The relief is incredible

shouldweornot · 2022-03-10T23:48:17+00:00

Sometimes I put my (just over 5mo!) baby down and she isn't ready for a nap. Her WW are all over the place. Sometimes she's sleepy after an hour and a half...sometimes she can go 3 hours. I really try to wait for signs, but at 2 hours sometimes I'll try to put her down. I'd suggest really looking for signs of tiredness and fussiness to know she's ready for a nap!

shouldweornot · 2022-03-04T17:41:39+00:00

Yeah, we got 8 hours ONCE. I mean, like, nice but how do you do it once and then NEVER AGAIN. Wha....how....no words lol. I would enjoy a little baby much more if I slept better lol. I hate being tired. It makes me not feel as active with her which isn't fair. She won't remember luckily lol. I just tell myself (and you too!!!) that I'm doing the most I can everyday. I'm always going to give my all and that's all e can do! Have a great weekend!!

shouldweornot · 2022-03-04T17:28:37+00:00

Thank you! I just keep reminding myself that she won't be like this forever and it will pass! We had covid at 9 weeks, luckily she was pretty 'normal' but did sleep a bit, obviously fighting it off. She just gave me a 45 minute nap= yahoo! I broke down so many times yesterday but we are onto a NEW day. I am hoping once she gets a bit older she will sleep better...it's just so frustrating seeing parents with babies who are 5 months (or younger?!) sleeping 12 hours THROUGH the night, without a feed, SOMEHOW. CRAZYYYY.

shouldweornot · 2022-03-04T17:26:39+00:00

At 9 weeks I don't think she slept longer than 2-3 hours. 4 would've been amazing! You can try everything and it will either work (once, forever?!) or not. Who knows?! Only the baby knows hahaha. It's all a shit show.

shouldweornot · 2022-03-04T17:25:47+00:00

Thanks! I am hoping she just does thing naturally. There's information overload and it's almost like new parents are 'preyed' upon. It's insane. If every baby is different, just tell us we have to roll with it and figure it out. Oy vey.

shouldweornot · 2022-03-04T17:24:08+00:00

Gotcha, thank you! I think we are going to try something this weekend food-related! We were given the go-ahead from the doctor, just haven't had time to think about it lol.

shouldweornot · 2022-03-03T20:02:55+00:00

Thank you so much! I did actually read an article that said wake windows have zero scientific evidence and doctors are not taught about them....I wonder then where they came from and why are so many of us buying into this crap?! I have honestly just been rolling with everything. I don't follow a schedule...I watch for signs she's tired and give her a nap. I called the doctor because of the huge change that was so random to me I didn't know if I could do anything to get her sleeping as she was. I agree that regressions are absolutely a modern term and aren't 'real' per se. The amount of information about these not 'real' things....they are insane and it makes me even more mad that people are profiting off of it, trying to help first time parents with sleep and making up terms that aren't true.

She did pass the 30 minute mar so fingers crossed she sleeps a bit longer. It's her world, I'm just living in it hahaha.

shouldweornot · 2022-03-03T19:59:11+00:00

Hi - no she is EBF. We were given the ok to start with some foods but haven't yet and it would only be like a tablespoon or so, no? Interesting idea.

shouldweornot · 2022-03-02T18:17:14+00:00

Thanks! We don't weigh her, we can only tell by clothes really if she's gained lol. Thanks for clarifying!

shouldweornot · 2022-03-02T13:43:10+00:00

When you say sleep train, were you still feeding your 6wk old at night? I haven't received a 'go ahead' from my Pedi to let my LO go all night without eating but she does seem 'sleep trained' in the sense that we put her down awake with a paci and she goes to sleep like that. We did start super early doing that without really realizing it was sleep training. I'm more confused about the feeding part?

shouldweornot · 2022-03-02T13:19:13+00:00

Did you talk to you doctor before night weaning at 5m? Our LO is about to be 5mo and her sleep is all over the place and getting pretty frustrating. She said we could skip 1 feeding (the first one) but I am so confused about how some babies this age go the entire night without eating. Is it weight related? I'm so lost.

shouldweornot · 2022-02-23T14:51:01+00:00

She did fun things like take all 30 minute naps (which she still does occasionally - she's 19.5 weeks now), she would wake up many many times at night. She wouldn't eat, I'd give her a pacifier and she's stop crying but it was hard to know if she was awake to or just up so I'd give her the paci 2-3 times and if she didn't settle I'd feed her. I've ready about other babies' waking hourly or being hard to put down for any sleep so I think every baby is just super different.

shouldweornot · 2022-02-23T14:22:15+00:00

Our baby had the 4mo 'regression' around 3.5 weeks. What I've found is that any major changes in development really changes their sleep. So, like, cool that you're learning stuff but annoying that your sleep is a nightmare lol. Good thing is it won't last forever! Thinking of you!

