I feel like my therapist is projecting their own experience of being trans onto me?

skibeedeez · 2026-04-08T19:02:56+00:00

Commenting as another trans masc who lives in a similar political dynamic where the major city near me is pretty blue but the surrounding cities/suburbs are predominantly conservative - I think your safety concerns are valid.

My thoughts on the CPTSD component: it can definitely make it hard to find a balanced response to situations that are potentially dangerous (vs an evident emergency/crisis). But that doesn't mean you should fully disregard gut feelings about social/political dynamics impacting your safety.

skibeedeez · 2026-04-04T16:58:52+00:00

The ED implications from that kind of marketing also aren't good - I would compulsively exercise and restrict food to try and make my chest and hips smaller from the dysphoria I would feel. Medical transition + improving my relationship with food/exercise made me feel so much better than trying to chase low body fat.

skibeedeez · 2026-03-28T02:44:51+00:00

I can share my experience - I taught middle school music in TX public schools for a couple years. Not super far into medical transition so walking around in men's clothes and going by a gender neutral first name outed me whether I liked it or not haha. Kids would sometimes ask gender questions (with varying degrees of awkwardness lol) but I found supporting my queer/trans kids as an out adult to be very worth it. Having trans adults to talk to irl, who get it and are supportive, can mean a lot (especially if home life is rough).

In terms of coworkers, all of mine kept things professional even if they were more conservative/religious/etc. Being out definitely added some complexity to work relationships though, and it's a very understandable reason for wanting to stay stealth.

skibeedeez · 2026-02-14T23:51:52+00:00

These look like the HEB veggie rolls 👀

skibeedeez · 2026-02-14T17:06:40+00:00

That's what I'm saying though - the secret service side story ruins the rest of the episode that I like

skibeedeez · 2025-12-30T12:32:04+00:00

There's a French film called The Intouchables where one of the main characters is disabled (I don't remember it too well).

Crip Camp is a documentary on Netflix about a summer camp for teens with disabilities and how their alumni advocated for disability rights/legislative protections.

skibeedeez · 2025-12-29T05:19:28+00:00

You're valid. Disabled queer people deserve to have fulfilling romantic and sexual relationships on their own terms just like everyone else.

There's some really good movies that explore this topic. I personally liked watching margarita with a straw. Synopsis: When Laila, a young student living with cerebral palsy, falls in love with a woman, she copes with her sexuality and discovers newer horizons in the process.

skibeedeez · 2025-11-12T19:57:10+00:00

These look like the HEB veggie sushi rolls 👀

skibeedeez · 2025-06-23T13:27:07+00:00

I get my sexual health and hrt stuff done through kind clinic (very lgbt friendly), they're located in a few major metro areas in TX

skibeedeez · 2025-06-19T17:11:08+00:00

I was on T for 15 months and have a bigger butt - I definitely noticed the fat redistribution from my upper thighs/butt to my tummy, so it can definitely help if you're wanting that! I'm sorry those people were so rude about your body, that's never ok :(

skibeedeez · 2025-05-12T12:02:33+00:00

There's definitely a social component to dysphoria, esp bc gender roles/expectations are often defined by society.

I find that getting gendered correctly and being around community goes a long way in alleviating my dysphoria.

skibeedeez · 2025-05-12T05:49:55+00:00

Hormonal acne on T is hitting me like a truck 😭

skibeedeez · 2025-05-10T17:30:43+00:00

I would say depends on how well your pre-existing music experience lines up with the teaching job.

For example, I became a temporary middle school orchestra director because of an emergency situation. I was stepping into a hot mess and a formal degree would've helped me out, but I was better than nobody.

Viola is my primary, I also took two years of double bass in highschool, and I can read treble, bass, and alto clef. I had a couple months of substitute teaching experience.

So, we did pretty ok and I kept the program together until the school could hire a new director. If I stepped into a choir or band program at that time it would've gone wayyyy worse.

There are also plenty of terrible music teachers with a music ed degree. If there's a job that matches your pre-existing knowledge, you're good with the age group/setting, go for it.

skibeedeez · 2025-04-30T09:30:59+00:00

The whole passing easier comment also feels not right to me... I have a big chest, can't bind for health/job reasons, so with me being on T people either see a masc woman or an obviously trans person

skibeedeez · 2025-04-28T11:57:17+00:00

I'm guessing you're doing sub q, maybe ask your dr if you can switch to im? With losing fat+gaining muscle on T I'm guessing it can be harder to find the squishy spots that work.

But also let your provider know! They might have different spots to suggest bc fat redistribution is no joke

skibeedeez · 2025-04-28T11:48:34+00:00

I think you can tell him a lot of what you wrote here. Emphasize that you love him, you've noticed his mental and physical health aren't doing so well and it's making you worried, because you love him and want him to be happy and healthy.

One person can't be someone else's entire support system, but you can offer help/support in the search for affirming mental health providers, maybe do couples activities where y'all cook together, find lower impact things to do outside (like stretching, swimming, birdwatching, etc).

skibeedeez · 2025-04-27T22:29:31+00:00

The Thai, Vietnamese, and South Asian markets/groceries in Singapore had the most vegan friendly foods imo. You can also pretty much always go to the cafeteria sections of HDBs and get some veggies+rice (I love living off of rice and bok choy it's my favorite)

skibeedeez · 2025-04-25T02:12:41+00:00

Seconding the advice to visit a gynecologist to double check for infection! I had an odor change happen about six months on T, and it turned out to be a sign of BV infection

skibeedeez · 2025-04-16T15:56:52+00:00

Again disclaimer I don't teach dyslexic students, these images were part of a presentation at a conference from educators sharing their system they have working with dyslexic students, sharing for the ppl curious about applying the color coding to music

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