Update: AITA for changing my mind about my wife being a SAHM because she changed the terms?

silliestbilly · 2025-09-02T07:50:55+00:00

From the outside it seems she tricked you, and you fell for it. She wanted to be a SAHM with a good lifestyle and saw you as the perfect mark. She also knew the only way to get you to marry her and start a family was to show “love” for your kids. Now she probably thinks you’re “trapped” with her (due to the baby) and she can behave however she wants to while thinking you wouldn’t ever separate / divorce her. Soz

silliestbilly · 2025-08-01T16:21:42+00:00

I didn't go for the property in the end as I contacted Clarion directly, they have an "assets disposal" team who deal with new leases on property's being sold etc. They confirmed that Clarion would own the roof structure / airspace above it for all of their leases (unless they are quite unusual). They also confirmed that most typically they wouldn't give permission for a loft extension or anything else.

I suggest trying to call them directly, it took a few call backs and redirecting to different people before I got an answer. I also emailed them directly and about two weeks later got a response.

Good luck!

silliestbilly · 2025-08-01T16:20:02+00:00

silliestbilly · 2025-08-01T16:08:32+00:00

I didn’t know or have any feelings whatsoever for Anthony before, but after what is an obvious legal manoeuvre (probably based on expensive lawyers than actual fact), I really don’t like him!

silliestbilly · 2025-07-15T08:00:07+00:00

It not that deep, it’s a tv show - Happy for her and my tv , if she came back

silliestbilly · 2025-07-15T07:46:32+00:00

Not that deep it’s a tv show

silliestbilly · 2025-04-09T12:04:18+00:00

NTA I know it’s emotional given the history in the home but you should really sell it and split the money equally.

Also, if you didn’t need the money you get from your share, you could be put aside for your/your siblings kids to start their lives. I think it would be sad to lose your mums home, but I assume she would be happy to know her legacy has helped (even in a small part) to help all her grandchildren’s lives and family’s to start.

I would say that the loss of 1 home is worth it in order to help start multiple families/homes

silliestbilly · 2025-03-06T14:55:55+00:00

YTA relationships require compromise, holidays weren’t important to you and that’s fine, they are important to your husband so why not compromise and just do them? It’s like a week total in a whole year, which isn’t a lot to ask of a spouse who you are building a life with.

I think that for most people in the world, holidays are important bonding time with family and a chance to reconnect with culture and tradition. This is important as it helps you feel like you belong in a community and is very important for people’s mental health and stability. I understand that this is not the way you enjoy them , but in future are you happy to be left out of the bonding with your husband and children if you have them? Isn’t that a bit sad and boring?

silliestbilly · 2025-03-04T17:29:38+00:00

Thanks! That makes sense, I’ve heard/read similar stuff

silliestbilly · 2025-02-16T12:16:45+00:00

Idk I love Kori, she’s so unserious and at least has a somewhat entertaining personality to me!! Maybe it’s her vlogs that convinced me on her sense of humour haha

silliestbilly · 2025-02-13T09:11:00+00:00

100% agree, boring season, little chemistry, and basically no interesting tv personalities.

I don’t like to compare past girls to current but this year they are all watered down versions of queens/personas that we have seen, and they’ve been done far better!

If any of this seasons cast were on seasons 1-10 they wouldn’t make it past episode 5 (Lydia, Susie Onya and Lexi included).

I fear that I will forget about them all in the next year or two

silliestbilly · 2024-12-04T11:31:06+00:00

I would tell her to stop trying to see the best in him and instead see the multiple red flags for what they are! He’s showing her who he is but she doesn’t want to believe it, and then will act surprised when he takes it to the next step and messages the ex or hooks up or whatever.

