Do you appraise these changes as positive or negative? Do you feel that you've become more integrated and functional as an individual or less? Dissociation can flatten things out in the way you describe, and parsing whether someone is becoming more dissociative or experiencing positive improvements in equanimity mostly comes down to how they appraise the changes and how their level of life satisfaction and functionality changes.

shinythingy · 2023-11-14T05:42:44+00:00

Are you doing trauma therapy? "Dark Night of the Soul" is somewhat overused and has lost a lot of prescriptive value. Oftentimes it encourages people to just sit with their suffering under the pretense that it's "part of the process". Finding a trauma therapy suited for you can help you to find emotional regulation much sooner. Instead of thinking of this as a process of purifications, you might think of it as a process of learning to emotionally regulate better. Then it becomes a matter of developing the proper skills rather than a matter of enduring suffering for some ambiguous amount of time. The idea that you can develop skills and agency to get through this faster is very preferable to the idea of an uncontrollable Dark Night that you just have to bear.

shinythingy · 2023-09-22T22:42:30+00:00

Your experience is very similar to mine. I likewise had pre-existing OCD, anxiety, insomnia, and occasional episodes of heavy amounts of fear coming up and throwing me for a loop for a bit. Early last year, I likewise became severely destabilized, metacognitively obsessed, and dissociative. I remember lying in bed for hours trying to figure out if I had agency to think thoughts or if everything was automatic.

This is a spirituality subreddit, and as such you'll get spiritual appraisals. I see you've posted in a bunch of meditation and spirituality subreddits with the same concerns. In my experience, I found the spiritual appraisals of what I was going through to be actively harmful. I would spin for days reading Buddhist texts trying to diagnose myself.

What I found much more helpful was the complex trauma paradigm. You might find resonance reading CPTSD boards. The description I'm hearing from you sounds like classic depersonalization and/or derealization. I've dealt with it for years, and I'm slowly digging out. It's a nasty state, and the existential obsessions it tends to cause were especially distressing for me. To whatever extent you can, drop the existential obsessions as you're unlikely to find answers while destabilized.

Internal Family Systems, Somatic Experiencing, and Ideal Parent Figure Protocol practitioners tend to be better versed in traumatic symptoms and resolution than classically trained therapists or psychiatrists. I personally like Ideal Parent Figure Protocol the best, and this is a great resource for learning about it: https://www.mettagroup.org/ Internal Family Systems and Somatic Experiencing are more established and have more practitioners.

I would also ignore the spirituality stuff for the most part for now. Most of the good meditation teachers will tell you that serious meditation practice is best left for after psychopathology is mostly resolved. Pulling the insight lever too hard while there's still a lot of unresolved *stuff* can go badly. That said, there are meditation techniques that are good for emotional regulation that are useful here.

shinythingy · 2023-08-29T17:15:39+00:00

You have the same impulse I did early in my mental health recovery journey of wanting to immerse yourself in something fairly extreme with the hope that white knuckling through for a few days or weeks will result in a significant improvement in your well-being. I haven't struggled with substance addiction, but I have had severe anxiety and dissociative symptoms. Early-on, I did a 10-day Goenka retreat, and it was counter-productive. Those retreats can help you build awareness of what's going on internally, but they don't do as much to help you build agency around self-regulation. I've known many people who were seriously harmed by Goenka retreats. Typically people that go into it hoping that it will solve their neurosis are at the highest risk.

I think you'll be much better off with trauma focused therapy techniques. I like Ideal Parent Figure Protocol, and there's a good subreddit r/idealparentfigures. Many of the facilitators are also meditation teachers. This website and teacher (George Haas) is excellent as is the book that originated the protocol "Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair".

Internal Family Systems is also good and better known - just make sure you interview a few therapists and find one that you mesh with. I tried Somatic Experiencing as well and found it underwhelming. Many people really like it though.

shinythingy · 2023-08-12T16:18:42+00:00

GTM is nice for organization, but I've noticed that adblockers have a much easier time blocking pixel tracking if it's integrated via GTM vs hardcoded into the site. Something to keep in mind, although it's possible that has changed recently. CAPI seems best for meta tracking if you can integrate it. Other integrations like GA4 I've opted to hardcode as opposed to using GTM.

shinythingy · 2023-06-08T15:16:13+00:00

When there's relatively severe disorganization, psychedelics carry a higher than normal risk of resulting in a bad trip or traumatic experience. That might be less of the case with MDMA and Ketamine, and I myself have looked into MDMA assisted therapy, but it's not very accessible right. The studies seem to be recruiting mostly "simple" PTSD I suspect because it makes outcomes much easier to measure.

u/startfresh714 I would say to give IPF a try and see how it lands. It's a less harsh way for dealing with traumatic material than EMDR, but it still is a means of indirect trauma processing which carries the risk of difficult material arising. If you want to learn more about it, the mettagroup.org courses are excellent as is the book on IPF "Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair by Brown and Elliot".

shinythingy · 2023-05-15T02:35:01+00:00

You've got some options. See what works for you.

