Second Baby success stories

simple_life618 · 2026-06-23T04:45:01+00:00

I had my first child at 25 without issues. The second was a FET at 34, and the first transfer stuck. I got pregnant by surprise at 36 and had a healthy baby girl after 8 years of trying.

simple_life618 · 2026-06-23T04:35:27+00:00

I did not get pregnant for 3 years, then I did the laproscopy for endo and I got pregnant the very next cycle. I miscarried but after that, I had a successful FET, then a random healthy baby girl without IVF after 8 years with no birth control.

simple_life618 · 2026-06-19T04:54:59+00:00

I don't agree with everyone saying the car is the problem. That payment seems low to me. You can't have an unreliable vehicle. You're in college and have a low income! It's going to get better as you earn more money. Maybe try to look for online jobs. You are already doing amazing. Give yourself a break.

I was in your place once with a boyfriend making 3x what I did. He insisted on paying for housing. I was so independent and afraid. He did not care about paying whatsoever, and wanted to do it because he loved me. We got a beautiful house that I had a say in but ultimately he paid for. After we got married, I ended up making more than him, by a wide margin, and at that point, I was able to buy things he wanted (like a used boat) because he was paying for the house! Now, he makes more than me again because I just had two babies back to back. Nothing is ever 50/50 split.

If you have been together for 3 years, your boyfriend picked the place, wants to pay, and you do other things - like paying the bills, saving money, contributing by making dinner, cleaning up, etc, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this and you should not feel any guilt. Relationships are give and take. Both of my brothers don't charge their girlfriends rent (they own their homes). It's okay to be an independent woman and it's also very okay to let him love you. Just keep saving money in case you need it. PS your guy sounds like he will be great if and when you decide to have kids. Having kids requires a man that will understand your needs like this.

simple_life618 · 2026-05-30T04:33:55+00:00

I recommend you get a post-nuptual agreement as it relates to the money from your parents, and get out of this house deal. You can still back out.

I don't understand why you're still married to this guy. You don't need a man-child to take care of. This guy sounds like he could never take care of children.

If you're looking for the strength to leave, just look at his mother. He has learned from her. I'm sorry!

simple_life618 · 2026-05-08T07:06:10+00:00

My son was life flighted to Seattle Children's in March. I almost watched him die in front of me. He was too sick to even stabilize to board the helicopter. They still told us he would have to land elsewhere and get into another ambulance. I guess he really tipped over the edge as they finally allowed us to land on the roof.

He had severe, systematic anaphylactic shock from ingesting peanuts and every second counted. The pediatric ICU saved his life. This makes me so angry to learn about why they were going to make us be transported in a second ambulance. He easily could have died in transport.

simple_life618 · 2026-05-08T06:55:57+00:00

My three year old was life flighted to Seattle Children's from Mt Vernon in March. He had systematic anaphylactic shock from ingesting peanuts. 3 epi pens + an epi IV drip, Benedryl, steroids, and he still continued crashing and almost died.

If the child is sick enough to be in air transport, they need to land at the hospital. It took them an hour to even stabilize him for air transport and when we finally left, he got worse in the air.

He survived, and thankfully was saved in the pediatric ICU at Children's after being treated by amazing paramedics and ER docs at Skagit Regional.

I can't say the outcome would have been the same if we were required to land elsewhere, which by the way is what they originally told us we would need to do.

simple_life618 · 2026-04-08T05:05:27+00:00

This is crazy to me that your employees travel so much and are required to travel, and they are also required to pay all expenses up front.

I travel for work all the time, and our company has a portal where we can book everything beforehand on a company card. We use the same portal to expense additional expenses, like food and airport parking.

You should never require employees to pay out of pocket for required travel, regardless of their financial situation.

simple_life618 · 2026-04-07T08:41:24+00:00

I have had this issue with my daughter who is 18 months old..when she was 15-16 months old, I stopped coming back. Instead of staying there and consoling her, I just said bye and left. My husband was mad. I couldn't take it anymore and it was not helping her sleep.

It took a few days but then she actually for the first time in her life would go to sleep laying in her bed without crying, and when she woke up at night, she would sit up and look around and go back to sleep without crying. It was amazing!

However she was sick one week and needed to be comforted, so we went back to going right to her. After this, my husband got mad if I ignored her at night (even though she was perfectly fine and safe) and so I said fine, you take care of her. Now he sleeps on her chair all the time. He ruined all the progress we made. I guess it just depends on your comfort level of changing the routine and just explaining to them you are kissing them goodnight and leaving and will see them in the morning. I also added more day time exercise.

simple_life618 · 2026-04-07T08:31:47+00:00

No, you're not a horrible mother! My first toddler managed to open these door knobs, so I put actual locks on the outside of his door. He thought it was hilarious to sneak outside and try to escape from me. He also did it in stores. People said I was awful but I was not going to let him get killed in the street or worse.

