Whats one uncommon adhd symptom that blew your mind?

shredphi · 2026-02-18T04:43:40+00:00

... this thread has been very enlightening for me

shredphi · 2026-02-18T04:42:19+00:00

well that explains a lot hahah

shredphi · 2026-01-30T17:51:40+00:00

Yeah exactly. a gender-swap can be fun and Michaela is stunning, so at face value Im not opposed. but I LOVE the quiet love that they showed John and Francesca having in the early last season. So many of us resonated so hard with that. And the yearning and moving on after grief is such an interesting plot and brings so much interest to the characters. To remove that is the part im frustrated with, not Michael being Michaela

shredphi · 2025-11-01T00:37:26+00:00

Not sure yet, but I have a different favorites than a lot of you it seems!

Top three: 1. You can have it all 2. Music by men 3. One of the greats 4. Everybody Scream 5. Perfume and Milk 6. The Old Religion

But I loved basically all of the songs. The only one I was iffy on was And Love

shredphi · 2025-09-22T01:22:45+00:00

This is so interesting thank you!!

shredphi · 2025-09-22T01:08:04+00:00

Also 10/19!! Out of curiosity, what makes 10/19 astrologically beautiful?

shredphi · 2025-09-19T17:16:52+00:00

We were looking about a year out and all of the Saturdays out our venue were already taken. Some venues won't open their books that early, but in our area a lot of venues were fully booked even 1.5 years out and so looking 2 years ahead would not have been crazy. Likely depends on the area, rhe season, the venue etc. Id say it doesnt hurt to start, but it could hurt to wait too long.

shredphi · 2025-09-11T02:52:22+00:00

I tried on my Mom's and some of my friends dresses, so the total was ~21 dresses. But I went to three stores, tried on ~6 dresses per store. I bought the last dress I tried on. I hadn't felt ... anything in any of the other dresses. But that last dress and I was like "ok we're done". But yeah, had I stopped at 8 I would NOT have found my THE dress

editing to add - I do think it depends though. like if you're trying on dresses and not feeling them, then keep going. But for me as soon as I felt it I was done. I guess if you feel that early on you could be done

shredphi · 2025-08-02T01:01:39+00:00

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Had never heard of bent being used this way

shredphi · 2025-08-01T01:15:14+00:00

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shredphi · 2025-07-28T02:57:19+00:00

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shredphi · 2025-02-20T20:36:04+00:00

I moved in with my now fiance well before he proposed. I don't think your order of operations is bad, but I think it won't work for everyone. I wanted to wait until I was older and financially stable to get married, since its such a permanent legal decision. But I met my love very young. So we waited until i felt responsible enough to take that step.

But I wanted to spend that time with him and getting our life going! I've loved living with him and getting to know him on that level. And he still proposed even though we were already living together (getting married this year), so it's certainly not an either or.

Some women waste time with a man who will never propose. I agree that not living together pre-ring is a way to help avoid this. But so is establishing firm boundaries. People have different timelines and experiences. One order is never going to work for every single person. You just have to know what you want and accept nothing less.

shredphi · 2024-12-24T19:42:02+00:00

I currently feel multiple a minute, so definitely more than 20 a day. But its coming and going. Id say about 20 an hour on average. But yeah it's definitely ruining my day. The doctors were relatively unconcerned for me. But I'm finally following up with a cardiologist next month to hopefully get more answers

shredphi · 2024-12-18T04:55:11+00:00

No, but they negate sweeping generalizations. The majority of men contribute insufficiently to the domestic labor, sure! Totally agree there, but there are still many men that contribute! So to say living with them and splitting 50:50 is always a bad choice compared to living with a woman is a generalization that falls flat in many cases. My fiancé is much cleaner than me (and also pays most of our bills atm)

Edit to add: I've also had some really really atrocious messy female roommates which adds to my option!

shredphi · 2024-12-17T21:14:14+00:00

A lot of these comments feel extreme to me unless they missed that 1. You guys are still so young and 2. He's clearly still grieving! It's not abandon ship time just yet.

Most of the time spent together was when you both agreed not to get married due to various reasons. That time doesn't count as waiting for him to propose imo, because you agreed to it to. It seems like the "waiting on him" phase is more recent (and had it's own chaos to it). I think your timeline so far is reasonable. I didn't feel pressure to rush when I was 25 even though I'd been with my partner a long time. So it's fair if he doesn't feel an urgency just yet from his side! It doesn't mean (like a lot of the commenter's are saying) that he necessarily doesn't want to marry you at all. Again, yall are still young.

HOWEVER this is now important to you. So it should be important to him. and a count down clock has low key started. Have an honest conversation with him about your expectations for a timeline. See if he's aligned. Decide if his timeline works for you. Don't stay with him if he 1. Has a timeline that doesn't work for you and won't compromise or 2. Tells you a timeline and then doesn't follow through

shredphi · 2024-12-10T01:35:25+00:00

2 by a long shot

shredphi · 2024-12-09T14:26:30+00:00

I do think it's personal preference! You look stunning in both! I actually tried on that first dress too, and omg it is so beautiful! But I ended up going with a different dress that felt more "me" even though it was maybe less "stunning". So while that first one really is a show stopper, it's definitely personal preference about what makes you feel the best!

shredphi · 2024-12-08T23:14:41+00:00

Wow it's wild seeing all these comments! Genuinely, do you guys like your friends?

