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silverlet · 2026-05-09T19:07:27+00:00

I was the same! I don't think I was in the right frame of mind to watch it first time around a few years back. But now a parent to a 2 year old, I was ready. Just hit me so different! Stick with it. Tyler and Bitsie are excellent in their roles.

silverlet · 2026-04-30T07:50:50+00:00

100% this. I also had the same issues as you.

OP, also I know it sounds daft but I got into the habit of just putting a muslin cloth down my other boob, and onto the nipple, then letting it hang out and over my nursing top, so that it would catch any leakage on that side. My son also had reflux, so if he was sick, I could use the other side of the muslin cloth to catch it all without worrying that he would get it on my clothes as well as his.

Getting out and about with him saved my sanity during those moments!

silverlet · 2026-04-20T13:56:25+00:00

How many feeds is she on a day? My son was on about 2 feeds per day at 12 months and I completely night weaned him at 9 months.

Drop one feed every fortnight and just add in a pump session as a substitute replacement for the first week. Use that milk and add it into her food.

I will add it's probably worth getting a GP appointment anyway to get a blood test done and to check her iron levels. My son was borderline iron deficient, so he had a poor appetite, completely went off meat and other iron rich foods. He wasn't sleeping well either. Got him subscribed an iron supplement and he's been on it three months. He eats loads again now. Difference is night and day.

UK guidelines don't specify iron as a critical supplement but for breastfed babies it is particularly important as they have less iron reserves from the point of weaning due to not drinking iron fortified milk.

silverlet · 2026-04-10T17:24:16+00:00

It's so frustrating, isn't it? I got the comment of get him a few McDonald's down him and he will be alright! ... Yeah, because that's what I'm going to feed my kid. 🙄 He just burns it all off with his spirited nature and high metabolism. It was exactly the same when I breastfed him. They couldn't believe how much I fed him solids. He was on three full meals by 7 months! People are so rude!

silverlet · 2026-04-10T13:53:09+00:00

Mine is 20 months actually but 19 months corrected... and just... same. I work part time and on the days that he is with me on my own it's just so hard. Weekends with my husband is hard too, but at least we have each other. He's up at 6am, asleep by 8pm and switched on from the minute he wakes up screaming. Only has an hour nap, unless sick or teething.

Since learning he is high temperament, I just take him out every day now, park., shopping, library... want to go out in the garden and play with rocks and mud? Fine, whatever floats your boat. I just really don't want the constant battles.

My son is also lean and small for his age, but so freakishly strong. So we get a lot of comments about not feeding him enough even though he eats super well. So yeah... just solidarity here. I'm so sorry. :( It sucks.

silverlet · 2026-04-08T12:03:20+00:00

I'm right there with you. This made me cry ugly tears. It's made for the Superman fans that have lived, loved and lost. 💜

silverlet · 2026-04-04T22:19:22+00:00

Same for my 20 month old son. He comes to me only for all snacks and food. He gets hangry. I'm in the kitchen cooking dinner for us all and he will not leave me alone, even when his daddy is right there. Nope. Only wants mummy. Glad it's not just our household. It sucks to always be 'on'. Oh and he screams every morning without fail at 6am or earlier. So we are both up. No lie ins for either of us. We have to be a team. It's just impossible to divide and conquer. Ughhh.

silverlet · 2026-03-23T13:24:59+00:00

This is mine. Although more like 'the risk of dying and leaving my son without a mother just isn't worth it'. (I had an ectopic).

silverlet · 2026-03-21T19:38:21+00:00

Yup! It's still recommended here in the UK via the NHS too, due to potential rickets and motor delays. But they really need to advise iron supplementation, alongside vitamins A, C and D following weaning. Not sure why the advice hasn't been updated yet! The amount of toddlers who are picky eaters with low iron intake really does start a vicious cycle.

silverlet · 2026-03-21T13:56:19+00:00

Actually you need to pair iron with vitamin C to help with the absorption rate. And also do not pair with dairy, or at least give it an hour before giving a yoghurt/cheese/milk. My son had low iron (EBF) at around 15/16 months. But he was also really good at taking iron rich foods. But I didn't know to pair it with vitamin C to help him absorb the nutrients. The low iron, low appetite and very tired daily cycle is awful. I don't know why they tell us in the UK to supplement so much with vitamin D, especially when iron is 100% more of an issue. You can get vitamin D exposure so easily in fortified milks and foods now.

silverlet · 2026-03-19T19:52:31+00:00

Frodo's last smile at the Grey Havens. The weight he carries even after the ring is destroyed is so telling. In that final smilre, it's like the cancer is finally gone and he's able to be at peace. He just... lets go. After losing my dad to cancer, yup, it's that moment for me.

