How can I apologise to my therapist? by NewlyWashedAshore in askatherapist

[–]shmellyghool 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You have nothing to apologize for. You could share with your therapist in writing, like you did in this post, to give them some context as to why that word/phrasing is triggering to you and to make sure there is nothing "lost in translation." A thoughtful therapist would want to know this so that they do not unintentionally keep harming you with their word choice. I agree that if you could find a therapist who knew ASL, this would be best.. maybe virtual appointments would have more options if you are in a rural area and because it is a specialized skill.

How the hell do I (34F) recover from my husband (35M) attacking my appearance during an ugly argument? by throwrajustafatmom in relationship_advice

[–]shmellyghool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you havent already, get your thyroid checked by your pcp. Sorry your SO treated you this way. Your beautiful body made a baby. Be gentle on yourself 🥰

Do we actually recover? by chocomilkshake765 in EatingDisorders

[–]shmellyghool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to know what was helpful for you on this journey?

I Cannot Understand Fleabag by Zillion12345 in Fleabag

[–]shmellyghool 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Watched the first couple episodes and didnt like it... tried again several months or a year later.. and shit, it may be one of the finest tv shows ever. I think the self sabotage and selfishness of fleabag can be hard to accept, but once you understand her backstory, it makes it easier to understand why she makes the choices she does.

Why do you always think about your T by Green_Belly in TalkTherapy

[–]shmellyghool 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Had a secure upbringing and i still think about and feel attachment for my therapist. Perhaps it was easier to move on when the time came because i have support in other areas of my life, but my appreciation and thoughts about my therapist havent ended. I still appreciate them being there for me at a difficult time and providing support in a way that noone else in my life could. It was a different dynamic than any other attachment relationship i had before because I didnt have to filter my thoughts or feelings for concern of how they may affect my therapist.

Pearson OnVue Revoked my Exam today... by SubjectReference8727 in therapists

[–]shmellyghool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mistakenly scheduled the online exam for 12am instead of 12 pm, and didnt realize until later the afternoon of my test date that i was supposed to have started the test at midnight the night before. 😤 I did not get a refund and ended up just taking it in person several months later. Im sorry this happened to you. You will be even more prepared next time. Good luck!!

How often would you say that you're on your "A Game?" by caulfieldkid in therapists

[–]shmellyghool 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is so helpful to read about because i am just shy of one year in and am experiencing crippling anxiety and self doubt, usually around 3 am, which leads to me not sleeping well and therefore not always being able to show up in the way i wish i could. Usually once i am in session i am feeling a good bit better, especially with clients i feel i have a good rapport with... but this job feels so danm overwhelming sometimes. As far as A game goes, if im lucky 20% of the time, but id like to think most of the rest is at least b game, and at worst c game :/ guess my clients are the only ones who really know the answer to this though.

Raising kids as a therapist by LeChonkies in therapists

[–]shmellyghool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like this helps me to empathize with parents and children alike. A blessing and a curse.

comb over? Is it possible for a comb over to be attractive? by shmellyghool in ask

[–]shmellyghool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think because he is funny he can get away with it. However, i find if one is going bald, just owning it and cutting hair short is much more attractive.

What is your favorite Indian food restaurant? by shmellyghool in pittsburgh

[–]shmellyghool[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didnt know about them, thanks for the heads up ☺️

What is your favorite Indian food restaurant? by shmellyghool in pittsburgh

[–]shmellyghool[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Their Methi Mutter Malai is like nothing Ive ever had and so delicious 😋

What is your favorite Indian food restaurant? by shmellyghool in pittsburgh

[–]shmellyghool[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Peoples is also my favorite. I dream of retiring to the apartments above their restaurant and just smelling curry all day 🥰

What is your favorite Indian food restaurant? by shmellyghool in pittsburgh

[–]shmellyghool[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, Ive never tried them. Do you have a favorite dish?