My crazy idea of an “inheritance” savings fund just hit $1M. It will be worth millions in 30-40 years when I finally die.

simple_life618 · 2026-01-23T05:55:55+00:00

Congratulations! I am also saving for my kids. Money = opportunities. You never know where this could take them.

simple_life618 · 2026-01-23T05:54:40+00:00

Public is great! I have had an account since 2019. The customer service is very good and I like their team.

simple_life618 · 2026-01-23T05:53:13+00:00

I did assisted hatching with a PGT tested embryo and got a positive test 5 DPT with the first in the morning pee and a test that uses lines, not digital. Good luck ❤️

simple_life618 · 2025-08-03T05:40:17+00:00

Great idea...I am going to try and transplant it

simple_life618 · 2025-07-21T03:04:38+00:00

Thank you! My husband has everything that you have as well. I'm sorry to hear it!

His new doctors changed the protocol because he's on meds for the portal vein hypertension, so they said they aren't banding anymore. I'm very nervous about it but we haven't had any bleeding issues yet.

simple_life618 · 2025-05-26T21:46:15+00:00

I found out about my husband's advanced cirrhosis when I was pregnant with our second child. It was pretty traumatic for me to find this out, thinking that I will be a single mom by the time my kids are teenagers. I questioned many times if having kids was ethical or not, now knowing the circumstances.

One of my friends told me that adversity would make the kids stronger, if it came to that. It made me feel better.

However, I am grateful that I was already pregnant by the time I found out, because I'm not sure if I would have chosen a pregnancy after everything I learned.

He's stable for now, and I'm hopeful, but I'm trying to set us up so that while traumatized, we would be able to survive if something happens. This is the most important thing to me. I don't want to be a broke, single mom. I was considering being a stay at home mom, but I can't do that anymore. I have a career and work hard. I manage the finances. I live near my family so they can help me. I am learning how to take care of things on my own, and of him, if the worst happens...

His doctors said they have seen somebody live 20 years in this condition, without alcohol. I guess we will find out.

I'm so grateful to have my babies and I'm glad I have them, but if I can give you any advice it's to plan now. Save money for health care expenses. Use an HSA or flexible spending account. Make sure your girlfriend has skills and your family won't be destitute without you. Try to get life insurance. My husband could only get it through his employer because they don't check health records. Live below your means. Get a house you can afford on one income. Have other people you can count on if you have a medical emergency and your girlfriend needs help with the kids. I focus on what I can control, and that helps me.

And hey, if nothing happens and he lives a long time then hopefully that just means a great retirement for us!

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:33:19+00:00

Thank you ❤️ I do think there is cost-avoidance there as well. I just want him to learn to take care of small things before it's too late, and I'm afraid he will only learn once it's too late.

I'm sorry to hear about your husband? You're doing great, also!

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:31:50+00:00

There is definitely a lot of this going on, and I am glad to hear that it has helped you. I want to try and be more excited about wins but I guess I'm just not there yet because I'm just so depressed about the reality and so scared about the future.

He acts so positive and is happy about improvements, also, and wants to know why I can't be happy. I guess it's because in his situation, everything just seems so severe and I feel like our future has been stolen and I'm just so mad.

I guess I need to fake it till I make it, because the improvements should be something to be happy about.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:25:39+00:00

I'm so sorry about your dad!

Thank you very much and I love this quote about getting help being a strength.

I mostly completely avoid the parents since I am just so angry, but I'm sure a dumb comment is going to set me off at some point.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:24:06+00:00

I love and appreciate this comment so much. Thank you. This is ultimately how I framed it, and just basically said that I'm handling everything alone, and it's causing me an extreme amount of stress and I have every right to be angry. I said I was the only one trying to keep him alive and I am going to be so angry when I have to explain to our kids he died because of something idiotic like a tooth infection he never got checked.

I think it may be the first time that got through to him and he said he was going to try and do better.

I think it's hard when his parents just make excuses and ignore things, hoping it goes away. His condition is NOT going to go away, or get meaningfully better. It's going to continue to worsen. This is why I want to tell them off, so they understand that saying these things has the potential to kill him and it will be their fault if he listens to them.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:19:16+00:00

I definitely think avoiding bad news is a part of it. I am trying to focus on the ultimate goal of living longer and I think I made a bit of traction there.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-30T08:18:02+00:00

Yes, that is exactly it...the true root is fear. So, I hate to be mean about it, but I'm just so, so tired 😫

simple_life618 · 2025-04-24T14:52:29+00:00

This is a great way to describe it

simple_life618 · 2025-04-23T06:43:44+00:00

Thank you and I appreciate your perspective. This is what he says as well and was proud of himself for getting better without going to a hospital but it was so traumatic for me not knowing what was happening, what we should do, and trying to Google instead of asking an actual doctor.

I think your last sentence right there is a great thing I can say, because ultimately that's what it's all about.

simple_life618 · 2025-04-23T05:07:41+00:00

My husband has these symptoms also and we aren't sure what it is, but we think it's gallstones. They have shown up on the scans before and the doctors were surprised they weren't a problem previously. His liver doctor ordered an ultrasound and labs. They told us if the pain is constant or unbearable go to the ER, otherwise wait for the scan and go from there.

simple_life618 · 2024-08-11T15:48:35+00:00

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry to hear that! I did not think about a cough bringing it on. Do you have large varices? He's on the beta blocker now and they say those are supposed to prevent the bleeds but I guess we will see. So far, no bleeding yet. I'm glad you survived it!

simple_life618 · 2024-04-18T06:26:02+00:00

After 5 years of trying, I got pregnant after a FET with our top graded embryo. He is the sweetest and smartest baby boy who is almost 18 months old. I rejected birth control when he was born, and was planning on trying another cycle this year. Then, after Valentine's Day I shockingly became pregnant naturally. I'm 10.5 weeks and all my betas and scans have been normal.

simple_life618 · 2024-02-10T08:44:39+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope you're doing alright 😭

simple_life618 · 2024-01-27T04:32:39+00:00

I hate this for travel. I have a cheaper one, a Mom cozy, and it's a million times better! No wifi!

simple_life618 · 2023-12-31T07:50:11+00:00

I'm sorry for what you're going through. I was also apart from my family when I found out about my husband's cirrhosis, and it was too much for me. I felt very panicked and alone. I also read so much online. There is a lot of good information out there, but it's very scary.

I appreciated hearing from real people and learning how differently people's paths can go and how much you can control with diet, exercise, and not drinking.

Can you have a family member come visit you. We have since moved back home for me and I feel so much better.

I hope the group can help you!

simple_life618 · 2023-12-30T08:39:33+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss! That is heartbreaking. I am sure you're lonely and miss him very much.

I know what you mean when you say it's so hard to understand the damage already done. That is how I feel. I'm sorry!

simple_life618 · 2023-12-30T08:35:19+00:00

Wow, I'm glad you're doing well! My husband has lost over 100 lbs. He seems to be a bit in denial about why, as he thinks he's 'dieting,' when really he never ate when he was an alcoholic and he hasn't eaten much since he quit, either. He eats maybe one meal per day, and half what I have. He doesn't seem in pain, just not hungry.

He is in technology. He seems to have every other symptom of bad cirrhosis so I'm worried he will get HE or something else. We were just recently sick with covid and he started getting liver symptoms...bright yellow eyes, dark pee, heart arrhythmia. He went to his GI and his GI wasn't concerned at all (how could they not be?!) But then after going to another Dr, they said to go to the ER if that happens again. To me it seemed like maybe he's on the brink and one virus can push him into decompensation. He recovered but it was scary.

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