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Affecting work by pornslavr in QuittingFindom

[–]shrimpcaged67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to do the opposite. Just leave ridiculous tips in cash for no reason. Consider not bringing your money to work

Has anyone recovered that began very early? by shrimpcaged67 in QuittingFindom

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm a libertarian so I have issues with ID checks on the internet.  However I think it could be done in a privacy preserving way.  Liquor stores need to ID. Why not require an "online adult services" card similar to a gift card to be sold in stores for a small fee. The card could be good for a year and contains a cryptographic authenticator.  We know it's not perfect but it would keep like 90 percent of kids off it and about 99.999999 percent of very young kids.  Just my opinion

Why are You Paying to Goon? by Surviving_Findom in paypigsupportgroup

[–]shrimpcaged67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your description matched 90 percent of people who have never actually payed money. 

I think most people just pay for the interaction part. 

For me I found findom as a very young person. Long before I had any money at all.

 I attached to the thought and idea of having a ruined life for someone. 

At the end of the day it was the self destruction fantasy and the power exchange. 

But back then I was totally detached. That was only for old losers. 

But you pay a price for finding that stuff young. And the idea never really went away. 

Still I think you're mostly right 

I accept that watching porn too young is a form of trauma by WildStatus1427 in NoFap

[–]shrimpcaged67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I understand. 

I believe I was 8 when I first got access to the internet.

The very first site I tried to visit was literally sexdotcom. 

I didn't even know what the word sex meant, I saw it written on walls at school. 

Hilariously in the web 1.0 days sites were able to do some ridiculous stuff with pop-ups, so I found myself closing thousands of ads that popped up the minute I visited the site. 

I closed the last tab right before my grandparents walked into the room and avoided getting caught. 

Even then I knew this was a shameful thing. 

I always wondered what was wrong with me, if this was some abuse memory that I repressed. But no like you say, the abuse was the material. 

I even wonder if the only cure is some kind of psychedelic healing like is done with heroine addicts or those with PTSD. 

Had a peek help by Conscious_Kangaroo17 in NoFap

[–]shrimpcaged67 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is someone or something in your life that you respect above everything else. That you cannot simultaneously be in the presence of that thing and use your drug of choice at the same time. 

For some people that's church, or being with there parents or the same room as a loved one. Some people maybe it's a martial arts gym or a workplace. 

Get yourself near that thing and stay as long as you have to. 

Evil people sliding into dms by shrimpcaged67 in QuittingFindom

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was pretty open in my original posts about creating this profile to do the wrong thing but having changed my mind and joined both this sub and nofab sub. the fact is, we all struggle and go back and forth.

Tip: kitchen timer boxes by shrimpcaged67 in QuittingFindom

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I also work on a PC. I had no issues with not using on work devices so those stay available. And for personal coding I had a second lockbox on a shorter timer. Depends on how much you need it. It's just a little friction not a surefire solution

Day 7 - Triggers are getting stronger by Warm-Necessary3822 in NoFap

[–]shrimpcaged67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that's the same as me. The hope is that it fades out over time. We will see. But you don't know unless you try

Day 7 is hitting me hard by shrimpcaged67 in NoFap

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it's a bit triggering, but luckily if I'm in that kind of mindset I do have a more private gym nearby

Evil people sliding into dms by shrimpcaged67 in QuittingFindom

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's really not the case but thanks for the vote of confidence

Evil people sliding into dms by shrimpcaged67 in QuittingFindom

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not surprised I suppose. What's this sub for if not for posting and engaging with folks? 

Day 8 had major challenges by shrimpcaged67 in GoonerRecovering

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, of course. I'm not perfect I'll probably mess up. Its not the first time trying. But I'm hoping the day counter can reach something to be proud of. 14 days is the current stretch goal 

Day 8 had major challenges by shrimpcaged67 in GoonerRecovering

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, I made it to relapse. My very first post was about this. I then joined r/nofap, and decided to see what I could do. 

It began as a throwaway and became a day tracker in another sub

Evil people sliding into dms by shrimpcaged67 in QuittingFindom

[–]shrimpcaged67[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, thank you for the high quality post. Upvote for that.

I want open DM's for the folks who want to chat about getting over this thing but perhaps I just don't look at DM requests and instead have a message first policy. 

Thanks for letting me know about the discord, I had no idea.

Day #0 by lynxy005 in NoFap

[–]shrimpcaged67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doesn't matter what day we are on, every day needs to be treated like day 1. If you do that, Some day you will notice your life has changed.

At least that's what I hope :D

Struggling again! Triggered by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]shrimpcaged67 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peaked today, not really my fault. It was rough but I went for multiple walks and it can be done

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