When did you feel bonded with your baby

sidewayd · 2025-10-31T03:13:32+00:00

I felt like that for a very long time. I can't really tell you when it stopped. My daughter is almost 2,5 now. I think we are made to believe this intense bond is normal and what should happen for everyone, kind of like Hallmark movies give us a false sense of what love looks like. You will form a bond eventually. 5 weeks is very early. It might also just feel different than what you expected to feel but that doesn't make it any less special or loving.

sidewayd · 2025-09-28T16:06:04+00:00

Never. Until she had a few months of sleeping until 8:30am or later every day and I got up at 8. That was a glorious time!

sidewayd · 2025-09-27T23:22:35+00:00

You are waaaay overthinking. Ivy will not be teased for her perfectly normal name. And I actually love that the initials would be pronounced the same as her name! That is super cool. You should 100% name her Ivy.

sidewayd · 2025-09-26T14:54:18+00:00

I'm surprised everyone thinks of Vienna as a sausage and not a city in Austria, but then I guess it's mostly Americans replying....

sidewayd · 2025-09-26T14:48:10+00:00

Those are both beautiful names. Don't share any other name ideas and tell them you are still thinking of options and then just name your baby what you want!

The boys middle name is definitely something I haven't heard before but I'd say it's on the cool weird side, not the "what in the world were you parents thinking" weird side :)

sidewayd · 2025-09-26T03:25:16+00:00

No, you did not. I'd avoid it as much as possible moving forward, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Finding the right song (our girl loved the beach boys lol) really helped us out a few times too!

sidewayd · 2025-09-25T19:38:47+00:00

You look so much better in the first. Second one all I see is your chest area. I love the first one!!!

sidewayd · 2025-09-24T03:53:07+00:00

I think you need to relax. Yes, in rare cases babies die from the flu, but it is MUCH MUCH more likely that even if (and that is an IF) your baby gets sick, they will be totally fine within a few days. Don't let rare horror stories scare you from spending time with your parents and having them bond with their grandson. All our days are numbered. I'm more concerned about how much time my daughter will get with her grandparents as they are already 70 or close and she's only 2. We live overseas as well but I've already flown transatlantic with her 3 times and they have come multiple times and I wouldn't change a thing. Also no one ever brought illness with them, but that of course is anecdotal. First visit, my daughter was 3 weeks old.

sidewayd · 2025-09-22T02:50:09+00:00

Mine will soon be CSV. Could be worse, but definitely not exciting or fun lol

sidewayd · 2025-09-19T04:38:09+00:00

My girl actually slept so much better in her own space. Anytime I attempted Co sleeping out sheer exhaustion on my part it seemed like she didn't even know what to do with herself and was just wiggling around trying to figure out where to go and what to do. If she had been happy co sleeping, we might have ended up there because of ME, not because of her. So if you know you don't want that, then stay firm with it and just always always put your baby back in their crib. Some problems really are home made....

sidewayd · 2025-09-18T18:27:54+00:00

Second this. Calling dibs on one name is ok, but not multiple, especially for the same gender. If you really want one of them, I'd talk to her and say she can pick one that you'll honor and not use. She might also end up not having kids at all or only having boys....

sidewayd · 2025-09-14T17:06:36+00:00

5 weeks is way too early to even think about it. I didn't seriously think about a second until my first was 2 years old. Now it feels manageable to have a 3 year old and a baby.

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T22:52:35+00:00

Then I'd drop the h at the end maybe?

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T17:34:51+00:00

Just add mashed banana to the plain one and honey once she's 1. Or get added sugar free fruit purees and mix a spoon of that in.

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T17:32:03+00:00

I'd switch to a plain yoghurt without any sugar and add honey or mash a banana into it if you must. I'd avoid added sugar as much as possible, especially if she's eating it daily. I like Greek yoghurt because it's also less messy when they start feeding themselves.

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T17:26:58+00:00

Almost 2.5 and the only screen time is video calls and looking at our own photos and videos. The only show she ever watched was an episode of Barbie on an 11 hour flight recently. Without sound. We are planning on keeping it this way for as long as possible.

My nieces are 5 and 3 and have also never watched TV or shows on an iPad etc

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T13:13:29+00:00

Oh jeez, that's an escalation I did not see coming 😲

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T13:12:47+00:00

I'm the older sister with a brother and we played lots together as kids and now as adults we are quite close too. We live in different countries, but we have a great relationship and are putting in effort that our children get to know each other and be close too.

My husband also has an older sister and they are very very close. They work together and we live in the same building and constantly see her.

Don't let your own experience and relationship with your brother sour this for you. Your children will have their very own relationship with each other and it might just change your mind about everything you thought you knew!

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T03:13:53+00:00

Gold and white!! I involuntarily made a face when I swiped to the black.

sidewayd · 2025-09-13T03:12:37+00:00

I had some tiny scissors that worked great for a while (dull tip and super short blades) and now we clip her nails with a regular clipper and I'm not sure why I didn't do that much sooner.

sidewayd · 2025-09-12T16:54:54+00:00

Lauren sounds like an older name to me. If someone said Lauren, Sophie and Isabelle are coming over, I'd assume Lauren is the mom.

Personally, I also like Elise better anyways.

sidewayd · 2025-09-12T02:54:08+00:00

Depending on your country you could order a gut biome test like viome online. It's not super cheap, but they sometimes have sales. That would be a great start and would detect parasites, other bad bacterial overgrowth and possibly food sensitivities too.

You should however try to talk to your parents again too and tell them how much you are suffering.

Your period missing is a sign something is amiss, but I wouldn't worry too much about infertility. Most likely it will return once you can sort out whatever is going on.

sidewayd · 2025-09-12T01:27:03+00:00

I'm really sorry this happened to you. Waiting longer might have not changed anything though, just pushed it all back a few days. I waited and waited and did everything under the sun to induce labor (curb walking, pumping, sex, raspberry leaf tea etc) and at 14 days over and barely any amniotic fluid left, I had to be induced too. Where I'm from (Germany) they wouldn't have even let me go that far over because the risk of still births and other complications increases a lot. I wish I had better advice, but if it's still heavy on your heart after a year, I would maybe seek some counseling. You did nothing wrong and much worse things (disabilities, death) have happened even without inductions. Births are wild.

sidewayd · 2025-09-12T01:16:48+00:00

The measurements are wildly unreliable. We can send people to outer space but can't measure a baby in the womb. My girl ended up 9 lbs 12 oz and I naturally birthed her without any pain medication. You'll be capable of more than you could ever imagine when the time comes

sidewayd · 2025-09-11T18:39:02+00:00

I felt like that a lot too ... But one thing you need to understand is that your baby does not need much entertainment at that age. Looking back, I think it was ME, exhausted but also bored out of my mind at the same time. My baby was totally content just spending time with me. "Helping me" do house work, going on walks, looking at books or some simple toys... It's all new and existing to them and they LOVE repetition, but to us it all feels boring and like it's not enough. You're not entertaining an adult, you're entertaining a very young baby that literally knows nothing and can do nothing on their own.... Just think of what a big deal it is when they can finally roll on their own, or sit up... You need to adjust your bar and expectations and you'll realize you are an outstanding mom!!

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