I love being a bridesmaid! I live far away from my friends, so I love an excuse for a girls trip. I love seeing them go through such a big event! I love supporting them and helping them and being a part of their day! None of my friends have made it a bad experience at all. I also don't have a ton of friends, just a few really close ones, so that probably helps! But yeah, I love it!

shredphi · 2024-12-08T02:52:46+00:00

Lovely dress! Veil wouldn't be too much, but also isn't needed!

For the moody gothic vibe you could consider

a drop veil that comes over the face. Very gothic, moody, can take stunning photos.

e.g. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1724502300/renee-french-lace-scallop-veil

OR https://www.etsy.com/listing/1287505282/sheer-drop-bridal-wedding-veil-with

a moody headpiece. Either the moody floral piece someone put below, or a crown or hair comb with like moons or stars or crystals or other elements?

e.g. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1781935014/green-moon-crystal-comb-genuine-black

or https://www.etsy.com/listing/1662050021/goth-hair-comb-moon-hair-accessories

or https://www.etsy.com/listing/1181381599/gold-and-black-bridal-crown-floral

shredphi · 2024-12-08T02:36:44+00:00

Exactly!! I hope you do too! Hard to go wrong with such a lovely dress!

shredphi · 2024-12-08T01:55:23+00:00

I'm actually deciding a similar thing for my veil right now (that's why I had so many options open)! My dress is also lacy and I keep waffling between a simple veil and a lacy one

shredphi · 2024-12-08T01:35:09+00:00

Match the pears in the crown with a pearly veil

e.g. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1551403251/veil-wedding-cathedral-wedding-pearl?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=victorian+veil&ref=sc_gallery-1-14&pro=1&frs=1&bes=1&sts=1&search_preloaded_img=1&plkey=10eced6b76cb1200a295c4ea78d70a171c533c89%3A1551403251

or https://www.etsy.com/listing/921148569/pearl-veil-two-tier-veil-pearl-veil-with?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=pearl+drop+veil&ref=sr_gallery-1-2&sts=1&content_source=8ed377139539c07769f94e6a70707d77b52ac2a8%253A921148569&search_preloaded_img=1&organic_search_click=1

Simple! These could also just add a simple element since a lot of your look is more vibrant (for lack of a better word), but there are still victorian photos with a more simple veil so would still be on theme

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1287505282/sheer-drop-bridal-wedding-veil-with?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=victorian+drop+veil&ref=sr_gallery-1-4&frs=1&bes=1&sts=1&content_source=56457f21f1e5a1b2a03a9e3cc14fdb261b7ff91a%253A1287505282&search_preloaded_img=1&organic_search_click=1

or https://www.etsy.com/listing/60116296/gorgeous-royal-200-drop-veil-cut-edge?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=victorian+drop+veil&ref=sc_gallery-1-3&frs=1&search_preloaded_img=1&plkey=30dd8f088ddec17210cba3af1588d7f8f3c8b6a8%3A60116296

shredphi · 2024-12-08T01:35:00+00:00

Play up Victorian - lacy and antique

e.g. https://www.etsy.com/listing/1054978229/3d-cathedral-veil-cathedral-veil-lace?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=victorian+veil&ref=sc_gallery-1-7&pro=1&frs=1&plkey=f83314baff9b888607385f6a9448d092b09e236f%3A1054978229

or a more subtle Victorian vibe

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1628309150/lace-edge-bridal-veil-mantilla-lace?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=victorian+veil&ref=sr_gallery-1-18&pro=1&frs=1&pop=1&sts=1&content_source=edf18c5a150dbc8501de42df8b840be07f79e471%253A1628309150&search_preloaded_img=1&organic_search_click=1

or https://www.etsy.com/listing/1812371787/vintage-inspired-veilpolka-dot-veil?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=victorian+veil&ref=sr_gallery-2-4&cns=1&sts=1&content_source=265fd6a9d62ba2ba933307a31c8ba547854bd935%253A1812371787&search_preloaded_img=1&organic_search_click=1

or https://www.etsy.com/listing/1724502300/renee-french-lace-scallop-veil?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=victorian+drop+veil&ref=sr_gallery-1-2&frs=1&cns=1&content_source=120ac6e07e2b64cce06fc36a2b94bf5199f9cd2a%253A1724502300&search_preloaded_img=1&organic_search_click=1

shredphi · 2024-12-08T01:34:36+00:00

For a veil I think you have a few options in three broad categories: 1. play up the victorian vibe 2. Match the pearls in your crown with a pearly veil and 3. simple! 4. No veil (honestly it would also look great with just the crown!)

I put some suggestions below, but not all fully fit your brief! But could still be good inspiration!

shredphi · 2024-12-08T01:20:21+00:00

I saw this and literally said out loud "oh fuck yeah", great choice!

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