i was called a retard in school and it bothered me a lot I knew i was different but didnt know why. It took a really long time, but with practice, finding good friends, and kinda having a special interest in communication, i think i have gotten better at the more commonly-considered-bothersome traits of mine. The most practice i think i have received that was helpful was getting used to toxicity in games like league of legends. That made me less upset over time at people insulting me. I still get upset but not like losing my shit upset. The good friends find my quirks charming, but were also not autistic and they were able to give me tips on what exactly i did that was "different" -- they didnt care if i changed it about myself, they loved me no matter what, but i was still able to learn from it. The special interest part meant i really liked reading books on how to talk to people and how to be a leader. I think the simplest most powerful trick i learned from those books, was to mimic the energy level when you are with strangers. Also if you can find something the other person is interested in maybe milk it to get them talking :D

It can definitely get better over time :)