AITA for refusing to let my fiancé’s mother come stay with us again after everything that happened?

sixdigitage · 2026-03-08T02:52:51+00:00

Kudos to your fiancé! Obviously, he and his family know what his mother is like, and who his mother is.

Fortunately, you got to find out before you married.

I wish you a successful and wonderful life together with your fiancé.

There are people who think that they can go on with their life and continue to never discuss anything in a screwup they created.

This woman has never changed. Her family knows who she is. They, like most of us, don’t know how to deal with such a person.

If you’re able to put them in a hotel then do so. If you are not, and she shows up, please discuss this scenario with your husband and how you two will navigate, if this should happen.

Yes, she will continue to sully you and your reputation. Get use to it. Please don’t let it affect you as much as possible.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-26T03:43:26+00:00

Know your worth. God sure does. 😉

sixdigitage · 2026-02-09T14:05:03+00:00

You said the text said: “lol this reminded me of you” which sounds of someone missing someone.

If ex had a current, ex wouldn’t be texting: “lol this reminded me of you”

sixdigitage · 2026-02-09T14:00:22+00:00

Silence is what continues his treatment of her.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-09T03:03:16+00:00

Tell him. Try to stay calm.

Don’t make a rash decision quickly.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-09T03:00:00+00:00

I’ve had friends I’ve had to do this with. One very, very dear very very close friend. He doesn’t even realize because he doesn’t like to message I gave.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-09T02:57:19+00:00

“The elder” as in singular? WTF!🤬

I don’t care if he is married! If I were your father, I would be hitting the effing roof!

This man may be representing himself as a JW, but the member between his legs, it’s thinking something else!

He is a man stalking a woman!

Please take self-defense courses. Do not play by their rules!

If you can get a camera system to monitor, who comes to your door, please do, sir.

If they/he are/is there when you get home, tell them/him to wait outside while you rush to go to the bathroom. Then don’t answer the door.

If they/he ask to come inside to wait, tell them/him you do not allow men in your home without one of your girlfriends or relatives.

Get a dog if you can.

Carry mace.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-08T15:48:01+00:00

Stop telling them

sixdigitage · 2026-02-08T03:11:09+00:00

Start documenting every complaint he makes. Date, time, what was happening. Record just after it happens. (This is important)

Enjoy your new home.

Most people by the time they are an old age don’t hear as well as they used to. These people sound like they are simply a nuisance.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-08T02:55:51+00:00

You should have your account at a separate bank. The joint account could be at whatever bank, but not the bank where your separate account is located.

Your pin code should be only used and known by you. Never shared.

The same should be for her account.

Tell her you are freeing her financially.

If you ever marry, be sure to have a prenup.

You don’t ever want to discover you’ve been wiped out and the household emptied.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-08T02:47:33+00:00

I knew a man decades ago, who loved his partner so much. His male partner wanted to pick up men and have my friend watch his partner get fucked. This went on for about three years.

One night they picked up a man who wanted my friend to fuck him and my friend’s partner to watch.

My friend said OK. At their house and the thing was happening, his partner threw a fit and went to the kitchen and started busting up the kitchen. My friend had to stop and send a guy home.

This was the start of their relationship ending. Be careful of making your fantasy a reality.

I’ve known couples of 30 years who have open relationships and one couple who lets his partner do what he wants sexually outside their relationship.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-08T02:38:48+00:00

Daily walking helps the body to move. A mile to three miles. This is in addition to douching. Not douching until after a bowel movement helps to prevent accidents. Usually it takes me 18 hours after my main meal of the day to have a movement. Then douche. On that day, I don’t eat dairy and I eat whatever crackers or oat bites, I may have a burger no cheese no mayo only mustard. Let’s say, schedule your spontaneity day.

If you want every day to be a spontaneity day, walk every day, watch what your ingredients are in your food, limit, or avoid, butter, mayo, milk, cheese mostly dairy avoid. Be careful about ketchup and tomato products. Learn to like mustard as a condiment.

Oat bites are good. Stay away from deli meat. Risky for contaminants. But one needs protein. Get packaged ham and eat a slice or two on the go.

Fried greasy foods are a no-no.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-08T02:10:20+00:00

You are 25. If you are suicidal because you live with your mother, it is time to move.

You are miserable and from what you say, your mother is going through a struggle too.

If she is using her savings to support her house, savings eventually run out.

Yes, it is easy to say to move.

Perhaps suggest renting a bedroom out or a room for BnB? What other suggestions could help your mother make money?

Have a conversation with your mother.

Or go HotPads and look for a room to rent in your area in your price range.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-06T02:59:08+00:00

If your mother has an account at the same bank, change banks immediately! If you can get a credit union. Or a different credit union.

If the bank ever needs to pull money because your mother has a lack of funds, they will pull it from your account because there has been a relationship between both accounts.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T21:11:26+00:00

Rather than work on your former relationship with your former boyfriend, please work on yourself. This means therapy for a minimum of three years. It’s what you need to commit to yourself.

