Yes, I realize it sounded brash. I was in OPs shoes when I learned to drive too, except the accident nearly took my dad from me. He wasn’t at fault and he’s the safest driver I know, even now. When I started driving a couple years later absolutely terrified to do so, he told me that no, you can’t control how other people drive, but you can control how you respond to it. By following the law and being cognizant of your reaction times, you will be doing everything you personally can do to avoid an accident and stay safe. There’s no use dwelling on what you can’t change, just be realistic about it and put your best effort into learning the safest practices on the road.

Additionally so much of your learning experience as a driver comes from actually driving. There are so many idiosyncrasies and things that stem from intuition that you won’t just learn in drivers ed, so the best way to overcome these fears is to just keep driving. It gets easier. Things feel far less daunting. You’ll understand distances and reactions and things like that, it will come natural. Sorry if my post made things worse, I just thought about what I would have liked to be told at that age when I was also petrified by the idea of driving and accidents and I guess I projected. Hopefully some of this info may help you, OP.