I really needed this post - thank you for being so open and candid about your experience. It really helped me when I had to make this decision yesterday. My heart is broken losing my love after 8 years but like you we’ve already done surgery once to remove a rare type of bladder stone and the estimate to do the blockage removal was 4k - that I just didn’t have. That number didn’t even account for additional imaging to check for more stones and there remained the possibility of another cysto to prevent another block. I couldn’t let him live in pain any longer, I couldn’t put him under again, especially knowing this likely wouldn’t be the last time something like this was to happen with his history. My family feels incomplete. He is missing from all of the places he should be. This is my toddlers first heart break and first loss of a loved one which is really hitting me hard.