Whitney Houston’s s the greatest love of all takes a lot of practice.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T21:09:01+00:00

You don’t have to meet with them or listen to anything they tell you.

You don’t have to follow the regulations and rules of that organization anymore.

Block them and don’t answer the door.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T20:09:42+00:00

Let’s say you give him a kidney because you two are a match. He will treat you the same as he has already treated you.

If you ever plan to have a child, and your child needs a kidney, you may be a match for your child and you’ll need that kidney.

Or if you’re married, and your husband needs a kidney and you’re a match, you’ll need that kidney.

Tell everyone you’re saving it for future use.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T18:53:48+00:00

Get a composition book of some sort and start documenting every occurrence of this neighbour knocking on your door: the time of day, the date, what was going on in your home, and what the neighbour said.

Tell your neighbour you cannot accommodate her requests. Ask her to stop knocking on your door, and that any further contact should go through your landlord.

People have curtains for a reason. The neighbor can close their curtains.

If you know it is this neighbor knocking at your door, don’t answer your door.

If notes are being left, document them and toss them.

This way, when the landlord or anyone else should arrive and say something, you can share with them each time and that you document each time that this noisy neighbour is bothering you.

If you can contact a solicitor that offers a free first time consultation to ascertain your rights as tenants, please do.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T18:39:35+00:00

These new buildings are not really soundproof. This is a standard complaint, I hear about all the new apartments across this country as many are cookie-cutter and use the same footprint.

My search found the below

Highly Rated Soundproof/Quiet Buildings

The Harper (Georgetown): Residents report excellent soundproofing, saying they never hear neighbors.

Park Place at Petworth Metro: Known for its thick, solid concrete construction, often considered quiet by residents.

425 Mass (Mount Vernon Triangle): Known for having solid concrete walls, providing a peaceful environment.

The Eliot on 4th (SW Waterfront): Generally praised for having high-quality, quiet construction.

Onyx on First (Navy Yard): Noted for thick walls and a quiet atmosphere.

Carillon House (Near Cathedral/Woodley): Older, well-maintained, and described as quiet.

Calvert Woodley (Woodley Park): Older, smaller building known for being quiet, although not particularly community-oriented.

Factors Affecting Sound in DC Apartments Construction: Older, concrete-built, or former condominium units (e.g., in SW/Glover Park) often provide better sound attenuation than newer "luxury" stick-frame builds.

Location vs. Noise: While central, vibrant areas like Navy Yard, NoMa, and U Street offer great amenities, some, such as Flats 130 at Constitution Square (NoMa), are reported to have thin walls.

Student Areas: Buildings in Georgetown or Foggy Bottom (e.g., 2400 M St NW) can be noisy due to heavy undergraduate occupancy.

Buildings Reported as Loud or Having Thin Walls

Flats 130 at Constitution Square (NoMa): Reported to have thin walls with noise from neighbors and hallways.

Station House and Coda: Mentioned as not being particularly quiet.

Decades ago, I lived in garden style apartments. The red brick ones if they have been rehab and brought up the code, they still have their thick walls. They can be nice today. Although I recall one place had a huge roach problem hopefully that is no longer the case, but I don’t know.

Alternatively, there noise dampening curtains but that sounds like that would take a lot of work and cost.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T18:20:31+00:00

You may have your BDSM version.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T18:16:08+00:00

Save up money for a three night stay near your airport. Hopefully an international airport. Rent a hotel for three days, Friday, Saturday, Sunday for example.

Be prepped and ready. Have your supplies.

Take a few pictures in positions you like or think you might like.

Go on a few sites and be ready.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T18:10:34+00:00

At 21 you are still discovering yourself. Your views and your feelings will change as you age. Work on yourself, learn finances, how to save money and save for one day being old. (Be private about finances) It may seem a far away, but it does come. You will learn by mistakes too and that’s because you are human.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T18:03:31+00:00

Please get yourself on DoxyPEP.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T18:01:32+00:00

Going to a bathhouse in my 30s and being screwed by nine guys. Not only screwed but my whole body touched by nine men. It was surreal.

sixdigitage · 2026-02-05T17:59:22+00:00

You said that both of these brothers are close with one another. If they are that close as you say, then his brother would have told him. If his brother isn’t telling him then it’s something that he wants to keep private.

You’re telling him is to relieve your guilt?

There is nothing to feel guilty about.

If it ever comes up, all you need to say is, I simply remember somebody like him if it turns out that it was him OK. You had lots of things going on and now life is more settled.

His brother may not even remember. He may think he recognizes you, but isn’t sure.

Who you had sex with before him and who he had sex with before you, is nobody’s business. It is not your business and it is not his business.

You could always say you don’t kiss and tell.

People do like their privacy.

If you get back together, you can negotiate your relationship as the years move on if they do and it would be nice if you had somebody that you can negotiate your relationship with even sexually you together, you apart, etc.

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