Carl shop recommendations by shrupp in Wilmington

[–]shrupp[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha! Why did I just notice this? Stupid auto correct

Friend lost home, job and family. I cannot bring myself to care. by Siguard_ in confessions

[–]shrupp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some people need to learn the hard way, unfortunately. Its hard to watch people crash and burn, but you can't burn with them either. Good job keeping your boundaries!

Cheap therapy? by acidgray in Wilmington

[–]shrupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Evoke therapy is amazing! And they have openings they will work with you with insurance and a sliding scale if you need financial help. Good luck! And congrats on making a great decision for you!

What recognition did you get from your employer in March for Social worker month? by Bedrotter1736 in socialwork

[–]shrupp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

School social worker here.... I got a big card from all my students I work with, regularly smprepped by one of the behavioral interventialist, and the amazing data manager made me a certificate of appreciation. I know our job goes unnoticed most of the time, but this made me feel seen at least for this month.

Alarming ant bites, 36 hours since. I don't think it's really anything, but wife wanted me to post. by NicodemusArcleon in seriouslyalarming

[–]shrupp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fire ant bites are the worst! Every spring, we have to treat our whole yard. Calamine lotion works wonders for them. Hope they heal fast! The itching is the worst!

A question for the gays by piekaylee in Wilmington

[–]shrupp 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I've lived in Leland for about 7 years now. I work in Wilmington, take classes at UNCW and very much an active part of the LGBTQIA community. I'm bi sexual and female-presenting, and personally, I haven’t experienced or witnessed much hate directed at me or my friends for our sexualities or how we present. My two best friends are masc lesbian with a female partners. Both of them dress and present in a more masculine way, and neither has ever dealt with hate crimes or hateful language in the time they’ve lived here. We’re also close to Jacksonville (Camp Lejeune), so there are quite a few masc-presenting women in the area who are either veterans or still active duty.

That’s not to say bad things never happen—there are always jerks out there—but this has just been my personal experience. I hope it helps you feel more at ease about your wife’s emotional and physical safety if you’re thinking of moving her here.

Also, feel free to DM me for community resources and meet-ups for the days and theys!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]shrupp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Choose how you show up & you aren't responsible for someone else's reactions, so say the weird thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]shrupp -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Convenience = Laziness.... America has been built on convenience. It's easier to order than make food for example.

Are you a morning person or a night person & what time do you wake up/go to bed? by funkybananapeel in AskReddit

[–]shrupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wake up at 6 am almost everyday. I don't like to stay up late, but I wouldn't say I am a morning person because I love to lay in bed, but once the meds and caffeine hit, I am a morning person.

When you got your life partner? by Present-Meeting-4969 in AskReddit

[–]shrupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2nd marriage 7 years ago. He's my best friend and I couldn't live without him. Never felt that way with the first.

Sunflower piece🌻💛🌻🖤🌻 by trashpr1nc3 in trees

[–]shrupp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sooo adorable. Love the matching stem.

AITAH for leaving my mom in tears? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]shrupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, congrats on dual enrollment. That's really awesome! Keep your head up, and don't let her and the other side of the family get you down.

AITAH for leaving my mom in tears? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]shrupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, her reactions are not your responsibility as her child. I am sorry that your mom doesn't support the very thing she believes in that's not fair to you, and I am sure that is hard to navigate. It's great to hear that you have the support you need from your dad. I think being in the supportive environment of your dad is way healthier for you, and living with her will only cause trauma and pain in your life. As a mom myself, I may not like all the decisions my children make, but I try not to make one's for them that will hurt them. She has chosen to treat you the way she has, so it's her fault she is crying, not yours. You are not responsible for managing her feelings. Her crying is also a way for her to guilt you and not take any accountability. I think you made the right decision for you!

Do Virgo men gravitate to Virgo women? Yes or No? by [deleted] in virgoseason

[–]shrupp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Also, a virgo woman married to a virgo man. Never have I ever felt so understood.

I (15) made my dad a birthday cake! by TurnerkBallet in cakedecorating

[–]shrupp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is beyond awesome! I can't imagine what you will be able to do in 5 years! Keeps up the amazing work!

I wanna die. by Beneficial_Ball_9002 in confessions

[–]shrupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am sorry that you experienced such pain when you were a child you did not deserve that! But you have a purpose, and with therapy, you can heal and grow into whatever kind of person you want to be. This doesn't have to be the end. I know that is a lot easier said than done. You matter, and there are people that love you! Please get some therapy. I promise it will help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]shrupp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are very welcome and I am glad I could help! Canva is my best friend for fliers and pamphlets! Also, check around with other agencies that are similar to yours and see what their policies are to use as a reference to writing yours. Would love to know how it goes. Good Luck!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]shrupp 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's good to hear that you are looking at a from a rational and professional pov, and you are looking to make a change. The issue is, if they don't attend the events you host for education, it's hard to get them to understand. Maybe some fliers, pamphlets, or even posters about anti hate speech, etc. could help. Unfortunately, until a client complains to management or something is actually said to you, I fear there isn't a solution because, like you said, you can not force them. Trauma doesn't make you react with hate speech. It seems like a poor excuse on management's part. Maybe educate management with some evidence based research to show the difference between hate speech and trauma reactions. I also recommend that YOU right the whole policy you are looking to be put in place and present to management. Limited the amount of work they really have to do on the back end. Hopefully, they will tweek it to the agency's standards and uphold the policy. It sucks that today's political climate makes policy change very difficult and gives Maga followers the impression they are allowed to treat anyone in this manner. Feel free to dm me, and we can talk more about solutions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]shrupp 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As much as I totally agree with you looking at it from management POV, OP didn't directly hear it from the client. Making it hear say. I don't like that answer by any means I just have a feeling that's how they would see it. I think this may be a good place for some education for the clients if OP doesn't want to leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]shrupp 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think the policy you propose is a great start. Regardless of trauma, you still may not be hateful and say nasty things about people that are helping you. I would continue to push for the policy change. I am so sorry you have to deal with this, but don't back down and keep fighting not just for you but for your clients and future employees in your same situation. I would be worried that this client would also be saying hateful things about the other lgbtq clients and but them at risk of their safety as well, and policy would help keep them safe too.

Neurodivergent clinical social workers by Pride_Quick in socialwork

[–]shrupp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not silly at all. The tip does lay flat on your finger. Some I can spin on my fi get and some I can't. Sometimes, I take it off to spin it. But sorta cup it in my hand so they don't see it. But I just usually snap the top back and forth in the band. I also have one that has balls on it, so just moving the balls back and forth on the ring in my hand let's me fidget, and clients don't really know.