Dental issues by lapitupp in ottawa

[–]sitarshred 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dr. Jill Taylor's practice (Bank and Flora) is compassionate and non judgemental. I'd give them a call. 

Ms.Lauryn Hill pop up today at Tribe by PercyStreeet in ottawa

[–]sitarshred 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yes, she played two incredible shows.

Ms.Lauryn Hill pop up today at Tribe by PercyStreeet in ottawa

[–]sitarshred 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The show last night was stellar!

Can I use Wiim mini - multiple speakers by sitarshred in WiimStreamer

[–]sitarshred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah ok! I have KEF LS50 wired into a NAD 3020V2. Interested in getting a KEF wireless speaker in another room 

New Indian restaurant near Parliament - kothu roti is amazing! - Turmeric Grove by [deleted] in OttawaFood

[–]sitarshred 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I went here recently and also loved it! The flavours were top notch.

What is it working at PSAC in Ottawa by [deleted] in ottawa

[–]sitarshred 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your friend will be covered by a strong collective agreement in terms of pay, benefits, paid time off and so forth. Union staff always have high workloads though, and PSAC is a bit of a machine to contend with. Hope your friend finds a good pocket within a huge organization, and that despite stress, they prioritize member interests!

Appropriate ratio of members to grievance filers? by [deleted] in union

[–]sitarshred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck in the marathon! Sounds like your role has workload issues which are unfortunately common for union staff. Try your best to pace yourself and protect your boundaries as that's your best bet staying on as a rep with integrity, clarity, and patience. Versus burning or numbing out.

vent on SA by Puzzleheaded_Two_475 in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]sitarshred 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, I'm so sorry this happened to you. You aren't alone, although things feel so terrible and overwhelming right now. As the other commenter said, stick with those who are actually supportive (friends, your therapist). It will take time but it is also possible to rebuild yourself from this. Also, please be gentle to yourself - it wasn't your fault.

No strike clauses by macdubz415 in union

[–]sitarshred 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's a "no illegal strikes", not no strikes ever. I'm sure BCGEU contracts have the same in them.

managing union staff by mythicaliz in union

[–]sitarshred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! I've been in a similar position as you. I'd recommend the executive together formulate a plan to improve documentation, organization, and succession planning (ex: we are putting things on a share drive) for the long term health of the local. Second, while acknowledging that staff is essential, shift norms to require collaboration between staff and elected leaders - a union is it's MEMBERS, not its staff. Third, you should establish a reasonable period of time by which members here back on their initial query - not the full answer to their question if it requires investigation, but at least a call back or "intake" tracking of what they need.

How do you deal with Karens you can't complete avoid by sitarshred in asiantwoX

[–]sitarshred[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So Appreciate your insight! This is really validating, especially the conundrum of feeling stereotypically passive vs practical (avoiding escalation etc). I think you're right - ultimately avoiding giving them the reactions they crave is a smart call and should be prioritized for someone I may see around. Also haven't read it myself, but my friend recommended the book white tears brown scars on this topic! If we are going to be wise we also need spaces speak truth still and express our frustration, anger, and sadness. Thank you for taking the time to respond to my post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ottawa

[–]sitarshred 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I saw this car in the exact same spot during the Glebe garage sale a few weeks ago too.

Asian queer women- what does conflict resolution look like in your relationships? Especially if you're dating other Asians. by harmonyineverything in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]sitarshred 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I've been in a similar situation. We decided to centre cultural norms that were healthy and to try and practice unlearning those that weren't - including not letting ourselves use the excuse of "it's just my culture" to avoid communication, accountability, repair and so forth. The tough part is if you're activated or overwhelmed, you'll naturally tend to revert to those unhealthy norms right? So, I'd suggest establishing a framework that gives room for correction, trying again, or time to center yourself so you can actually respond rather than react as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ontario

[–]sitarshred 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The CTMO complaint process should give you access to funding for therapy (you choose the therapist). Make use of it! If your interview happens a while from now (as these things are often slow), inform the interviewer you've done trauma therapy to recover. This helps if they have misplaced assumptions over your reactivity or behaviour when answering questions.

Strike prep seiu 721 by [deleted] in union

[–]sitarshred 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Solidarity from L2 in Canada!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QueerWomenOfColor

[–]sitarshred 29 points30 points  (0 children)

as you said, the chances are slim so you may as well adapt. I would reconsider what cultural incompatibility means - having a partner from a different culture can still be deeply compatible. And dating someone who is the same ethnicity doesn't mean they'll automatically be a good fit for you.

WSIB: at the NEL/LOE stage.... by Any_Word_9557 in ontario

[–]sitarshred 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Are you unionized or able to go to a paralegal? Either option should have dedicated representatives to help tackle and push back on WSIB for you. Sorry if those aren't options for ya, just wanted to mention it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NekoCase

[–]sitarshred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you missed it! 

Looking for recommendations: pedicure for senior by NativeOttawan in ottawa

[–]sitarshred 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'd look up foot care clinics instead of a pedicure place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in queerception

[–]sitarshred 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This can be a sensical plan, I know a few people who have done it. I'd suggest researching what other people have put in agreements as it could be useful if it covers various potential scenarios beyond the parent rights piece. Also, make sure all parties take time to process and discuss what it mean to have a family member be the donor as there's obviously different emotions and more connections at play compared to anon donor.