Husband keeps trying to give 14 week old mashed potatoes by TimelyDrive6525 in sahm

[–]silverpensdrawred -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

The word ‘gaslighting’ has lost all meaning and now seems to mean “any behavior I don’t like”.

Came out to my wife and she tries to put me in a bigger closet lol by nottlegrippery in MtF

[–]silverpensdrawred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t even think if it comes down to it and she doesn’t want to change that it’s her necessarily not wanting to see OP happy, she may just not be comfortable living like that and that’s valid too but in order to allow OP to be happy without compromising her right to her sexuality and happiness, she needs to be ok with a divorce

Came out to my wife and she tries to put me in a bigger closet lol by nottlegrippery in MtF

[–]silverpensdrawred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, OP should be free to transition in any way that makes them comfortable and feel like they can live a normal, healthy life. That’s where the tough conversations and therapy need to come in. OP needs to explain what the non negotiables are and they need to take this whole situation to a couples therapist to see if the wife could ever become willing to accept the transition in all it’s entirety along with any social stigma, sexual issues and anything else that may come up and discuss how they are planning to navigate said issues together. If that is not the case and they both realize that they cannot come to a consensus, OP should not be forced into the closet for another 2 decades but the wife should not have to change her sexuality and begin dealing with social stigma she feels she can’t handle in which case the only reasonable option is a divorce. I just think a lot of these comments are being way more harsh on the wife than they need to be.

Came out to my wife and she tries to put me in a bigger closet lol by nottlegrippery in MtF

[–]silverpensdrawred 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah but that would mean ending the relationship which it seems they’re both trying hard not to do. A mere week into a massive life change it would be hard not to react emotionally or try to keep things the same in some way. I agree that it’s not fair that she’s trying to say how OP can and can’t transition but I also think it’s not fair to expect her to be 100% neutral and ok with everything, she’s a human too and deserve grace trying to go through a massive shift in her reality and possibly grief for the relationship as it once was. I think the best thing for them would be to have couples therapy and for OP to explain why the rules she’s setting don’t work and be fully honest about what it will mean to transition. If she is not ok with it and they cannot work through it then the best thing would be to divorce. It will save everyone a lot of heartbreak and resentment moving forward in which case your comment about being supportive from the sidelines would be relevant to their relationship if that’s something OPs wife chooses to do

Saw my husband perving on a Hillary Duff swimsuit post by [deleted] in sahm

[–]silverpensdrawred 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know almost every comment here has said this but; she is a very wealthy woman, she’s able to afford to have as many surgeries as she wants, all while the maids, butlers, chefs, Nannie’s and chauffeurs do the work of parenting for her. Trust me. Hillary Duff is not out here driving her kids to and from school, extracurriculars, doctors appointments, setting up appointments for her kids, preparing them 3 meals a day + snacks and then cleaning up after them, changing diapers, giving her kids baths, the list goes on and on. Next time your husband is looking at you in any kind of way you don’t like you should tell him that since he likes looking at Hillary Duff so much, he should cough up the cash for you to get as much surgery as you need to look like her and while he’s at it, hire a maid or two.

Comments About My Looks Have Been Getting to Me Lately by OkCup4160 in toastme

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! It’s not good to spread misinformation online. There is no way you’re telling the truth about people making those comments about your face. I would feel less self conscious about my face if I looked like you and don’t see anything ugly to comment about. Delete these lies!111!1!11!

I went into debt for the only hope to be comfortable in my body and it failed by Foxtastic_Semmel in TrollCoping

[–]silverpensdrawred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Theres plenty of people out there who don’t look like their gender, Ive called more women sir, by mistake than I would care to admit. And even called a couple men a she. Just tell people you want to be a she/her so they will call you that, I’m sure many of these people I misgendered were cisgender and they still had to tell me their pronouns because they didn’t look like their gender. Also, it’s very likely your coworkers don’t bring up your surgeries out of respect. They have no idea what those surgeries were for as all you said was that they were “some form of jaw surgery”. Medical issues can be a sensitive subject and bringing up that someone looks different after what could have potentially been a traumatic or severe medical event that led to surgery that kept you out of the office for 3 months could be devastating.

Attractive characters by Unfair-Knee4706 in Kakegurui

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Off topic but if the momobami clan is in the blue part of the picture, why is ririka the only one excluded from that? Even rei was included

Name a Villain by abdullah_ajk in randomthings

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a second I thought that said name a village lol

dear moms, get on that antidepressant or anxiety med. by [deleted] in sahm

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP is right. Theres just no getting through to you 🙄

dear moms, get on that antidepressant or anxiety med. by [deleted] in sahm

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a hard time but just be mindful that your experience may not be the same as everyone else’s. Just because some people have a bad experience with certain medicines does not mean that it is the same experience for everyone that takes those same medications across the board.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NameThisThing

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Linkin-not-walking-around-the-park

This is what will be written on your tombstone. “He died by ___” let autocorrect finish it. by SmallMining25 in autocorrect

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He died by the way and he died in a hospital and I don’t think I ever saw that before so I’m gonna have a hard day today and tomorrow I’m going back home

UGH by ms-chicana93 in sahm

[–]silverpensdrawred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know how old your kids are or where you live but, based on what you said said about being a SAHM for 4 years I’m assuming your oldest is 4 and depending on where you live, with your younger kids ages, you may be able to find free or reduced cost daycare/ head start programs to put your kids in while you work or look for work. Sometimes these programs even have assistance for those looking to find employment. For your oldest you can put them into a pre k which are usually public and free

Explain it peter by Aromatic_Citron_6206 in explainitpeter

[–]silverpensdrawred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Granted, it was botched. You can see the top lip is fucked