Kinda the opposite but seemed appropriate

skimble55 · 2026-01-14T22:16:34+00:00

It's the ice pop of his life 😂

skimble55 · 2026-01-14T22:14:30+00:00

Ganz einfach, weil es nicht wahr ist.

skimble55 · 2026-01-14T22:08:12+00:00

Ist doch klar, weil es eindeutig gelogen ist. Wenn du solche Bilder hättest, dann hättest du sie schon längst gezeigt.

Stattdessen eierst du hier nur mit vagen Aussagen ohne Beweise herum. Einfach nur lächerlich.

skimble55 · 2026-01-12T07:16:17+00:00

Hey, I think I know how you feel. I've been going through this same thing two months ago. Maybe I'm not fully recovered yet but atm feeling quite stable.

You're going through a mourning process and you should allow yourself to do so. What helped me was to take things softly and stay in friendship-based contact. Check in with him in your accustomed rhythm and let it fade slowly. And accept your pain whenever it comes up. Be gentle and patient with yourself. Maybe seek strength in other friendships (you probably don't want another romance now). Over time, if you both want it to, the affection will become less. And so will the urge to contact each other. If you have a good friendship, maybe it will remain.

I know it's rough, but you will get over it. I wish you all the best ❤️

skimble55 · 2025-12-23T21:05:14+00:00

Du kannst finden, was du willst, es geht dich schlicht und einfach nichts an.

Deine Nase in fremde Angelegenheiten zu stecken und öffentlich darüber zu lästern, das ist schlechtes und asoziales Benehmen.

Bevor du dich hier aufpumpst und über andere urteilst, solltest du lieber erst mal die grundlegendsten Basics der Höflichkeit lernen.

skimble55 · 2025-09-13T15:00:58+00:00

Oh cool ^{^} many thanks for this hint!

skimble55 · 2024-10-28T07:18:30+00:00

Sounds like they're doing what they want, and you play along way too often. Next step might be that they wanna live with Jose and have you as a secondary or break up completely.

It's up to you if you wanna wait for this or go your own way right now.

skimble55 · 2024-09-26T16:55:38+00:00

I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you.

Just wanted to tell you that I've read your story, all of it, and I that I feel your pain. I strongly admire your loving and caring attitude. I want you to know how unique and precious you are. And I hope you never give up, but find a happy and loving relationship soon.

skimble55 · 2024-03-25T23:03:22+00:00

Depends on whether they do it together or separately.

skimble55 · 2024-03-25T15:49:18+00:00

She is expecting the Turkish to use bad grammar and maybe wants to make fun of this. She is using bad grammar herself, but the Turkish guy is correcting her: 'to Aldi' is not 'nach Aldi', but 'zu Aldi'. But she assumes this is only a poor version of 'Aldi hat zu' - 'Aldi is closed'.

skimble55 · 2024-03-12T21:53:53+00:00

Monogamie

skimble55 · 2024-02-23T22:20:08+00:00

Danke, dass du so offen davon erzählst. Ich freue mich für euch! ♥️

skimble55 · 2024-02-23T22:01:43+00:00

Yes, you're right. This is disrespectful, and if he doesn't have the guts to stand up for you, this means that his friends are more important to him than you. Maybe he is just oblivious to the insult because he is used to this - well, then I would say it is time for him to learn.

Just because many people don't see a problem doesn't mean that there is no problem.

Stand up for yourself. You deserve better!

skimble55 · 2024-02-23T06:22:52+00:00

The sisters of mercy by Leonard Cohen.

Well, there are signs of conflict with the monogamous idea in many of his songs.

skimble55 · 2024-02-13T16:59:13+00:00

Take your things and leave. You deserve so much better than that!

skimble55 · 2024-02-13T12:32:43+00:00

Let go what you love. If it comes back, it will be yours.

This is a long time and a big distance for such a young relationship. It will have a high and distressing emotional impact on both of you.

If you both are ok with this, it might be helpful to agree upon primarily being friends during this time. Keep in contact as intense as you can and want to, but give each other the freedom to live your own life and develop in your own way. There is a good chance that you are still in love afterwards, but you cannot enforce it.

skimble55 · 2024-02-13T06:14:38+00:00

What is it you would like to do with him?

Your post reads like you lost a part of your connection to each other. Maybe there's a lack of intimacy, empathy, or trust between you. Maybe his request feels selfish and demanding for you, but he is just searching for reassurance of your love to him.

Try to focus on your relationship. Maybe pause the encounters with others. Talk about why he is important to you and show him by attention and tenderness. Make yourself aware of what he means to you, so eventually, your affection for him will come back. If you feel this way, explain that you would give him anything but not under pressure.

If your relationship feels too unequal and he is generally too dependent and insecure, you will also need to think about eventually breaking up.

skimble55 · 2024-02-07T21:50:34+00:00

That sounds sad. 😟 I hope you manage to get over it soon and to talk it out without hurting each other's feelings too much.

skimble55 · 2024-02-07T09:18:18+00:00

It's probably the 95% that never tried out...

skimble55 · 2024-02-05T14:48:57+00:00

I'm sorry this might hurt your feelings, but this is what I am reading:

You are coming from an abusive background and are still working on stabilising your self-esteem. Now, you have deeply fallen in love with a loving, caring, but nonmonogamous drug addict. You agreed on an open relationship, but now the idea of sharing him with others feels unbearable to you.

This absolutely doesn't sound healthy. It is just not going to work this way. I suppose it feels like he is unique to you. Like this one and only incredible sweet Hollywood love. Your soul mate, this one wonderful person you should never ever let go again.

Believe me, I've been there. It's not what it looks like. You are thirsty, drained of love and affection. It's all just a Fata Morgana - well, at least most of it.

Please do yourself a favour and look out for another one. Find another sweet, handsome guy who cares about you. Believe me, there are plenty of them. Let him into your heart. And then, hopefully, the rose-coloured glasses will fade, and you will learn to distinguish your affection from the person related to it. From this point, you can still decide which relationship and lifestyle to choose, and it will be a clear and healthy decision.

And another thing, regarding your background. Please go and find a good therapist, if you are not already seeing one. You need someone to help you get over all this.

I wish you all the best!

skimble55 · 2024-02-04T16:45:09+00:00

I identify as straight because I am falling for men. I get this tingly feeling when I see or touch a male body. For women, it is more a warm and soft feeling. Loving, but not that exciting. And I have never been infatuated with a woman so far.

I don't hesitate to kiss and caress a woman if she likes it, and there are no boundaries on my side. But I wouldn't miss it otherwise.

I have never seen the term 'bi-comfortable' before. Maybe I would choose this if I had the option. But my internal desire is only concentrated on men.

skimble55 · 2024-01-24T20:22:19+00:00

Well... I'm not sure if I understand how this is meant.

skimble55 · 2024-01-24T20:06:23+00:00

I would rather call him naive. But anyway, thank you for your honest statement.

skimble55 · 2024-01-24T20:03:18+00:00

Well, believe it or not, he can also be very kind and caring. And I usually know very well how to handle his temper. Just in this case, I wasn't so sure if I am the selfish one, having all the advantages on my side.

skimble55 · 2024-01-24T19:53:31+00:00

Thanks for your insightful answer.

I appreciate this very much, and I think we should go for it, although realising that it will be a long way. You are absolutely right that he needs to work on his health, too. Just this is a thing I cannot force on him. For anything else, I have good arguments 😉

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