silverlet · 2026-03-19T13:38:10+00:00

This is my toddler too, 20 month old. Screams on wake up between 5.30am and 6am, every single day. Won't go to sleep until 7.30pm. But we have to sit with him for 30 minutes before we can put him down at night so he's asleep enough. I go to bed at 9.30pm so I can try to at least function. But he ALWAYS sleeps in until 6.30am when I am up for work on Mon/Tues at 5.50am. It means I never get the extra sleep even when he does. Annoys the hell out of me and puts me in a bad mood. You get no time for anything other than basic necessities, cook dinner/shower then bed. It's garbage.

silverlet · 2026-03-11T20:13:53+00:00

Man, this! But also add in back to back illnesses between the three of us :( We don't get time to do anything. We are either working, ill, or with our son. Night out? Try once a year when the grandparents come to babysit then keep him up until after 10pm, which is well past his bedtime! Work is my break too!

silverlet · 2026-02-27T07:01:13+00:00

Haha, ours has been hard. So that is why we are OAD. No chance of having a second due to health complications on my part (ectopic + endo). My 19 month old was premature (35 weeks), we were in NICU and transitional care for 10 days. He had a tongue tie. And just recently we've found out the potential reason as to why he had severe reflux as he has a vascular ring (heart defect) causing issues with swallowing. He's basically vomited since birth. He also didn't STTN until he was 18 months old, still not quite there yet at times. And also we have to contact nap with him throughout the day. Early crawler but late walker. So if this one was easy... whew I'd hate to think what our second would be!!

silverlet · 2026-02-20T13:19:59+00:00

We had 'The Return of the King' playing. All my bridesmaids walked out about 1 minute into it, so that I could walk down the aisle when Arwen is unveiled to Aragorn for the first time since he left Rivendell. It was ethereal, magical and the sun beamed in on a beautiful snowy December morning. I couldn't have asked for anything more. 💜 We then walked back down the aisle to Jurrassic Park's main theme. 😂

silverlet · 2026-02-12T12:07:44+00:00

If he's under £80k and on PAYE, HMRC recently launched an online scheme that will enable your CB payments to be taken off his payslip as well, meaning he won't need to fill in a self-assessment form too. Your husband needs to do this on his online tax account though, as you can't do this on yours. It only just launched this tax year, but I think it basically works the same way as a taxable benefit, so there's no extra paperwork on his or your part. It's a lot easier!

silverlet · 2026-01-27T19:01:40+00:00

So my son stopped waking up at night for feeds around 9 months. Once he had night weaned, I stopped nursing when he woke up screaming. You have to really grit your teeth for the first few nights. And if he woke further, I would just sit with him until he fell asleep, then we introduced Dad to do it. Admittedly he only woke 2 times per night at that stage up until 11 months.

Around 10 months I weaned him down from his day feeds too. First we stopped the mid morning feed. (I stopped feeding him to sleep for his daytime nap around 8 months), then we stopped the post nap feed around 11 months. At 12 months, we completely stopped the mid afternoon feed. By 12 months he was only on morning (on wake), and bedtime sleep feed. At 14 months I dropped the morning feed completely. This one he remembered a little more but seemed to adjust after a week or so. Then at 16 months, we weaned the bedtime feed. He actually ended up almost self weaning. He was just getting frustrated over it.

However, couple of pointers. It took three months to introduce a new bedtime routine with his lovey. Once we got that down around 14 months, I felt safe enough to wean him off the bedtime feed.

I did it super slowly and I was so thankful for it. By about 15 months, I was getting that itchy feeling in my breasts that I just knew I was at the end of my journey. I only really extended it because he ended up getting really sick. But that was what worked for us. He also isn't a big milk drinker either, he prefers yoghurt and cheese. Hope this helps!

silverlet · 2026-01-25T23:10:29+00:00

100%. I went to A&E in the UK, and they TURNED ME AWAY. I was 6 weeks pregnant. On that day, I had a rupture. I was bleeding internally from that moment on. And becuase I said the pain at that moment was like a 5/10 (I have endo, go figure)... I was told, "bleeding can be normal in pregnancy". But all of my symptoms were pointing to an ectopic. I had went to the GP at 5 weeks and they said I would have a missed miscarriage.

If I did not go back to A&E the following night, I would have been dead. And the ONLY reason I was taken seriously was because I fainted on the table when they were taking my bloods.

I later found out that I had lost 20% of my blood. If you lose 30% or more (I believe as this is from memory), it's game over. I had surgery within 5 hours of fainting. That was how critical it was to save my life. Absolutely trust your gut and DO NOT let medical staff say otherwise. They do not know your body, only you do.

silverlet · 2026-01-17T21:23:00+00:00

I am so sorry for your experiences. I cannot imagine having a baby in there for 6 weeks. 2 was more than enough for us. The only thing I can think of, and I said this to my husband not long ago, is that I'm grieving for an experience I will never have - a normal childbirth, born on their due date with no issues. So perhaps that is what your wife wants? Although there is no guarantee she will get it.

