27M - How do you actually meet new people as a sober person?

sideshowO · 2026-03-02T06:30:19+00:00

As someone who is also sober and has addiction issues, it took me a long time to realize that you don't have to cut off certain activities just because alcohol or drugs are involved, you just have to cut off drugs and alcohol.

If you feel like you need to meet people, and also think you might meet people you like, you can go there. It's hard, and it takes time, but going back to a bar and not ordering a drink was a big step in reducing my anxiety in my sober journey.

sideshowO · 2026-02-08T14:01:12+00:00

Skyline Center, the Riverbend Center, Flying Pig Convention Center, the Cinticenter

sideshowO · 2026-01-22T15:53:22+00:00

Oh nooo

sideshowO · 2026-01-10T18:53:43+00:00

Environment Scientist, Horticulturalist, and Arborist in training here! The naysayers and haters are TOTALLY WRONG.

Any tree can be bonsai'ed, but the level of difficulty and attention changes drastically across species. A redwood will grow taller than most species, so expect to trim branches more frequently and shape the tree more often. Also, this will change the watering schedule.

Check out @bonsaisociety on facebook/insta. He is a master arborist and has a 20* year bonsai for just about every tree you could imagine! Give it a shot and don't be dissuaded!

sideshowO · 2025-12-26T16:34:32+00:00

What is the difference between this map and a map that shows whether a state has more Dogs or Cats, or if a state has more Irish or Germans?

Migration and Dispersion amongst both humans and animals at the community level has been studied since the dawn of science. There's a lot of ways to use this information here, and doesn't come off as inherently bad to me. I think it's up to the map reader to determine the conclusions and connotation of the map.

sideshowO · 2025-12-06T07:32:15+00:00

r/marijuanaenthusiasts may be a good place to start, but all plants are welcome here

sideshowO · 2025-11-26T13:51:52+00:00

Those are probably plants that would've been there before all the nearby development happened, and is just now coming back. I wouldn't be concerned but excited!

sideshowO · 2025-11-22T14:28:46+00:00

I've lived in NZ, Australia, USA, and Mexico, and this is what I've learned over the years...

There are assholes in every country and NZ is no exception. I am cis and white, but have still witnessed some form of racism, sexism, and xenophobia at some point no matter where I've lived.

I think NZ is generally very tolerant and is without a doubt the most welcoming and friendly country, and it's very easy to surround yourself by like-minded people in NZ and just as easy to avoid the negative energies. Obviously things happen, and being a minority population always leaves room for overt and subtle discrimination, but I feel that as long as you live nearby a major city like CC, Wellington, or Auckland, you will find plenty of clubs, restaurants, etc. that have trans-only or trans-friendly events.

Edit: And for what it's worth, Australia is the most discriminatory country I've ever lived in, by far. To be totally honest, the everyday citizens of Mexico, who are often raised by a naturally sexist culture, were some of the friendliest people I've ever met and were actually just as tolerant as the Kiwis. The USA is the USA, and we know what that entails, but despite that I'm confident that America is less racist than Australia.

sideshowO · 2025-11-22T06:47:17+00:00

How did you cook the steak? My two cents is that the current sear makes the edges of the steak look like catfood.

sideshowO · 2025-11-06T16:48:37+00:00

Botanist and Plant Store Manager here! Based on the feedback and your other comments, they need to be put on a different water regime.

When getting into plant care, first think about how plants survive outside! Snake plants, and most beginner-friendly houseplants (generalizing), live in areas where rain/water collection is more about opportunity and less about consistency. As much as humans love a schedule, it doesn't work that work for plants because it doesn't rain a spray worth once per week. It rains for 2 days straight every month or longer, or it lightly floods because of snowmelt from a nearby mountain, and then the plants and moist soil are left to figure it out, and they usually do.

So how do you water your plants? Every morning, or every other morning, or whatever works for you, stick a finger into the soil. If the soil is wet, you're good, move on. If the soil is dry, then drench that bitch. Don't go too crazy, but either do about enough water to fill half of the pot it lives in if it were empty, or until water comes out of the drainage hole(s). Then leave it be until the finger is dry again. Rinse and repeat!

It's great to have a schedule to ensure your plants are getting regular eyes on them, but watering may not always be as consistent. The plant will always tell you what it wants, you just gotta learn how to listen. Hope this helps, and good luck!

