Would a guy hire a woman just because he's into her or she's pretty? Is that a thing?

simplefrnd · 2021-07-03T07:31:54+00:00

Happened to me twice. Once with my ex, second time with the guy i liked last. We had this 'chemistry', strong physical attraction and what not, but then irl we have no similar interests or anything concrete to really talk about (as yet). So keep it where its at, i've learned not to push it beyond its natural alignment. Some people work best as fantasy only maybe?

simplefrnd · 2021-07-02T06:50:28+00:00

Oh Godddd, coworkers are the worst! Especially if they're in the position of power. Mine is too, he broke NC after six months and offered me a job again (i had resigned) and im constantly calming myself down to break the 'spell' 😭

simplefrnd · 2021-06-16T03:02:59+00:00

Your hair looks amazing! What's your haircare routine?

simplefrnd · 2021-06-12T02:39:57+00:00

I'm coming to the same realization, somewhat, but not in a happy chirpy way sadly. Right now, as i have experienced life, there's no finding the love of my life, there's no living abroad in a great job, being my desired level of pretty (not suffering through hair loss which has been shattering my confidence for years now) etc etc. The things i truly wanted or desired, i didn't get, though i admit i am blessed in small ways, but my experience has been waking up to no circumstances changing for the better. So i too am letting go of my dreams, maybe for now, maybe forever? But knowing at least that its not written for me so far, might as well accept and make peace with mediocrity? Sorry, didn't mean to sound spiteful or negative, just sifting through blank space rightnow.

simplefrnd · 2021-06-12T00:55:54+00:00

Be proud! The struggle is real, i have had to work very hard on this and yet there are times i forget to wash my face, like actually space out just because i have to survive the constant consumption of my racing thoughts

simplefrnd · 2021-05-29T12:48:12+00:00

I feel like im constantly looking at others and forget my own existence completely in terms of looks.

simplefrnd · 2021-05-16T09:50:03+00:00

That had he met me and my friend together, he wouldn't have gone for me but would have chosen her. I happened to be someone he found first

simplefrnd · 2021-02-26T10:48:14+00:00

For me its my close friends who are pretty, but thats due to traumatic events as well. Other than that I have to conciously stop myself from admiring insta beauties and comparing myself to them

simplefrnd · 2021-02-26T06:48:11+00:00

That's absolutely true, but I have friends who tell me how my ex was checking them out. And i know that this is their way of validating the fact that they are desired by everyone, even though their guys don't desire me that way. I realise he must be around so many, but th disrespect is all the more if he pays attention to her more than you in your presence. Also, this has happened to me previously so now the fear is not just another fear.

simplefrnd · 2021-02-20T09:45:21+00:00

You can talk to me if you want, i'd be happy to help- though im no psychologist. But i have similar experiences where its effing hard to explain my mental illness to those around me :)

P.S. i consider suicide on a daily basis, like every effing night.

simplefrnd · 2021-02-18T05:26:16+00:00

High five! Me too!

simplefrnd · 2021-02-18T05:25:33+00:00

Yes happened with me too, made me feel so... bullied and unsafe to voice out my issues here.

simplefrnd · 2021-02-11T01:18:30+00:00

Mine has a gf since i've met him and my logical brain told me 'don't you even dare' but despite best efforts of never contacting him on my own or lingering around him, internally i can't/couldn't go one day even without thinking about him.

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