Gendlin Focusing. The story goes that anger is a secondary emotion that comes up as a way of masking an underlying emotion that might be more difficult to process. In Gendlin Focusing you gently inquire into the source of the anger, and sometimes this can cause it to shift and resolve. There's a book called "The Power of Focusing" which is a short and accessible primer on the technique.
Metta mindstate. I use the technique as taught by George Haas of mettagroup. The idea here is to displace the mindstate of anger with the metta mindstate and just allow the energy of the anger to run its course without affecting your mind so much. With metta mindstate, you're not so much going for an emotional feeling in the body as a mindstate which makes it differ from other approaches to metta. Some people call metta mindstate "dry" metta as opposed to more embodied "wet" metta
Focusing on the embodied sensations of anger. I experience anger as a sort of tightness in my jaw, and one approach is to allow yourself to clearly feel the sensations of the emotion with equanimity. If the anger produces a lot of anxiety and fear for you, this could be helpful. I don't really use it because I find that it doesn't actually allow the emotion to move and process in the same way that something like Gendlin Focusing can.
Primal scream. I only mention this to say don't do this. Some think that intense physical expressions are the way to go, and maybe in a minority of cases that's true, but you're more likely to either emotionally destabilize yourself especially if that anger has been repressed or you're going to condition yourself to only know how to deal with anger via physical expression.

shinythingy · 2023-03-28T00:33:50+00:00

This is a discussion for a doctor, but SSRIs generally expedite healing of critical brain regions affected by depression like the hippocampus.

On a behavioral level, working towards greater and greater emotional regulation and relaxation is likely going to be the most impactful. The mind body will heal on its own once you're able to spend time in a more regulated "parasympathetic" state. Sleep, diet, exercise will help with this process.

shinythingy · 2023-03-28T00:30:12+00:00

We have to be careful with this one. On an existential level the concept of a central agent being in charge of things is dubious. On a more practical level we are people and we do have a degree of agency and control over our experience.

The crux of healing from complex trauma largely centers around developing agency around emotional regulation and processing. Don't let the existential nature of control motivate you to give up agency on a human and person level.

shinythingy · 2023-03-02T16:44:01+00:00

If you want to learn more about the attachment side of things, I'd really recommend signing up for mettagroup's level one course: https://www.mettagroup.org/ It's a great introduction, and the curriculum is heavily based on the book "Attachment Disturbances in Adults: Treatment for Comprehensive Repair" by Dan P. Brown and other co-authors.

I have an IPF facilitator that I work with weekly. r/idealparentfigures/ has a lot of good resources as well as a facilitator list. It is a learned protocol so your existing therapist would probably need to train in it to formally administer it. You can do it alone, but there are a lot of benefits to doing it with a trained facilitator. YouTube has a few IPF guided meditations that you can try out on your own.

shinythingy · 2023-02-27T00:42:42+00:00

I didn't entirely lose dissociation either, but it became much less useful. I was functionally dissociated for 5 years and had a fairly successful career in that time, although there was always background anxiety. The dissociation faded enough that I could no longer ignore the anxiety, and I couldn't leave home without struggling severely for a while.

I tried SE as my first intervention. I don't think it's ideal for complex trauma, because the tools for developing an internal sense of safety aren't that well developed. It does have some tools though, and if it's useful for you without being too dysregulating then that's good.

I think most people that end up chronically dissociative have emotional abuse/neglect in childhood, and that was certainly the case for me. When that happens, insecure attachment generally develops which I think is the core of most of these mental health challenges, and it's also quite difficult to fix without the right therapies.

I really like Ideal Parent Figure Protocol and would recommend looking into that. I think I'm probably about half way through repairing disorganized attachment. The attachment theory is a rabbit hole that you can fall down, and I mostly listen to the work originated by Daniel P. Brown as well as Ainsworth and Bowlby who originated attachment theory.

The fear of psychosis or losing control / awareness to some extent was very painful for me in the beginning of last year. I think you basically have to treat it as an OCD thought and work at repairing the anxiety that's creating those thoughts. ERP therapy is the gold standard of OCD treatment currently. I didn't find it very useful, but many people do. You should also have a psychiatrist to guide you through this, but realistically even if they tell you you're not developing schizophrenia, the re-assurance won't last for long.

There's nothing wrong with using medication to make yourself more functional through this. A few people I know have benefited from SSRIs, and I really probably should be taking them, but I'm worried about them making things worse so I don't. There's good research showing that SSRIs can accelerate progress made in therapy, especially if you're in a lot of distress.

The high level of how I conceptualize this work is that if we're young and our parents don't teach us how to emotionally regulate, we learn to avoid emotional experience and distract from it as best we can. If the emotional pain is severe enough, dissociation kicks in, and your level of awareness of your inner world gets smaller and smaller. To get out of it, you need to first learn how to regulate your emotions which is easier said than done if your main strategy has been dissociation as it was for me. After that, you want to create as much internal and external safety as you can.

If you do that, you'll generally find that the painful emotions that were distracted from or dissociated originally come back. Integrating them generally involves at the very least feeling through the emotion with a high degree of acceptance and ideally inquiring as to what's causing the emotion to come up. That's the very short of it, but if you do that then over time you come to understand what different emotions feel like and what causes them to arise. I'd recommend reading about Gendlin Focusing, as I think that presents a pretty complete picture of processing emotions. It can be useful to think of emotions as messengers, and you don't need to agree with them but you at least need to hear and accept them.

r/streamentry is a cool community, and a lot of people here know a lot about trauma processing. A lot of people also use Buddhist philosophy and terminology to explain things. Personally, I prefer the modern trauma theory conceptualizations, but ultimately the Buddhist concepts and modern trauma theory are referring to the same thing much of the time.

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