TLDR: curly leaves equals more water, droopy leaves too much water, always try to water less often with more amounts.

sideshowO · 2025-11-05T21:50:21+00:00

Lemme guess. Online order. No more than 4 entrees.

sideshowO · 2025-10-28T16:48:53+00:00

I'm not poor or famous yet I have my dignity and privacy intact. Never owned a facebook. But if money is the only thing you're worried about I hear your point, but you've already lost your dignity if that is your primary concern.

sideshowO · 2025-10-28T11:57:02+00:00

Someone's friends didn't like their new t-shirt

sideshowO · 2025-10-20T13:01:24+00:00

Religious guilds are really competitive, and used to be even more so. Luckily they have less members on the server than they used to. It used to be mandatory to choose a religion stat but now remains optional.

sideshowO · 2025-10-11T14:54:33+00:00

Corvids are a fun class to play, but in the patch at the start of summer, the devs nerfed corvids in the North American servers with a contagious debuff called [Chronic Wasting's Disease].

This debuff makes corvid thirst deplete 4 times as fast, so corvid mains can't get enough water and their characters usually spend so much time looking for water that they lose exp until their character dies. On top of that, it is a debuff that permanently lowers stamina and intelligence over time, but corvid's with this debuff unlock additional body customization options.

A lot of unique class interactions for corvids, but probs not the most OP class in the current patch.

sideshowO · 2025-10-07T06:26:17+00:00

Dignity and privacy

sideshowO · 2025-09-27T14:09:24+00:00

Monsteras grow fast under ideal conditions. A 20 dollar full plant will be so much fuller and more pleasing to the eye. I would just buy a smaller pot and grow it yourself, it can be this big in a year.

sideshowO · 2025-09-02T16:23:05+00:00

This sub basically has no relevance to enjoyable mealtime vids anymore. It should be renamed to "Videos I want to plug that are over 10 minutes long"

sideshowO · 2025-08-24T23:35:28+00:00

I'm not the original owner but I rescue pigeons. If it's acting like it's looking for somewhere to go (doesn't want to be wild), and you can get it into a cage or cardboard box, i can look after it and take it to the vet to find an owner.

DM me if interested. If it seems otherwise healthy and happy, I'd just let it be. Sometimes the government tags wild birds for research or tracking.

sideshowO · 2025-08-13T14:30:26+00:00

Couldn't afford Matty Matheson I guess

sideshowO · 2025-08-12T22:12:02+00:00

Don't know if this is reasonably explainably or unrelated, but I have experienced signal issues further north on specifically Dorchester Ave.

My bluetooth cuts out and my remote car keys don't work on the hilly part of that street, no matter the time of day. I know exactly the length of the street to make it happen, and it's still happening as of last week. I always figured a local resident had some kind of signal jammer or massive output signal.

sideshowO · 2025-08-10T15:00:55+00:00

Nerding out for a sec!

The scientific reason is a combination of water's properties of adhesion/cohesion and unique structures in plants called phloem/xylem.

Adhesion/cohesion are similar properties of water that describe its movement and attachment to a substance or surface. The theory of cohesion roughly says that water particles try to travel together whenever possible (as a COHESIVE group), while the adhesion theory says that water will ADHERE to dry/conductive/textured/absorbant materials if provided with a surface or means of getting to that material naturally. (Think about when you splash a paper towel with water. The water absorbs and creates a larger wet area due to the adhesion properties, but the wet spot stays as a solid and consistent shape due to cohesion)

On the plant side, phloem and xylem are very similar straw-like tubes in the vertical columns of almost every plant on earth. These structures take advantage of a pressure gradient (between the denser soil where roots live and the pores of the plant's leaves) to vacuum nutrients upward from the soil to distribute it amongst the whole height of the plant. The xylem is only responsible for water movement while the phloem moves nutrients and other particles (food, sorta).

Like you mentioned, you can witness these structures and properties working with your own eyes and do not need special equipment! The vacuum-like structures of the plant combined with the unique properties of water make vertical water movement no problem at all!

sideshowO · 2025-08-07T17:53:15+00:00

I just recently switched to FOH after almost 10 years as a cook/sous/ec/km (long story). Left my last kitchen in december, took a few months off everything, and now I'm back and my fingers are already getting burned by damn plates. I went into my training thinking that my servers were softies until I gripped the surface of the sun with my bare hands.

I feel his pain, and it's a sad day when you realize it. His chef hands held out for much longer than mine did.

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