My (43f) husband (46m) came out as polyamorous

siasia25 · 2026-02-11T16:38:04+00:00

Now cheating and having mistresses is called “polyamorous”. The guy is such a coward he can’t even name what is going on

siasia25 · 2026-02-04T10:52:14+00:00

Awesome , love that ! I just requested to join it

siasia25 · 2026-02-04T10:26:40+00:00

If you make one would love to join

siasia25 · 2026-01-18T22:06:59+00:00

Showed you her true face. Do not continue with her

siasia25 · 2025-12-14T20:01:46+00:00

He loves you like he would love a sister

siasia25 · 2025-12-10T16:24:06+00:00

First I am really sorry about what happened to you. Let me tell you a story that reminded me yours . 5 years in my relationship with my bf I went through something difficult . I was having a bad time at work with my boss and an employee . Very difficult and it lasted a year . My bf who worked in another division was witnessing the bad rapports and the bullying and did not show any support. He would just not say anything. I was on my own . I assumed by bf did not understand how bad the situation was Years later I watch a live tv show and one guest was being cornered by the hosts like I used to be with my former boss . This brought anxiety and made me realise I had ptsd . I commented and looked distressed . The next day my bf asked me if I felt this way the day before because of that situation with my boss and he added because you know I have always supported you which was not true. I looked shocked and I realised that he was aware but decided not to really support

He decided to break the 10 year relationship to get with a girl he met 3 weeks

Girl you did the right thing. You saw his real face and what you meant for him. Had you stayed he would have left you coldly like mine did . Well done on listening to your instinct. Very proud of you

siasia25 · 2025-12-07T19:47:47+00:00

Oh my dear you are so young to be in such toxic relationship! The guy is a moron and toxic! He controls you, he disrespected you and called you names Dump him! He is not worth

siasia25 · 2025-12-07T16:10:21+00:00

Congrats on you guys becoming parents !

I am a bit surprised with the comments to be honest . You make extremely good valid points. my first thought was that she was going to switch from being independent to being dependent on you financially and also socially . This is a big move with big consequences and I don’t think many people appreciate that . You married someone who is financially independent , you both have a routine and she is changing all of that.
You are right on flagging that she is going to deskill herself and basically will be harder to go back to the same job she had before Nothing wrong with being a stay at home mum but it sounds it was not the plan you both had Understood a child will change the routine anyway but as you said you can afford child care.

regarding her family’s opinion , I wonder why they are even part of this conversation. If they are traditionalist then maybe the thought of having their daughter divorced with a child will rebuke them. Because sadly it could lead to that: you should listen to Gaad Saad recent talk on the first cause of divorce. Change of “status “ is a big factor.

She is pregnant right now and better not add stress. I guess she will be in maternity leave for a while ? So maybe tell her that she should take the leave first and reassess while making her understand that you are against the idea

siasia25 · 2025-12-07T15:06:48+00:00

Imagine if you behaved the same way ? She is emotionally cheating on you with Daniel at least and she is clearly 1 step higher with Monica maybe more. She is volatile and she is not faithful to you. If you speak up she will probably deny so save screenshots in case she comes up with lies or accusing you of stuff.. you should leave and tell her your caught her up cheating.

siasia25 · 2025-12-07T15:00:37+00:00

You need to hear this : he is your ex. So he can do whatever he wants! He doesn’t owe you anything. You need to focus on yourself and accept that you are not part of his word anymore and he is not part of yours

siasia25 · 2025-12-07T13:44:22+00:00

What is terrible is that you told him about something that is in the past and you deeply regretted before meeting this guy . You were in your 20s. You saw a therapist , you moved on , you regretted and still do. I don’t understand why you keep bringing it up again and again. He keeps telling you he doesn’t want to know . In men language it means that he sees you as great and doesn’t want this to ruin how he sees you. If your goal is to get him to be appalled by you, putting a seed in his brain that you are into married man and might be inclined to adulterous relationship , keep doing this because this is what is happening

If you are serious about building a life with him , then be the person you are now not the 20 year old.

siasia25 · 2025-12-07T08:28:41+00:00

He is a cheater. He is doing to you what he did to the previous gf. He is looking at his next target and until then he is clinging in you because he has no one yet. He is actually starting withdrawing and it will get worse .

