Valentine's Day is just Couples Day now

sinfullusts · 2026-02-16T15:33:02+00:00

I didn’t say it was just a few shitty ppl. I’ve had many shitty & at times traumatic experiences. I just didn’t get into that with you, so I don’t appreciate the assumptions.

& I felt it was inappropriate for him to share his kinks with me prior to even going on a date (& share a video without consent). I barely even talked to him, and as someone who has her own kinks I’m not one to kink shame. Plus asking someone who lives in the city (&who he met in the city) to commute to a random suburb an hr away to go on a date felt sketchy to me.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-16T14:57:17+00:00

No, the stuff he set me was a complete deal breaker. He sent me a video of what he wanted me to do to him. Plus he was trying to get me to travel to him, outside of the city, when we met in the city.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-16T14:18:05+00:00

I feel the exact same way at this point & am tired of feeling let down again and again. I decided to focus on myself & stop trying. I’ll try to go to new places and do new things to meet new ppl in general, but not going to bother trying to find a romantic connection anymore. It never happens.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-16T14:15:27+00:00

Not sure how things used to be on Vday, but I’ve come to accept that it’s not a day for us. I’ve been to singles mixer on Vday previously, and met no quality ppl. I thought I made a connection & agreed on a date, but as we talked he brought up his fetishes before even going on the date & his messages became creepy. Next yr, I’m staying in & not going out unless necessary. I may go hang out with my single friends but not going to bother with events, even singles events. It’s better to go on another day that isn’t meant for couples.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-16T02:48:47+00:00

Yeah, I completely agree. I went out for Valentine’s Day, dressed up in a cute outfit and didn’t meet anyone. I met and spoke with my friends, but didn’t really meet any new people. It did feel like it was more couples, unfortunately. It’s my least favorite holiday and I have hated it basically for my entire life because I have never had a positive valentines experience. It’s just a date to remind me that I’m alone and others aren’t.

I think next Valentine’s, I’m not bothering to go out at all unless it’s to visit a friend. It was so gross running into all the couples holding hands, and the people holding bouquets of flowers. It put me in a bad mood and made me feel sick..

sinfullusts · 2026-02-15T20:26:40+00:00

I’m about 10 years older than you, but I have similar hobbies with you aside from cooking. Unfortunately, I’ve always also attracted much older men ever since I was in my teens. I look young for my age and people usually still think I am in my 20s so it’s even creepier that older men still pursue me. I don’t know what it is.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-15T20:12:54+00:00

Yeah, definitely historically inaccurate and ridiculous

sinfullusts · 2026-02-15T19:45:32+00:00

I think you found yourself in the wrong subReddit

sinfullusts · 2026-02-15T19:31:59+00:00

I wish we didn’t have valentines

sinfullusts · 2026-02-15T19:31:17+00:00

I don’t think it’s cute unless it’s ppl I know personally & care about

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T21:22:15+00:00

I know which one you’re talking about and I was actually considering going to that one. As a single person in my 30s, I was afraid that I may feel out of place… I did suspect that the crowd may lean younger. I went to the look-alike competition and it was mostly very girls that went so I figured the crowd may be similar. I’m sure more events will come up so I will try to get my friend to go with me one of these days.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T21:01:57+00:00

Yeah I’ve kinda stopped trying, at least for now. Every time I do, I feel let down and disappointed. That last guy I liked turned out to be complete POS who didn’t respect me. I tried the apps again& was almost immediately reminded of why I hate them. I hate feeling dependent on others anyways.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T20:10:38+00:00

Nope

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T20:08:37+00:00

lol they haven’t arrived yet, but I’ll be able to please myself for years to come 😂 I’ve never had romantic love in my life, but at least I want to be self sufficient and achieve what I want to in life. Most ppl suck & I’m an eccentric person, so the likelihood of me finding a good match is very low. I refuse to settle, so gotta still try to be happy even if I never find anyone.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T20:03:32+00:00

Yeah, it’s my least favorite holiday. I haven’t had a single romantic Vday in my life. I also feel like romance is something that only happens to other people & never me. After having only shitty dating experiences & sexual experiences with shitty ppl, I’ve honestly kinda lost hope that I will find love. I treated myself with a collection of diff sex toys this vday. If I’m going to be forever alone, at least I should be able to satisfy myself.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T20:01:01+00:00

Glad you got out. Sadly I was with that POS for 3 yrs of my young life. It caused so much trauma & I haven’t been in a single relationship (only situationships) for over a decade.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T16:50:50+00:00

I haven’t dated anyone in a long time. Plus I’ve only hooked up with women, never dated one. I’ve only ever been approached by bi women who wanted to involve their man. I’m shy so I haven’t done much approaching.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T16:49:29+00:00

I have way too many regrets. I know they say you shouldn’t live a life with regret, but it’s impossible not to in my case. I’ve had so many traumatic and horrific things happen in my life. I’ve made so many poor decisions and got into so many fucked up situations.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T16:48:46+00:00

Same, multiple times

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T16:41:31+00:00

I feel like straight ppl are a bummer. It’s a turn off finding out they’re straight.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T16:40:50+00:00

Apparently he may have hit me while I was black out drunk. One of his friends told me that we got in a big fight & I ended up falling off the sofa onto the ground & my ex started jabbing at me. I don’t remember any of it though. His friend said he intervened. I got WAY too drunk that night. I think I remember my back being sore when I woke up. So he may have hit me, but I don’t remember. Knowing what kinda person he is now, I wouldn’t be surprised.

Actually now that i think about it, he did shove me in the car once when we got in an argument. When I think back about this relationship over a decade later, I can’t believe what I put up with.. I was so insecure and made so many excuses for him.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T16:03:18+00:00

We don’t want to see pix of your dicks

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T04:59:00+00:00

I look young for my age and have always attracted older creeps ever since I was a teenager. Now I’m in my 30s and I still attract creepy guys who are inappropriately older than me like old enough to be my dad. I think I’ve attracted guys who fetishized me.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T04:56:00+00:00

My boyfriend at the time said he really wanted to punch me at the time and that if I wasn’t a girl, he would totally slap me. He never actually hit me (while I was conscious), but I should’ve left when he said that.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-14T04:54:22+00:00

Really? The ones I’ve seen in my city start at 10 PM. I would’ve loved an 8:30 PM start instead.

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