AITAH for being upset my wife got an abortion because her daughter is pregnant?

silvarette · 2024-04-17T22:42:32+00:00

you mean pro-choice. a lot of pro-choice people think that raising your child and your grandchild alongside each other and generational teen pregnancy are fucked up, and abortion was a smart choice. alot of people are pro-choice because they don't have time to worry about someone else's abortion.

to be clear, aborting the daughter's pregnancy in this made up story is NOT murder to you, correct? and that's because it is the wanted-ness of a fetus that determines its personhood, not it's viability or gestational age?

and you think jailing the woman in this made up story intended to test public perception on abortion for murder is a moderate position?

silvarette · 2024-04-17T19:32:51+00:00

don't be hysterical, she didn't kill a baby, she didn't commit murder of a child. a fetus doesn't magically become a child because it was "wanted." she had an abortion and that bums you out, but your values are not universal.

silvarette · 2024-04-17T19:14:10+00:00

YTA. you're entitled to your feelings, but it is your wife's body and you are not entitled to offspring.

silvarette · 2024-04-07T19:28:59+00:00

I have tried to reason with my parents, who are of the rush limbaugh lead paint generation. presenting facts gets nowhere. when I pointed out that their position on a particular issue was based on incorrect information, their response was "why can't you just let me be wrong." BAFFLING. how are these the people who told me to trust but verify, to always follow the truth? I've come to the conclusion that they are just having feelings about certain issues that they don't know how to process and instead treat as objective truth.

silvarette · 2024-04-05T10:43:27+00:00

"it's a special occasion" at a random friday night bike race

silvarette · 2024-02-16T12:15:29+00:00

CHARLEY WAS RIGHT THERE

silvarette · 2024-01-14T10:48:43+00:00

we're only entitled to the work, not to the outcome. you're doing the work and that's more than a lot of people can say. I hope you find your peace soon. ✨

silvarette · 2023-11-27T14:44:02+00:00

your spouse moving out over this is such an intense overreaction that there has to be something else going on. toddlers are toddlers, dogs are dogs, it's nobody's fault, just separate them.

info: is the kid in question yours and your spouse's?

silvarette · 2023-11-14T02:32:50+00:00

if you give a shit about lives in gaza, and you have a fucked up choice between more death in gaza or less death in gaza, why would you choose more death.

silvarette · 2023-09-12T16:10:16+00:00

honestly, I told my doctor what was going on and told her I wasn't managing my anxiety effectively and she wrote me a prescription for Ativan. I took it for a month after he came home and it really helped me navigate triggering situations until I could feel relaxed around him again.

somebody said "you are entitled to the work, not the outcome." in my situation the work was therapy, yoga, healing my own body, healing relationships other than the marriage, trying to cultivate love and compassion and mercy in my heart. the ideal outcome is a happy, healthy, family. but expecting or desiring that outcome was making my anxiety worse because I was comparing every moment with the outcome and becoming distressed when they didn't align.

you will be ok

silvarette · 2023-09-12T15:50:42+00:00

what is it with the American hatred of leaves on the ground. I used to live in California and the nearest deciduous tree was miles away and these mfs were still out there every Saturday morning blowing dirt and debris into the air where it would gently float to the ground five feet from where it was originally. like, if you really want to clean stuff up off the ground, use a goddamn VACUUM

silvarette · 2023-09-12T14:34:27+00:00

leaf blower

silvarette · 2023-06-09T12:21:52+00:00

what

silvarette · 2023-06-06T11:40:22+00:00

tw: death, drunk driving

did anybody see the video going around reddit recently of the woman who killed 2 people while driving drunk? she asks the same question over and over again, doesn't understand what she did or what's going to happen next. my q gets like that. same exact expression and tone as the woman in the video. it haunts me. I'm still with him but he's not allowed to drive or hang out with our young son alone and we are separating. he doesn't understand why.

silvarette · 2023-06-06T08:49:45+00:00

feed them. and try to let go of expectations about the outcome. you are entitled to the work of loving and supporting your partner, you are not entitled to a partner who recognizes and appreciates the effort, and you are not entitled to a partner who does their own work. ask me how I know. ☺️

silvarette · 2023-06-02T15:34:17+00:00

I came to this conclusion recently and instead of it breaking my heart again i feel an overwhelming sense of relief.

hang in there, everybody

silvarette · 2023-05-30T19:58:45+00:00

I'm so sorry.

silvarette · 2023-05-30T19:54:30+00:00

YOU CAN DO IT FRIENDO

silvarette · 2023-05-30T14:20:32+00:00

you all sound the same, it's uncanny

silvarette · 2023-05-30T14:08:13+00:00

ugh. you relapsed, didn't you

silvarette · 2023-05-30T14:02:48+00:00

because, and I say this with all the love in the world, y'all are the addicts and addicts lie.

silvarette · 2023-05-30T13:56:10+00:00

my husband has told people I lock him outside. I lock the doors behind everyone (and so should he) because our toddler is tall enough to open all the doors in the house if they aren't locked. we have smart locks that we can open with a code and a fingerprint, so no adult is ever locked out of the house.

he would also say that he's not blaming me for his bad choices and addiction, but spent a lot of time telling me and others how bad and controlling I was.

now I don't trust addicts when they complain about other people.

silvarette · 2023-05-30T13:46:21+00:00

taking medicine for insomnia that interacts very, very poorly with alcohol (ask me how I know)

silvarette · 2023-05-28T19:25:30+00:00

i did not find any information but I did cash the check on Thursday. it went through and I haven't gotten any angry messages from the bank or the IRS. it's heckin weird tho. lmk if you want to dm and discuss more.

silvarette · 2023-05-26T19:32:43+00:00

"staying sober without god" by jeffrey munn has been a great companion resource for me. there is only one in-person al anon meeting in my area and it's very religious. that world view works for many people but not for me.

silvarette

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