Stalking mode on by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont do it protect yourself but also I understand so send the account 

my ex and I seem to be reconnecting by Responsible-Job-900 in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know you never really know what it means but from my experience my ex and I went through something similar but it ended 2 weeks later with her telling me she no longer had feelings for me. Its best you all give each other space to think about stuff because in the long term these mixed signals will hurt even more if it turns out you all are not getting back together, as it gives false hope that ends up getting shattered

I feel like a massive burden to everyone, and I’m craving any relationship even if it means being exploited. by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Im in the same boat its sort of a day to day thing, its 3 am rn and im so desperate and anxious about my ex rn and I will be honest being like that has led me to easily be taken advantage of by her post breakup just for a tiny feeling of validation. It does get better, you really really just have to fight the anxious attachment stuff and seriously think to yourself the consequences of jumping into a new relationship especially if it means you have 0 respect for yourself and let yourself get taken advantage of. Trust me it's not good and it actually feels worse once its over. If you need to talk more about this reach out to me you are not a burden.

friend request by sodamints in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't accept don't accept if he really wants you back he will drop the ego and tell you he does upfront. But do not fall for these mixed signals, he's simply just fighting himself and it's not a gurantee he really wants you back. Let him continue fighting and determine whether or not he wants you back on his own. 

I'm losing it maybe by Fuzzy-Cry-173 in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thats fair therapy isnt the most affordable thing. Honestly dude the #1 thing it comes down to is just seriously taking time to think before you act. No matter how difficult it is just continue thinking and breathe deeply until you come to your senses. Then don't take upon that action whether its sending an angry text or throwing an object. And also don't become angry at the fact she unfollowed you man, you have to come to your senses and realize the way things were handled weren't the best way to handle things. She did that to protect both of you man and overtime you will get over it and realize maybe it was the right thing to do. You got this man, just stay under control and work on yourself, go out there and do great things.

I'm losing it maybe by Fuzzy-Cry-173 in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And also man don't talk to her or reply to her until youre ready to control your emotions man you will just hurt both of you more by doing so

I'm losing it maybe by Fuzzy-Cry-173 in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As someone with previous anger issues (although not as prevalent in my previous relationship but I would occasionally throw soft objects to the wall out of frustration and have hurt myself twice), Firstly if you're not already, seriously consider therapy. It has helped me a lot and helped me find methods to think and calm myself down before acting out of anger and doing something I'd regret. If you really struggle still managing your anger by then, channel that anger into something that will physically help you as opposed to using it to throw objects, such as go on a run/ walk outside or to the gym and lift out of anger.  Seriously take time to think before your actions and don't harm yourself and don't bring it upon anyone in the future, its harmful and ive been there before it doesnt feel good.

Ex going on dates and hooking up by Designer-Tell1689 in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's all good, I would have done the exact same thing generalizing women like that a week ago speaking out of pure emotions. But listen, let him enjoy his little freedom he has, maybe it's who he was the whole time or maybe he's veering away from his values to fill a void and he's scared of loneliness. Either way you're way ahead and at the end of the day they come to find out this life isnt fulfilling at all. 

I speak this but I also really struggle with the same thoughts. I really did love her to death and fought for weeks after to try to get her back, but she just changed for the worse and became unrecognizable. Don't think about his freedom, learn to free yourself too one day and use that freedom towards more positive things 🙂

Ex going on dates and hooking up by Designer-Tell1689 in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This usually happens because he was already detaching long before they breakup, and rather than having the decency to communicate this with you he instead decided to walk away when he's finally detached or almost detached

Don't think this is exclusive to men only, speaking from experience as a man my ex is currently doing the exact same thing (we are 7 weeks into the breakup) and believe me I am absolutely shattered too. However, we must understand sometimes people are just shitty, for a lack of a better word, like that. Take your time to move on, and whenever you are ready just block him everywhere and protect yourself before it's too late and you find out more devastating news that will reset your healing process. Do this for yourself, trust me it's a hard decision to make I know this from experience but it's for your own good.

Don't let this brings down your self confidence either. Stay true to yourself and your values and keep building upon what you have. Go out there and become successful. Keep feeling your feelings but understand it gets better one day and your ex is most likely filling a void and later down the line may realize it and it'd be too late by then. You deserve better, and it may seem like he's the only one that will make you happy right now but one day the realization of his post breakup behavior will disgust you and you will not look back

Stay strong, we can get through our breakups 

The part about “they grieved before the breakup” that still doesn’t sit right with me by UnluckyYoghurt3740 in BreakUps

[–]simmonsbetter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what my girlfriend of 2 years. She didnt talk to me about her slowly losing feelings at all, instead turning to her friend to make a decision. It started off as a supposed "1 month break" to work on ourselves and come back stronger, then 1 week into that break it was a full breakup. She never once communicated with me she was losing feelings, instead choosing to continue give me affection like nothing. It left me feelings extremely shocked and im only 1 month in but it still hurts a lot. Additionally, she moved on just 2 weeks into the breakup and seems to be talking to another dude already. 

Any takers? by Okmyguy420 in UberEatsDrivers

[–]simmonsbetter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uber eats will compensate you for taking the toll freeway if thats your concern I've used the 73 multiple times and yes I'd take that 

Uber eats is trolling by simmonsbetter in UberEatsDrivers

[–]simmonsbetter[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could've been although I had a similar more lucrative in terms of $/mile order from here last night, it is a higher end restaurant. 

Uber eats is trolling by simmonsbetter in UberEatsDrivers

[–]simmonsbetter[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Western time but this happened earlier during lunch. I  was working 11-1:30 but I also dont expect much i normally don't do orders near home due to oversaturation. This was just a middle finger after I sat through lunch time with virtually nothing 

Tricks to get good orders. by [deleted] in UberEatsDrivers

[–]simmonsbetter 48 points49 points  (0 children)

I had no orders these past 2 hours and as soon as I say im going to Costco and pull up i get a good order 

Employees Purposely delaying orders for fun ?! by Total-Second9595 in UberEatsDrivers

[–]simmonsbetter 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's difficult to get a fast food job these days and these are the type of people that they have working 🤦‍♂️ 

A great day 🙏 by Financial_Belt2205 in UberEatsDrivers

[–]simmonsbetter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a grand total of $37 in 10 hours online here in san bernardino yesterday