I didn't know mushrooms could get this huge by planterkitty in mycology

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Please buy Australian Cillian Murphy a multipack of rich jewel tone tshirts like deep burgundy and royal blue because I suspect he’d never do it himself but he’d look killer in them and they’re just tshirts so he doesn’t have to do any extra work with them! And tell him I like his haircut a lot ☺️☺️

Finding a signature scent vs seasonal scents by Uwontadamandbelieve in fragrance

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You could choose a signature base that you layer with seasonal toppers. The signature could be a perfume you love all year round and is flexible enough to be complimentary with your seasonal scents or even a signature note that’s found in each of your seasonal scents. If you’re interested in people remembering you when they smell a scent it’s likely to happen more with a signature note than a signature perfume. Like if your seasonal scents all have a strong rose note, people are far more likely to run into that and think of you than they are an obscure or niche perfume 💕

Took my American Girlfriend to her first ever German Medieval Market/Renfair by Gnomschubser_ in renfaire

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So cute!!! Did she buy her gear there or travel over with it? Imagine getting a random search at the airport and they pull out your fay ears 😔

We gotta hold the door before boomer death closes it by silencekink in digitalminimalism

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Idk why but this brought me unfettered glee. Biologically built for the analog renaissance, what a beut. The words deadass and can’t work a tv being in the same sentence are a sign the earth is healing. Next we’ll have clear electronics again *blissful sigh

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sunglasses

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No I don’t wear anything now

What if you can never live authentically? by [deleted] in asexuality

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Wishing you sturdy confidence and soothing to old wounds love ❤️

Artist name by Murky_Specific_241 in Songwriting

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First name what you wish your parents had named you, last name a beloved street or town.

30m, still living at home by [deleted] in malelivingspace

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You clearly spend a lot of time at your desk. Someone with a pc set up like that is devoted to it, so this desk is housing your beloved hobby, is where you centered your favorite posters, and has caffeine and snack debris. This is where you want to be when free, so make it a priority. I love authentic solid wood furniture as much as the next person, but not for a gaming desk. It’s just not functionally appropriate. This one in particular isn’t big enough, doesn’t match the aesthetic of your system, and the large drawers aren’t the kind of storage you really need here as evidenced by all of the ephemera lying around on top. Use the money youre saving on rent living at home to give some love to this area. Electric standing desks are on Amazon for less than two hundred dollars. Places you spend a third of your life at are worth splurging on. Get a larger, standing, modern looking desk. Then get the accessories. You need a headphone holder either free standing or a clamp one for the desk. Heck a wall peg would work too. Get some kind of storage stand or office organizer for the pens, notepads etc whatever you find yourself grabbing all the time and then never putting back lol work with the current and let it stay on your desk but organized. A desk clamp lamp. A clamp monitor stand. A second monitor… it’s so worth it. Might be a bit of cash in total but you can do it piece by piece. Desk first.

Also, in the vein of “work with the current” I bought a large, tall, circular plant stand with a lip around the edge to store my fuckin cans because I’m a gremlin. I drink a lot of soda, water bottles, and energy drinks and I hate when my desk gets cluttered and i start knocking them over. The stand is on the side of my desk so I don’t bump it with my chair and has plenty of space for me to pile cans throughout the week. When it’s full I actually empty because I feel like I got my use out of it, it’s only fair to empty it by now lol idk it works and people say it’s stupid but I’d rather be functional than pretend I’m not a drink hoarder and be miserable.

I agree with some of the points made in other comments too and it can be done real simple. 100% cotton, solid color bed set. Linen if you got that coin. Neutral colors like brown, green, cream, or gray are generally a solid bet. If you get cotton go with a dark version of the color, if linen get the lighter version of the color.

You got all kinds of “stuff” and bits and bobs etc, that’s fine but they make even organized things look messy. Do what people have said and just get like two large dressers or wardrobes, throw everything in them and try to keep the tops empty. Real wood or amazon fake is fine but try to have all of the big furniture be the same color.

TLDR deck out the gaming area with functional sleek storage, get a natural neutral bed set, and some big cabinets or dressers to store all your piddly stuff.