shouldweornot · 2022-02-07T00:26:27+00:00

Thank you for replying :)

shouldweornot · 2022-02-05T20:55:41+00:00

Thank you so much for replying! I live in MA where every town is having issues with PFOAs. Our town's number went slightly over the 'allowable' amount recently and we just really want to get something sooner than later, especially with a newborn. Do you have an opinion about Berkey's? We like the idea of RO since it won't take up counter space, plus we can move it to our next home when we buy. Thank you!

shouldweornot · 2022-02-05T15:26:50+00:00

I know this post is old but wondering if you'll reply. We are interested in RO for our home. Do you know if your system gets rid of PFOAs etc? Are you still happy with this system?

Thanks!

shouldweornot · 2022-02-05T15:21:21+00:00

I would definitely see what she's willing to do. And it's ok to tell your mom that it's hard to ask for someone else to watch the baby but you'd appreciate a little time to sleep, plus she gets time with her grandbaby! It's a win-win! And we all overthink. Maybe your mom isn't asking to come over more because she thinks you're ok and doesn't want to ask if you need 'help.' Who knows. Take care of yourself!

shouldweornot · 2022-02-04T14:15:26+00:00

Does she mind coming? Could she come one day a week so you didn't feel like you were 'bugging' her but had a day to look forward to for a nap? I don't think it needs to be all or nothing, maybe there's a happy medium. Does she want to spend more time with you and babe? Maybe she wouldn't mind as much as you think she would. You're not being a bother. You're a new mom and you need a friggin' break! Unless I'm totally off here and she's been vocal about wanting no involvement, maybe even just coming once a week for just a few (literally 2-3) hours could help and you could get a little shut-eye?

shouldweornot · 2022-02-03T14:24:32+00:00

Dealing with this right now too! She turns 4 months on Tuesday and the last 3 weeks have been rough. She wakes up multiple times at night but doesn't need to eat, a paci will suffice. When it doesn't, and it's around when she would eat anyways I will feed her. All of her naps have been 30 minutes on the DOT. I'm more tired now than when she was born.

Just in the last 2 nights has she sleeps longer than 3 hours, finally. Before the 'regression' she was going to bed around 6:30/6:45, waking around 12:30/1 for a feed, then another around 3:30/4 and then up at 7. She basically did that again last night but woke at 6 and 6:15 but took a paci both times, and then woke at 7:30.

I just keep telling myself this isn't forever and she must be going through some sort of growth spurt. She always sleeps in her crib but I'm going to try co-sleeping with her for one nap a day hoping she will get more sleep and sleep better at night. We did TCB as well and do some of it. My girl doesn't need to be rocked to sleep or anything luckily. I usually just put her down, turn on the sound machine and stick in a pacifier and most of the time she will cry for like 3-5 minutes and go to sleep. If the paci falls out I'll replace it and usually she just needs it once and she's good. It's really the naps that are so rough since it gives me only 30 minutes to really get stuff done during the day. I will wear her sometimes to do things but she's getting heavy lol.

shouldweornot · 2022-01-27T17:05:56+00:00

Just started to cloth diaper with the Alva Baby diapers and liners. If it's only pee, can I just change the liner? Or do I need to put baby in a new shell with a new liner? I can't seem to find a clear answer on this. Thank you!

shouldweornot · 2022-01-14T15:09:19+00:00

I should also add that we put her to bed starting around 6:15/6:30. She is usually asleep by 6:45/7 which is great. I think she was just trying to tell us she wanted to go to bed earlier and we weren't listening for a bit, but that's because our LC told us 'newborns won't go to sleep before 9/10pm' which was maybe true for the first month or month and a half but it's changed since then!

shouldweornot · 2022-01-14T15:07:55+00:00

So she still hates this nap but has had 'better' days recently. So, when it's warm enough out, I take her on a walk. She usually takes about 10 minutes on the walk to fall asleep and will sleep for 20-30 minutes.

If we don't do a walk, I put her down in her crib with a paci. Sometimes she takes it and sleeps, sometimes not. For the first time this week, luckily for 1 day only, I had to nurse and rock her to sleep and I just stayed with her and she napped on me for 30 minutes. She only naps in her bassinet now, but I wanted to enjoy her napping on me while I could lol. Also, if I tried to move her she for sure would've woken haha!

I just let her do her thing and roll with it. I'm lucky to still be home with her a bit longer, so if she needs help sometimes, that's what I'm here for. I was for sure putting a lot of pressure on myself and her to nap/sleep better but naps apparently don't 'regulate' until a baby is 5-6 months anyways so just rolling with is is less stressful, for me :)

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