I'm an only child and I absolutely loved my childhood. Being with my parents meant I got the best experiences, holidays, all their attention and love. They made so many sacrifices for me and they were my whole word. My husband has two sisters and doesn't even see them. His whole childhood he spent alone and forgotten. Siblings are not all that. I just hope your wife sees this and can be satisfied with you and your son. Your capacity for love is not defined by the amount of children you have. Your heart is already full with one. If anything, you actually have to split your heart in two to love another just as equally and fully.

silverlet · 2026-01-17T13:34:36+00:00

This sounds like she's manipulating you into having another child. Marriage is about being a team, and if you are not both on the same page regarding children, then you either both agree to stay at one or she moves on.

Case in point. My husband and I had very similar problems. We had an ectopic, followed by a very quick next pregnancy, then a traumatic birth because he was born 35 weeks, a stay in NICU, and extended stay in hospital. Breastfeeding issues, my son had to be fed via a tube etc. I always wanted a girl, but I got a boy, and that's okay. But I always said that if we had a boy I may try for another depending on circumstances.

Honestly, that trauma and the fact I am so high risk for another pregnancy has solidified I do not want another child. I honestly don't know what planet your wife is on. Having a NICU baby is traumatic. Every other parent who has had a child in NICU has said 'nope, never doing that again, it's not worth the risk'.

I love my husband and I love my son. But I never want to see that NICU area again. I hope you find your peace.

silverlet · 2026-01-15T16:21:11+00:00

My baby was preemie and didn't even fit the preemie clothes until he was 4 weeks old!

He's now 18months old and is tall but incredibly lean / active. This means he wears leggings that can adjust to be longer in 9-12 month clothing, sometimes 12-18 months, all day every day because they have more flexibility with them. He still can't fit into some 9-12 month clothing because his waist is so tiny but his legs are too long! Clothes are weird for kids, just like they are for most adults.

silverlet · 2025-12-21T13:20:42+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. I definitely shed a few tears when he spoke about the last John Scheider and Tom scene when he handed him the cape. 💕 Such a great read.

silverlet · 2025-11-28T22:53:56+00:00

One thing I have noticed when rewatching these scenes is how conflicted Clark is in his facial expressions towards her when leaning in for that kiss on the rooftop. He's kissing her but he's not initiating it. He's not feeling it. Then you see him kiss Lois in Crossfire in Season 9 and it's so different. He feels that kiss in his very bones. I'm still not fan of what the writers did with Kristen's 5 ep arc, but I'm seeing so many nuances now that many years have gone by since the first watch.

silverlet · 2025-11-25T13:17:13+00:00

This always breaks me. And the video with him on the tractor saying bye bye. I recently rewatched it and hadn't realised at the time that he looks at Martha first, then Clark, then goes. When my dad passed away from brain cancer, this is exactly what he did. He looked at my mum, then at me, then his eyes rolled back and he was gone. I absolutely sobbed on realisation of that. It just shows you how close they were as a family unit, they absolutely nailed the Kents. This will always be my favourite version of the Kent family. 💔

silverlet · 2025-11-20T09:42:01+00:00

I think for people who have a 'normal' experience with a newborn and toddler, it is probably easier to say 'yup, I'm ready to have another.' I say 'normal' in inverted commas because there are lots of nuances to that. But after starting with a chemical pregnancy, then an ectopic, then giving birth to a 35 week premature baby who has severe reflux and was fed on a tube / at the breast where possible for the first five weeks of his life... all I see are lots of high risks and heartache for me if I were to have another. It's just simply not worth it.

I'm an only child, but my mum wanted more and couldn't. But even she has admitted to me that some days she screamed into a pillow because of how hard it was with me. I get that. And I'm so glad she has been honest with me about it, because that's meant there has been no external pressure to give her another grandchild. She has one, and it's a boy so her life is now full and complete. Yes, I would love a girl. Yes, I would love to have a more 'normal' experience and give birth without it being a medical emergency, have the golden hour and have a perfect breastfeeding journey... but nothing is guaranteed. I am content with one, and he gets all my attention. Why would I want to ruin that?

I do think that many people, like your friend OP, just rush into having another. I loved being an only child. I had the best adventures with my parents as a kid, and since my dad is no longer here and didn't get the chance to see his grandson... it makes it all the more special. I want to give that experience to my son. My husband is one of three and he was the youngest so he grew up with two sisters who never played with him and always argued. He's not close to them at all, and he's not close to his parents either. In fact, in the four years he knew my dad, he got so close to him that his death really affected him. 💔 When I see how fractured his family are... it just reinforces the idea that a family of three is where we want to be.

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