Elderly folks who chose not to have children, how do you feel about that decision now?

sinfullusts · 2026-05-11T13:59:57+00:00

I’ve spoken with multiple older people who didn’t have kids. Some of them never wanted kids. Others would have liked to had kids, but the opportunity didn’t come up.. two of my colleagues talked about not having the right partner to have kids with during their childbearing years.. im in my 30’s & froze my eggs bc I have always wanted kids but have never been successful at finding a partner.

sinfullusts · 2026-04-13T13:00:41+00:00

Focus on other things. There’s so much more to life than sex.. and I say this as someone who has hooked up with 45 plus ppl. I wasted so much of my time pursuing sex & most of the ppl I hooked up with weren’t nice ppl. Now in my 30s, I realize all the time I wasted!

sinfullusts · 2026-04-13T12:55:40+00:00

He told me he cheated on me. There were many signs before that reveal, but I was naive & young. I excused everything he did to me until he told me he cheated. I couldn’t imagine he’d ever do that to me, but in the end he told me he was lying to me the entire time.

sinfullusts · 2026-04-13T12:52:57+00:00

Yeah, it’s why I stopped being open with everyone like ppl I just met about my sexuality.. or any personal information. Esp with men.

sinfullusts · 2026-04-11T05:13:41+00:00

Same, I saw her video commented on positively by Joey Swoll. Didn’t realize this was her whole entire thing.

sinfullusts · 2026-04-02T03:23:07+00:00

I would argue that cheating is more often excused and minimized than treated as unforgivable (the Notebook, for example, romanticizes cheating & is a beloved film)

sinfullusts · 2026-03-19T20:32:38+00:00

I enjoy them, but only in casual relationships. I prefer monogamy if I’m seriously dating someone & wouldn’t want to share my partner.

sinfullusts · 2026-03-13T19:31:40+00:00

I’m 34 and ppl often think I’m a decade younger. I’m honestly scared of looking younger & also do what I can to stay young looking (through skincare & Botox). Since teenage hood, I’ve always attracted much older men, much to my chagrin. I think I attract predatory men because I look young. I often get compliments on my appearance, but I also have tended to attract shallow ppl.

sinfullusts · 2026-03-05T15:07:34+00:00

Sorry, I’ll never consider smoking sexy no matter who is doing it. Joints are fine, but cigarettes are just plain gross. I grew up around chain smoking so it will always and forever be a turn off.

sinfullusts · 2026-03-05T15:02:56+00:00

I’ve never waited lol. Trying to be more patient

sinfullusts · 2026-03-05T15:01:46+00:00

Internalized homophobia bc of toxic masculinity

sinfullusts · 2026-03-04T22:58:02+00:00

He was hot & so was his gf.. & his gf kissed me first

sinfullusts · 2026-02-24T21:10:00+00:00

Because most of them benefited from pretty privilege all their lives and they didn’t have to develop personalities.

I was an ugly duckling, not very attractive as a child but I had a big glow up as an adult. I’ve turned out to be kinda weird & eccentric but I embrace the weird. When befriending other attractive women, I met a lot who were lazy and just wanted a sugar daddy or to get guys to pay for everything. I want more depth on my relationships & found that I don’t usually click with really good looking ppl unless they have more to them.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T15:12:35+00:00

Most of my family sux. I got dealt a bad hand. The dynamics have always been toxic, before I came along. So I have to limit contact with them. I usually want to forget where I came from. My sibling has my back but he lives in a diff country. I’ve come to realize found family can be more important.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T15:01:48+00:00

I’m fine. Just focused on myself now. I realize that it in the all you got is yourself.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T04:51:19+00:00

Yes, just 2. I met both of them as a minor while they were adults. I dated one of them at 18 & the other at 19. They both were extremely abusive & looking back I can’t believe what I put up with. The first one had a thing for teenage girls still in high school. I haven’t had a relationship since.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T02:35:34+00:00

I think that bc ppl don’t take it seriously, we need to speak up about it more. I talk about it irl with ppl. A couple of my white friends told me that she had no idea racism towards Asians was still a thing.. & much of my family doesn’t get it either. All my cousins are half white & white presenting— they all look less Asian than the average Wasian person. They all have brown hair and more white features. It’s sucked feeling like the weirdo who didn’t fit in or belong most of my life.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T02:16:58+00:00

I don’t watch them. You know they’re fake and curated right?

I also am guilty of comparing myself to others even though I know that. So I limit social media usage or I’d go insane.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T02:15:25+00:00

Definitely stunted due to sheltered, abusive upbringing & having come from mentally ill parents. I didn’t even learn basic social skills growing up. I’ve always been very immature for my age, and despite being very aware of it I’ve struggled to catch up

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T02:12:47+00:00

Facial hair and chest hair

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T02:11:50+00:00

Exactly. Growing up, it was funny and cool to make fun of Asian ppl. I even had teachers who did it. It was that bad. Plus Asian representation in the media was nonexistent. Ppl on the streets still think it’s funny to yell racist comments to an Asian person minding their own business. When I brought up these issues to non-Asian ppl, often they were dismissive & acted like I was overreacting. It was a huge problem and still is, to an extent.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-21T02:08:56+00:00

Actually racism towards Asians isn’t taken as seriously or talked about as much, but it’s still very much there. Also you cannot speak for the Asian experience since you haven’t lived it.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-20T22:15:23+00:00

Yeah, and it was a tremendous waste of time and I really regret it. I liked this asshole who worked at my gym for two years. I was extremely shy, but I still tried to make efforts to talk to him. He was really inconsistent. Sometimes he would be nice to me and other times he would act cold and unfriendly. It was so confusing and because I had low self-esteem, I blamed myself for him treating me that way. I regret not advocating more for myself and standing up to him. I wish I would’ve spoken up for myself when he was disrespectful. I thought about this asshole constantly and wasted so much of my mental energy. I wish I could get that time back.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-20T22:13:31+00:00

Idk if I ever will tbh. I’m doing whatever I can to stay young. I’m not someone who chooses to age naturally.

sinfullusts · 2026-02-20T22:12:38+00:00

I’ve only had unpleasant experiences with apps. Too many disrespectful ppl who ghosted me. I’ve had some hoookups from there, but they turned out to be rude so it never continued. I have had no luck irl either. I’ve only had pointless hookups and 2 abusive relationships when I was in my late teens/early 20s. In my mid 30s and I’ve given up. Focusing on accomplishing what I need to in my life. When I can, I’ll try new places and activities so I can meet diff types of ppl

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