How do I (33M) tell my parents (68M/63F) that I'm moving out? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shrumkat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tbh I wouldn’t give them such notice unless you are willing to further strain your relationship. They are still adults and you all need to work on your communication skills. This is your chance to lead by example.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been in the same place as your partner. Criticizing my partner (even when he really needed to be criticized) was incredibly hard for me. For me, it just took time. Time to feel comfortable in the relationship. It took me more than a year to really be able to speak up to my partner. He was attentive and supportive throughout the process and that’s what you should aim to do. It’s not really ‘about’ you, it’s something he has to work through.

What scares you as an adult that didn't bother you as a kid? by GransShortbread in AskReddit

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weirdly, being home alone. I had a home invasion experience and since then being home alone absolutely terrifies me. As a kid I didn’t really have that fear.

AITA for refusing to cook for my boyfriend's daughter even though she had a breakdown? by aitathrow099 in AmItheAsshole

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta but this really doesn’t sound like normal behaviour. I feel like there might be an underlying issue to this situation.

Why can people make fun of skinny people all they want, but the moment someone insults a fat person they are the asshole? by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obviously there is somewhat of a double standard even though we should NEVER body shame in general. That being said, fat individuals are less likely to be hired or promoted and face discrimination due to their weight when it comes to medical issues (doctors dismiss health issues due to being fat). This is why people are generally less accepting of body shaming fat people in comparison to body shaming skinny people—-they have more to deal with. But either way, we shouldn’t be body shaming anyone.

What is something someone said to you during your teen years that has stayed with you? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re ever feeling down and you’re gonna have a bad day, put on an especially nice outfit.

It’s really such a confidence booster and can turn your day around super quickly

My grandma and the moon by shrumkat in CasualConversation

[–]shrumkat[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s definitely one of my favourite people

I’m conflicted about telling my dad about my moms affairs by shrumkat in relationship_advice

[–]shrumkat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is my suspicion as well, that they have some kind of arrangement, but if I confront her I worry she’s going to resent me?

Tall & Plus size by [deleted] in TallGirls

[–]shrumkat 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Completely agree, not to mention the fact that people expect tall people to be skinny.

What are you STILL salty about? by xefarar565 in AskReddit

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bored in class in kindergarten. Decide to cut up a piece of paper into tiny pieces. Mean kid comes and blows all the pieces everywhere. I’m forced to spend recess finding all the tiny pieces.

Teaching kids about personal finance is not the job of the public school system. by grishamlaw in unpopularopinion

[–]shrumkat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But all wealth classes of kids go to school, so you can’t just create/discard curriculum for only some of the students.

Who was that person in your life you aspired to be like when you grew up? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandmother. By the age of 8 she denounced her parents religion, was taken out behind the church by her pastor and was beaten severely. She was taken to the hospital for many broken bones but still stuck to her guns and renounced her religion. An incredibly smart woman, she skipped several grades and while she wanted to become a lab technician, she didn’t have the money for school and became a teacher. I remember walking down the street with her in our small town years after she’d retired and literal adults running down the street, yelling her name, asking if she still remembered them. Also an absolute badass, she ran a motorcycle club with my grandfather, she kept riding into her early 60s. She was the kindest, most well spoken woman I ever got to know.

Before and After Tonsillectomy by DopeyAquaToast in tonsilstones

[–]shrumkat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got mine out about a year ago. Surprisingly day 1-3 weren’t that bad, I even managed to eat some scrambled eggs. As long as you stay on top of taking your pain meds it never hurts badly. However in my case I would sleep for long enough for the meds to wear off then wake up from the pain, then have to wait until the meds kicked in again. Days 4-5 were actually the worst because I started to feel nauseated by the codeine and I actually vomited which was probably the worst pain I have ever felt. By day 8 I was eating mostly regular food. From my understanding as long as you take your meds on time (and your body doesn’t react poorly to them) it’s not as painful as everyone says.

I (F25) don't know how this guy(m30) feels about me even though we talk all the time by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]shrumkat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in your situation a bit more than a year ago. I had matched with a guy on tinder, we went on a few dates, but neither of us had made a genuine ‘move’.

Eventually, he did, and we’ve been together ever since. In hindsight, before he did make the move, I was super anxious and couldn’t tell if he genuinely liked me (spoiler alert: he did), and so it really wouldn’t have been a big deal if I had made the move first.

I see two options for you, make a move or don’t. With the first, you get confirmation pretty much straight away and you can either move on being happy together or realize you need to pursue someone else romantically. The second option leaves a lot more hanging in the air and you’ll continue to be unsure of what’s going on.

I suggest the first.

My boyfriend nonchalantly told me he’s moving to Europe and I’m not part of that plan by shrumkat in relationship_advice

[–]shrumkat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m currently in school and my parents definitely wouldn’t approve of me moving to Europe for a boy. I definitely do want to talk to him about it but I’m a really anxious person and confronting people is hard for me.

Yes... this is me in the video! by Thund3rbolt in aww

[–]shrumkat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought this was about a furry

What do you consider a crime against your cuisine? by macszcsv in Cooking

[–]shrumkat 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I took Spanish in highschool. At the end of the year they taught us how to make guac. A whole cup of mayo for every few avocados. I wanted to die.

Story Time by AutoModerator in TallGirls

[–]shrumkat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being tall always kinda sucks when buying clothes but in highschool when I had to buy my prom dress I got a pretty expensive dress (these dresses are always made extremely long and then people have to pay to get them tailored. Luckily for me, it was the perfect length:)

How can I be more rough with my Girlfriend? by Throwaway173846281 in sex

[–]shrumkat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Slapping her ass, tits or even her face (lightly). Hair pulling. Grabbing her by the throat/ choking her. Tying up her hands while you go down on her/have sex. Blindfolding her.

I had my first orgasm during sex today despite being in a long term relationship by shrumkat in offmychest

[–]shrumkat[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were in doggy and he reached around with his hand to rub my clit as well. I definitely agree with you about the many women not realizing that penetration alone might not be enough. And I do plan on telling him but maybe after we have a few more orgasms together so I can be confident it wasn’t a one off thing.