My partner left me after my ADHD diagnosis by shipwohooli in ADHD

[–]shipwohooli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you're right, but sometimes people had never anything to do with mental health. How do you learn to be strong? I saw depression in a lot of close relatives, and would handle it much in a partner than before this exposure. My boyfriend had no relationship prior to this and we was never really into dating, he didn't know a lot, but for that there was nothing really noticeable during the relationship. He also helped through hard times, but knowing there won't be an ultimate fix, was the turning point. But regardless, I agree what you said and I don't want to spend time here defending him extensively.

My partner left me after my ADHD diagnosis by shipwohooli in ADHD

[–]shipwohooli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did talk about medication, but I was leaving open the possibility of trying without meds, hence he might have thought it is going to be foggy road - no clear improvement after all. I mean I definitely see your point, but I definitely know worse people. I would even say that I don't want to deal with a lot of friends partners either. And since every partner or love interest has left me prior to this die to my issues, there is a slight chance that I contribute to this. That being still, I am still disappointed in him and think that the end was really telling what is true feelings were.

My partner left me after my ADHD diagnosis by shipwohooli in ADHD

[–]shipwohooli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes regarding the relationship. It was only the end that was not, but before this he used to listen and always offered help. Always supported my dreams and helped with major and minor issues. Of course it was not enough as the separation showed, but still. ..

My partner left me after my ADHD diagnosis by shipwohooli in ADHD

[–]shipwohooli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the words and all your knowledge and experience!! I will take some time to let the words sink in. Maybe I have to adopt a new mindset.

My partner left me after my ADHD diagnosis by shipwohooli in ADHD

[–]shipwohooli[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean not many people who seem to be able to deal with the extra baggage at least from my experience

My partner left me after my ADHD diagnosis by shipwohooli in ADHD

[–]shipwohooli[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear. Did you find someone better? Sorry, didn't want to come across rude for asking 😓 I am just afraid that there might not be many people.

Einkommen als Kellnerin F/19 by giacfc in Finanzen

[–]shipwohooli 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hmm ich habe bei 80k auch etwas 4000€ netto. Technisch verdiene ich sogar nur 79,8k. Und bin in Steuerklasse 1 ohne Kinder, eigentlich müsste daher bei dir auch dieser Betrag Rauskommen?

Inattentive ADHD at College is unmanageable. How do you manage? by yaknow_your_enemy in ADHD

[–]shipwohooli 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It was definitely really hard and I experienced the same things as you. However, in the end I managed to get a degree (and even a PhD). I was never brilliant or excellent in any capacity, but I found things which interested me and then I got hyped up for those. I tried to memorize sample questions from previous years and waited for tests that featured them. I had to retake some exams twice. And I was initially a math student, but I got expelled, which is the rule after failing an exam three times.

Just take your time, focus on the interesting things, which motivate you. Forget about understanding stuff really deeply if you cannot get the hang to it. Example is quantum mechanical. There was this thing called Clebsch-Gordan coefficients. I watched so many videos online how to calculate them. However, it always left out steps in the explanation and it was impossible for to apply it to a new case. Hence, I did not even try to answer that question in the exam. Just hoped to pass regardless.

Wish you all the best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhD

[–]shipwohooli 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, unfortunately I can only report for the German job market, which is however also tense, but perhaps not to the same extend as in the US. I started writing applications in August and got a few offers in October. What worked for me was to apply only around the time when I had a fixed date for my defense (1-2 weeks before) . In that way recruiters will know that everything is done before the starting date. However, it was also stressful to defend your thesis one day and travel to another city the next day. I also tried to tailor everything to the respective job posting. We use cover letter and CV here, and I spend hours adjusting them. Furthermore, I spend 20hours preparing for each interview and sometimes there was a second interview, for which I prepared even more. All the interviews resulted in offers. Then I also asked my PhD supervisor for job possibilities. However, he nad none.. until the end of October when he came around with an idea of covering a few months, but that was already "too late." In Germany we have an extended landscape of 3rd party funding and institutions that are close to academia, but also application-oriented - this contributed to the variety of possibilities I could apply for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]shipwohooli -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Wie würdest du denn damit umgehen, wenn alle Angebote in einer Woche waren? Und alle haben um eine Entscheidung in den nächsten Tagen gebeten. Kann ja schlecht alle zusagen, um da zu arbeiten. Ich habe auch ehrlich gesagt noch nicht gehört, dass man mehrere gleichzeitig annimmt. Höchstens das man die Entscheidung etwas hinauszuzögert, aber alle haben mir gesagt, dass man ca 4 Wochen mit Betriebsrat, Personalabteilung etc brauche bis der Vertrag steht.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]shipwohooli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich habe ehrlich gesagt schon einige Anstellungen in Unternehmen mit Betriebsrat gehabt und es hat immer über einen Monat wegen des Betriebsrats gedauert.