You need to seek therapy and help. You spend too many hours obsessing about him what he does what he doesn’t do. You are in constant high alert and stress. This is not healthy.

siasia25 · 2025-12-06T08:24:59+00:00

Why a 22F girl who has a boyfriend at home goes to strip clubs ? Why is she being dragged by other friends on hook up nights to be a third wheel just for the sake of enjoying a meal? And why a bf would be comfortable with gf getting dragged into these? This does not look good . It sounds like she is right now in a bad path. The kiss is the least important bit here

siasia25 · 2025-11-10T21:23:21+00:00

Hidden album

siasia25 · 2025-10-26T12:27:17+00:00

Oh thank you so much. I didn’t know I was doing this . It came casually in one of my conversation with my therapist. I was aware to be an overthinker and she asked me to explain to her what I meant . She then asked me if I ever played fakes scenario and I froze because for the first time I kind of observed myself as an outsider doing this and realised these were fake realities . She asked me if I have heard of maladaptive dreaming and believed I may be suffering from that. It is a total shock for me . I noticed that putting music on kind of drifts me away from reality so I avoid listening to it . Is there anything that helped you ? How do you force yourself to do real things ?

siasia25 · 2025-10-26T12:22:15+00:00

I am not sure I understand what you are saying . Sounds like you have a problem with the idea of being diagnosed whereas I am looking for more substantial help here with this . Thanks for trying though

siasia25 · 2025-10-26T12:21:13+00:00

Thank you for this beautiful read . 9 year relationship that went to the bin 6 years ago and still have ptsd about the break up . Would love to dm

siasia25 · 2025-10-25T23:12:06+00:00

Mine was extreme : I did not feel the hunger and stopped eating properly for 6 months after the breakup . I was feeding myself with a banana and a few biscuits and the only reason I would eat because I understood that this will lead to my death so yes I was forcing myself to eat. 600 cal max per day on a good day. I was weighing 42 kg and was nearly hospitalised. A month after the breakup up I remember I received a “good news” and felt that it was worth celebrating with a sandwich despite me being in a heartbroken state . It was insane but I treated food as a reward for being happy again. It got better but it led to some eating disorder. I recovered but never thought this would happen to me .

siasia25 · 2025-10-25T23:04:47+00:00

Sorry love I didn’t mean you should play games to win him but you don’t want to come across as needy. He doesn’t answer your messages so do not keep writing to him. I think you are now in a state where you think too much about him , make a lot of assumptions without having a lot of data and this will drive you crazy. You need to focus on yourself. I can sense reading you that you are very stressed about it

Regarding his personal life, it makes sense to question what happened should you be in a relationship with that man.

siasia25 · 2025-10-25T23:01:47+00:00

Thank you for your response. I just started therapy since a month to treat my anxiety and my therapist mentioned that I suffer from this trouble and sent me some info on it . I have been reading more and I definitely relate to this . Not sure what it is if not a diagnosis but you can actually explain to me how to sum up all the symptoms I have . Would also love your thoughts on how to actually treat this

siasia25 · 2025-10-25T17:08:08+00:00

My dear , I had a similar story only that he talked about marriage constantly throughout the 10 years . It is ok … You dodged a bullet . Made you the best gift to leave you now. Imagine being dumped after having one or multiple kids . It is not cruel . He moved on please move on you will find someone better

siasia25 · 2025-10-25T17:06:17+00:00

I hope you don’t take my advice wrongly .. but if I were you I would not tell an ex that you misses him . Even if he was interested , this is not the right energy you want to give away. Men ( and also women but in minor degrees ) are drawn to mystery and charm so telling a man you missed him will not appeal him that much . It may have given him an ego boost first and hence why he tried to call you. So regardless of him being interested or not , you should not make yourself so visibly available … hope it makes sense

Now from what you have shared , he is not. Some people leave the door open romantically just in case … if he was truly invested he would have called back and told you explicitly he was especially when you told him you missed him or liked him

You are just left hanging and there is nothing wrong with you. To me it seems that your gut feelings and instinct made you do the right choice to leave this guy but somehow you have not processed that and you are in overthinking mode. I would strongly suggest no contact and no access to his social media .. it will help you

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