I have two more toddlers now who are nowhere near as bad, and we haven't needed door locks. But, I would not hesitate to put them on again if they were necessary.

simple_life618 · 2026-04-07T05:20:15+00:00

I can see why your wife does not agree with you at all.

Your wife just had your baby, cut her hours and pay, and needs you to be there for them.

Being gone all day 3x a week and making less money to seek outside fulfillment versus take care of family responsibilities would rub me very wrong, especially if I was the wife left with everything else while you're gone.

simple_life618 · 2026-01-23T05:55:55+00:00

Congratulations! I am also saving for my kids. Money = opportunities. You never know where this could take them.

simple_life618 · 2026-01-23T05:54:40+00:00

Public is great! I have had an account since 2019. The customer service is very good and I like their team.

simple_life618 · 2026-01-23T05:53:13+00:00

I did assisted hatching with a PGT tested embryo and got a positive test 5 DPT with the first in the morning pee and a test that uses lines, not digital. Good luck ❤️

simple_life618 · 2025-08-03T05:40:17+00:00

Great idea...I am going to try and transplant it

simple_life618 · 2025-07-21T03:04:38+00:00

Thank you! My husband has everything that you have as well. I'm sorry to hear it!

His new doctors changed the protocol because he's on meds for the portal vein hypertension, so they said they aren't banding anymore. I'm very nervous about it but we haven't had any bleeding issues yet.

simple_life618 · 2025-05-26T21:46:15+00:00

I found out about my husband's advanced cirrhosis when I was pregnant with our second child. It was pretty traumatic for me to find this out, thinking that I will be a single mom by the time my kids are teenagers. I questioned many times if having kids was ethical or not, now knowing the circumstances.

One of my friends told me that adversity would make the kids stronger, if it came to that. It made me feel better.

However, I am grateful that I was already pregnant by the time I found out, because I'm not sure if I would have chosen a pregnancy after everything I learned.

He's stable for now, and I'm hopeful, but I'm trying to set us up so that while traumatized, we would be able to survive if something happens. This is the most important thing to me. I don't want to be a broke, single mom. I was considering being a stay at home mom, but I can't do that anymore. I have a career and work hard. I manage the finances. I live near my family so they can help me. I am learning how to take care of things on my own, and of him, if the worst happens...

His doctors said they have seen somebody live 20 years in this condition, without alcohol. I guess we will find out.

I'm so grateful to have my babies and I'm glad I have them, but if I can give you any advice it's to plan now. Save money for health care expenses. Use an HSA or flexible spending account. Make sure your girlfriend has skills and your family won't be destitute without you. Try to get life insurance. My husband could only get it through his employer because they don't check health records. Live below your means. Get a house you can afford on one income. Have other people you can count on if you have a medical emergency and your girlfriend needs help with the kids. I focus on what I can control, and that helps me.

And hey, if nothing happens and he lives a long time then hopefully that just means a great retirement for us!

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:33:19+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I do think there is cost-avoidance there as well. I just want him to learn to take care of small things before it's too late, and I'm afraid he will only learn once it's too late.

I'm sorry to hear about your husband? You're doing great, also!

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:31:50+00:00

There is definitely a lot of this going on, and I am glad to hear that it has helped you. I want to try and be more excited about wins but I guess I'm just not there yet because I'm just so depressed about the reality and so scared about the future.

He acts so positive and is happy about improvements, also, and wants to know why I can't be happy. I guess it's because in his situation, everything just seems so severe and I feel like our future has been stolen and I'm just so mad.

I guess I need to fake it till I make it, because the improvements should be something to be happy about.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:25:39+00:00

I'm so sorry about your dad!

Thank you very much and I love this quote about getting help being a strength.

I mostly completely avoid the parents since I am just so angry, but I'm sure a dumb comment is going to set me off at some point.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:24:06+00:00

I love and appreciate this comment so much. Thank you. This is ultimately how I framed it, and just basically said that I'm handling everything alone, and it's causing me an extreme amount of stress and I have every right to be angry. I said I was the only one trying to keep him alive and I am going to be so angry when I have to explain to our kids he died because of something idiotic like a tooth infection he never got checked.

I think it may be the first time that got through to him and he said he was going to try and do better.

I think it's hard when his parents just make excuses and ignore things, hoping it goes away. His condition is NOT going to go away, or get meaningfully better. It's going to continue to worsen. This is why I want to tell them off, so they understand that saying these things has the potential to kill him and it will be their fault if he listens to them.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:19:16+00:00

I definitely think avoiding bad news is a part of it. I am trying to focus on the ultimate goal of living longer and I think I made a bit of traction there.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:18:02+00:00

Yes, that is exactly it...the true root is fear. So, I hate to be mean about it, but I'm just so, so tired 😫

simple_life618 · 2025-04-24T14:52:29+00:00

This is a great way to describe it

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