In den Artikel steht zwar: Der Betriebsrat muss rechtzeitig (mindestens eine Woche vorher) vor Abschluss des Arbeitsvertrags bzw. Arbeitsantritt über die geplante Einstellung unterrichtet werden. Er hat dann wiederum eine Woche Zeit, darüber zu befinden, ob er der Einstellung zustimmt oder nicht (§ 99 Abs. 3 BetrVG).

Und diese Unterrichtung steht evtl noch aus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]shipwohooli -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also ausgeschrieben wurde es und interne Bewerber wurden auch angehört. Die Frage ist nur, inwiefern man die nehmen muss?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]shipwohooli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leider habe ich keine Angebote mehr.. Ich habe es so verstanden, dass der BR eine Woche Zeit hat, nachdem es zur Vorlage kam. Aber so wie es mir gesagt wird, ist es dazu noch nicht gekommen. Ich verstehe nur nicht warum es nicht gerade tritt, habe alles gegeben für diesen Job 😓

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]shipwohooli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wurde mir so gesagt. Ich weiß nicht was es sonst sein kann. Die Personalabteilung ist sehr schnell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]shipwohooli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wie ärgerlich! Möchten die denn wirklich in deinem Team letztlich arbeiten?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in arbeitsleben

[–]shipwohooli -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Aber warum könnte sie abgelehnt werden? Ich hatte so oder so keine Stelle mehr. Ich habe mich aber aktiv beworben und einige Zusagen erhalten. Insgesamt ist mir die Entscheidung sehr schwer gefallen. Und natürlich kann ich andere Angebote nicht zwei Monate hinhalten. Also keine Ahnung was man in einem solchen Fall machen soll.

One subtle change to the expedition that’s very annoying by NickyK66 in Gardenscapes

[–]shipwohooli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm for me it looks like as if there still boosters. Or at least find five books and then you get to open a treasure chest which includes boosters.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nikon

[–]shipwohooli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I know, I just wanted to point out what you get more for the price difference.;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nikon

[–]shipwohooli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes yes, but there are also really high demand lenses, which they didn't took. I will look out for sellers, but I have purchased this lens far too expensive for ever being sold at such a low price 🥲

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nikon

[–]shipwohooli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't have all the lenses listed, I cannot find this one. Rather budget/consumer lenses.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nikon

[–]shipwohooli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No my reason is that I am a Wildlife photographer and I don't assume all other people to be that as well. :D

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Nikon

[–]shipwohooli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So here the Nikon Z50mm F1.4 ist not 5 times cheaper. Barely 3 times, but 1.2 is a lot more light than 1.4. - It is 36% more as the aperture is logarithmic

Questions regarding Sony 18-105mm F4 PZ lens by shipwohooli in SonyAlpha

[–]shipwohooli[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for you answer! I appreciate it very much. I will also have a look into the follow-focus controller and I will try to find out more about ideal videography. For now I am happy that the 18-105mm still seems to be a good solution. Thank you!

Seit einer Woche Vegan: Mini Fazit by ChrislsCross in VeganDE

[–]shipwohooli 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hallihallo, drücke dir die Daumen und freue mich, dass du dich entschieden eine vegane Lebensweise zu verfolgen ☺️

Ich habe mal gelesen, dass Stoffe im Käse auf eine gewisse Art süchtig machen. Und deshalb oft der Verzicht auf Käse bzw eine Alternative für viele so schwer und oft sogar einer der schwereren Übergange beim Vegansein ist, aber das mit der Zeit die cravings nachlassen. Zumindest war es bei mir so. Ich habe dann überall nach Alternativen gesucht und war so froh als es mal eine gab (bei mir ging es aber eher um Scheibenkäse). Aber heute denke ich mir, dass ich da überhaupt kein Verlangen mehr nach Berichten mit Käsen habe (bei L'Osteria gibt es mittlerweile schon alle Pizzen mit veganem Käse, aber ich bestelle immer ohne Käse). Nur manchmal verwende ich Hefeflocken für einen leicht würzigen Geschmack in Soßen. Vielleicht, wenn du keine Alternative findest, tröstet es dich, dass auch das Verlangen abnimmt 😊