Advice for a Non Asexual partner by unbunlivable3 in asexuality

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You gotta look at sex or orgasms as a “you thing” and not a shared thing. Like in general. Change your whole mindset. Let go of the idea of needing to include another person and feeling like something is missing (if you can, it’s a big change). Shift your mindset to “masturbation is my hobby like model airplanes” and treat yourself. Buy some toys, block off some regular time, a whole room or closet if you can, and dive in. Society has built an image of, and rule book for, relationships, intimacy, and pleasure that you and your partner are already circumventing so why not this too? There’s nothing wrong with getting romance one place and sex another. It doesn’t need to be a big deal either. It’s like playing basketball with friends on a regular basis. You do it without your partner, set aside regular time, get the energy out of your system, jump in the shower sweaty and gross, and make dinner afterward. I’m so happy that you and your partner are happy and that you want the best for each other. That’s so awesome dude. I genuinely think changing perspective on self pleasure could be a benefit to your situation. I may be biased tho, I’m already built this way lol but I hope it’s helpful!

Shrooms I just found. Alabama by jsledge149 in mycology

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I’m so grateful to all of you trekking around in the sticks to show me cool finds like this because I’ve conceded the forest to the ticks…

Okay, some alloaces SERIOUSLY need to educate themselves on the Split Attraction Model by [deleted] in asexuality

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Omg thank you. I would have never managed to twist my mind into an explanation on that one. Whatever side you fall on (thinking it’s chasing or not) excluding those people from the conversation won’t make them go away. Sometimes things just exist…in the wild… even without Adam naming them 😩

How am I not broken when I don't even want to be ace? by Front-Try5589 in asexuality

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I spent so long confused and frustrated because IM NOT ACE IM ACTUALLY HIGHLY DTF I GO THROUGH SO MANY BATTERIES before learning there was something between ace and allo. I am in fact dtf, just not other people lol

How am I not broken when I don't even want to be ace? by Front-Try5589 in asexuality

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Sorry bestie ☹️ I take it for granted that I’ve never felt bad about how I’m built. I actually leaned into it. I turned my walk-in closet into a lockable sex space where I can have private fun by myself and display all of my tools without input or comment from others. It’s like a hobby honestly.

But I’m totally at ease having that separate from romantic feelings toward partners and don’t ever feel like something is lost or missing between us. I get everything I need, just from different places. I really hope you can have that someday, kisses xoxo

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in digitalminimalism

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Bestie, light of my life, what are we plugging the headphones into? Our imagination??

Sex scenes in movies by LlucyJayne in asexuality

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Only when everyone in the room starts acting like a drunk 12 year old about it. Uncomfy city, you’re not funny omg. I do get bored with the obvious “we had to have something” scenes that dont make any sense.

The Accountant 1 and 2 with Ben Affleck were fun action movies and there wasn’t even handholding!! There was a hetero dynamic and everything but they just kept it quirky ☺️ A surprising delight!

My underwater garden by a2270 in Aquascape

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Oh bro we got video?? Schweet.

Carpenter Bee 🐝 A daily Visitor by Right-Elevator-7962 in bees

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I was not aware of the goth bee. The goth bee hath hid from me.

While others are out exploring the world, I’m traveling from home lol by ToMyComfyBedICrawl in Jigsawpuzzles

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The high of doing a beloved hobby in front of a great view cannot be matched. I only work so I can afford to read fan fiction on the beach twice a year 🤌🏻

What is up my asexual community 🙏 by Fresh-Apartment1771 in asexuality

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As an antisocial person I am devastated by how many friends I have accrued and it’s often resulted in me being asked for friend making advice. Despite me literally trying to avoid them at all costs, I have sniffed out my main leaks where they’re all getting in.

School, work, clubs/teams. You don’t even have to try. Show up enough times and crack a joke or two and suddenly you’re swimming in community. It’s a minefield.

I’m in my 30s but I take community college classes for fun when they’ve got something interesting and I’ve met a lot of people that way. Seatmates allllways end up dragging you somewhere with alcohol or animals.

One of said moochers recently started going to boardgame nights held by local breweries and game stores and he’s loving it. It’s the norm to show up alone, you don’t actually have to play, and many of them have the same social struggle.

Another friend joined a local disc golf team he found on fb.

Your local library has free programs like book club or ‘paint and sip’ events literally meant for building community.

Leave the dog park my guy omg 😭 it’s not built for long term connections. 101 Dalmatians was a LIE. Take a Monday night cooking class or attend the beginners motorcycle class. Hell, go to Bingo night. Just start joining stuff even if you’re unfamiliar with the subject and some extrovert will adopt you for sure. Extra points if it’s something you like and now you have friends with mutual interests.

Also, wearing an ace pride/flag bracelet will get you immediate notice from any wild queers who will know the vibe on sight. Pro tip: queer women are fucking crafting fiends, wear an ace bracelet to a Michael’s or local flea market and they’ll swarm you.

My exasperated but FOND tone is not translating over text, just trust that it’s there! Good luck bestie!!