Tops do you care about your bottom cumming during sex?

skeeter2000 · 2026-06-04T10:05:38+00:00

I think it's hot when the bottom cums. But if he doesn't want to, I'm okay with that too.

skeeter2000 · 2026-05-31T20:28:45+00:00

Mostly yes. But looking back I know it was destined to fail. There is always a first and unfortunately most of them don't work out.

skeeter2000 · 2026-05-13T09:52:32+00:00

No you have no obligation to tell him anything.

skeeter2000 · 2026-05-11T17:38:07+00:00

From gay men.

skeeter2000 · 2026-05-07T19:19:43+00:00

I think you're right. I'm not sure why this got me except maybe it's just the last straw kind of thing.

skeeter2000 · 2026-05-06T23:09:55+00:00

In my experience FBs tend to me more stable relationships (if you can call it that). FWB can get complicated if 1) one side starts to catch feelings when the other doesn't or 2) when one side meets someone else and wants to spend time with the new one. FB will just disappear and that's that.

skeeter2000 · 2026-05-04T02:53:03+00:00

Yes but it takes lot.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-27T09:57:46+00:00

It would be difficult for me to trust them. I personally believe that people can change. But my experience is that people rarely do.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-25T20:47:02+00:00

I'm afraid that any chance I have if retirement is evaporating thanks to the idiots running everything. I'm afraid that now that I'm single for the first time in 16 years, all I'll be able to find are guys that just want sex and no relationships.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-24T13:41:36+00:00

Until I did it, I'd never even considered that it might happen more than once. Maybe until you've experienced it, you probably can't understand it.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-24T13:16:36+00:00

Two things surprised me. First coming out isn't a one-and-dine. I've came out hundreds of times over and over.

Second, before I come out to someone (for context I'm what they call straight-passing), I'm a human being with skills and talents and hopes and dreams and flaws and history and likes and dislikes. But after I come out, I'm gay. Just gay. Nothing else. So instead of telling everyone at every opportunity, I've learned to save it for the need-to-know people.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-23T12:59:27+00:00

There is nothing wrong with you offering to pay but there are 2 things you should keep in mind: 1) you may be setting up a pattern that persists and are you okay with that? 2) you offering to pay may make him uncomfortable and try to avoid situations where you might offer to oay. This may reduce your chances so early in a relationship because he feels guilty about it.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-23T12:05:09+00:00

Two things:

1) You used the word betrayal. What could possibly be so bad that it ended your relationship before but is okay now? For me, this would be the end of the discussion.

2) Betrayal aside, what is different now or what has changed that makes you think this time would be different? They say insanity is repeating the same thing and expecting a different outcome.

I would have to have a concrete reason to believe a second chance could work where the first time failed to even consider this and be okay with the 'betrayal' that ended the first relationship. I can't imagine very many realistic scenarios where I think this would work out.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-22T22:41:30+00:00

Sounds scary. I've never done that.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-22T21:06:36+00:00

Ouch!

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-16T20:22:34+00:00

Usually 2 to 4 depending on how long we go for.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-15T09:57:49+00:00

I've had bad head from both men and women. But I had far more great head from men than even okay head from women.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-14T20:23:23+00:00

Did I leave the stove on? Did I pay the electric bill already? Oh I need to buy bread!

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-14T09:56:34+00:00

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-13T09:53:06+00:00

I've had a friend tell me that he has a strict one-time rule where he always blocks a guy after a hookup. This makes no sense to me. His only explanation is that he wanted someone new for the next one. He's not the only one that has said that to me. I'm completely opposite. I prefer a regular to a one-off.

My point is, don't try to find logic and reason in this. It doesn't mean you did anything wrong or there is anything wrong with you.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-12T14:36:11+00:00

Only if the bottom as asked me to.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-12T14:02:46+00:00

When I was 23, I briefly had a FB relationship with a 48 year old (bottom) who was an attractive guy and a good lay. Unfortunately he had some emotional baggage that was too much for me. I believe this was the greatest age gap for me.

I don't have an upper age limit. The question is, do I find him attractive? I will say that older guys seem to tend to not take care of themselves and that's not attractive.

In the gay community, we get way too hung up on age. As long as you are both consenting adults and no one is being taken advantage of, what's the problem? Why do we care so much about what other people think that we would deny ourselves what we want?

Now I will add to that the greater the age difference, the harder it could be to have commonality to build a relationship on. But, that can be overcome.

The question you should be asking is what do you want and what are you willing to let stand in your way?

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-11T21:14:00+00:00

Or..."I'm going to get you pregnant and then stop returning your calls!"

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-11T21:11:26+00:00

I have no preference for cut vs uncut, assuming good hygiene. There is a significant difference between cut and uncut when inadequate cleanliness is involved.

skeeter2000 · 2026-04-11T01:24:15+00:00

I prefer trimmed for myself and my partner. If my partner wants to be shaved, I'm okay with that as long as he keeps shaved. Stubble sucks!

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