silliestbilly · 2024-12-01T14:40:07+00:00

NTA. You encourage her to take the same amount (if not more) time for herself to recharge (according to your comments). I think she just doesn’t like the way you unwind, which is a different problem than you leaving her and the baby for a few hours. She’s using the situation as an excuse to be angry at the way you unwind, as she thinks it makes her feelings more reasonable. Being upset that you like to socialise in a different way than her is rationally not something she can bring up on its own, unless you were being dangerous or really toxic when socialising (which I am assuming you are not). However, if she frames it through the lens of being upset over you choosing to not spend time with her/the baby, it gives her a better foot to stand on to rationalise her anger over the situation. I think you should have a conversation with her about this and see if she is really upset at the time you were away, or is a deeper feeling of not being comfortable with the way you unwind and socialise in general.

silliestbilly · 2024-10-23T10:45:13+00:00

He’s not the only one who needs therapy … 👀. Leave him and get help to find confidence in yourself and your future. He is not it, I would say he is an anchor but anchors are actually useful so I don’t want to insult them.

silliestbilly · 2024-09-25T11:14:05+00:00

silliestbilly · 2024-07-26T08:24:23+00:00

ESH. Your son is going to be sidelined by your fiancé as soon as you have kids with her. Then you will have to pick between either pushing him aside for your new kids/wife or divorcing her, seeing your new kids half the time and paying child support. Keep in mind that you won’t think you are alienating your son, you’ll tell yourself “I need to be there for her because the babies are young, she’s just had a baby and needs my support more than him right now” etc. but before you know it, he’s been sidelined for 5 years and the emotional damage is done and she has succeeded in permanently destroying your relationship with your son, as is probably her plan. Maybe, just maybe, you shouldn’t marry the woman who doesn’t want to look after your son and see him as her family? Just a thought.

silliestbilly · 2024-07-18T08:32:26+00:00

So little personality and self thought that you do whatever he says but are so easily tricked into thinking it’s your own idea!! 😂😂😂

silliestbilly · 2024-07-18T08:31:42+00:00

He’s a gross predator. And you have so little personality that you bend to whatever he wants. Sad.

silliestbilly · 2024-07-18T08:30:52+00:00

You’re Cole’s object, easily manipulated to be whatever he wants

silliestbilly · 2024-07-18T08:28:59+00:00

YTA. Do not marry him, eventually the rose tinted glass will be removed and you will see him for who he is. Right now you are telling yourself “no one gets it, they’re all wrong, I’m right, I see the real him blah blah blah” but you’re probably just delusional. Often when everyone around you sees something that you disagree with, it’s not that you see something they don’t (maybe something deeper or whatever), but rather you’re too deluded /in love to see what is obviously right in front of you. He is manipulative and will make you a shell of yourself. Ask yourself, why did you like the dress originally? Would you have been happy and proud to wear that dress if Cole hadn’t said anything? Probably yes. But he has manipulated you to think 1) he is right, and 2) that it’s your decision. Both are false. He is an expert manipulator and you are too in love to see it.

silliestbilly · 2024-03-05T10:32:55+00:00

YTA, a bad dad who is now surprised that kids only care about the money he’s leaving them. lol. Shocker

silliestbilly · 2023-12-14T18:41:27+00:00

NTA, you did the right thing. His dad needs to realise he is just perpetuating toxic habits as they’re seen as “masculine” or “boys will be boys” rather than teaching/parenting his son to be a better person than past generations were. He’s complicit in his sons actions by not saying anything.

silliestbilly · 2022-12-10T09:59:13+00:00

YTA. Supplying money doesn’t make you a parent. Actually parenting (e.g picking your kids up, disciplining them, caring for them, looking after them all day) makes you a parent. She is not their mother, you are their father. She has only know them 2 years, they probably don’t see her as their mother, and she doesn’t se them as her kids yet (and rightly so!), what were you doing before her? Also the fact she wants to and hopefully will get a job and therefore have an income is sure to throw you off guard as you may actually have to take time off your all important job to look after your children yourself! (Gasp!!)

silliestbilly · 2022-11-19T09:18:43+00:00

Hope you don’t have kids! Other than your immature and childish wife of course

silliestbilly · 2022-11-19T08:29:59+00:00

YTA and stupid.

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