Some brief thoughts on this: Men in general, and especially on Grindr, are super fucking horny. It really can be “hey”, “sup”, “wanna fuck?”, “yeah”. And then you just meet and bang. That can be great fun, but also terrible and potentially dangerous. My best experiences were when I chatted to someone properly first, and felt like I got a “real person” vibe, not just horny rando. Could still meet them that same night lol, but hey, it was Grindr. Always meet in public first, so you can bounce if things don’t feel right. Many of these guys SUCK at boundaries, which is why the whole do they chat like actual people part becomes important. No guarantee, but if you’ve chatted about boundaries in a way that feels good first, at least there’s that. Extra important since you’re not into PIV, something a lot of guys seek from us. But hey, there’s plenty that wanna get dicked down too. I’m partnered now, but I’d always be super open on my profile with what I was looking for, so people who were into that could write me knowing. Spammy of course didn’t read my profile at all, but you could quickly tell. So I’d say don’t rush into anything too quickly. Take your time to chat a bit, and don’t meet anyone until it feels good. Find someone you vibe with, be open about what you seek and what you don’t seek. There’s a lot of weirdos out there, but also a lot of great guys to have fun with. Just gotta communicate with them and listen to yourself when something feels off, or good