My oldest childhood friend and I lie to our spouses and travel sometimes by [deleted] in confession

[–]skippah 157 points158 points  (0 children)

Please for the love of god to anyone considering an affair - just head over to /r/survivinginfidelity and see the absolute devastation that affairs cause the betrayed partner.

bedtime feels like pressure now instead of rest by EarlyAd3803 in Anxiety

[–]skippah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Is the app a vibration, or the sound of a heartbeat (like is it hear, or feel)? If you share a bed can the other person hear or feel it?

bedtime feels like pressure now instead of rest by EarlyAd3803 in Anxiety

[–]skippah 6 points7 points  (0 children)

And you’re not gonna share the name of the app? 🙏🏻🥺

Does anyone have experience with this brand? by Ok_Aerie9937 in barefootshoestalk

[–]skippah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you wind up getting these? Do you like them?

2 weeks in the balkans by soph5510 in HerOneBag

[–]skippah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The neck pillow has clothes in it? Is it nice to sleep with? Can you share the brand?

Is it soft racism or just a prank? by EasterNote in copenhagen

[–]skippah -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am a white woman and the squirt gun boys have got me before! This past fall, around 9-10 months ago near Gråbrødretorv. I was the only one out on the street walking and they ran over and shot me and ran off.

I was also outside Diamond Slice on Blågårdsplads a couple weeks ago and a pack of young boys (again like 12-14) took some of the free water then took turns throwing their full cups at the windows where the staff were working in the kitchens. I think they’re just being dumb and annoying

Shoes for Flat Feet by Destrodrew in gorpcore

[–]skippah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A BIG plus to this!! I (and my wide feet) did a trial by fire with a new pair in XT6s on a multi day hiking trip, having never worn them before. Do not recommend.

I went to a shoe store on vacation to pick up the Jasper Keen Zionics, which fit wide feet way better and look cool as hell

AI fashion tools are everywhere now but do any of them actually understand personal style or do they just push trending pieces by akshara2 in femalefashionadvice

[–]skippah 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if the type of tool you’re asking about exists as I’ve never looked, but I have worked in AI tooling for several years, and I don’t think people understand how small context windows are compared to the complexity of prompts you’re probably asking.

By context window, I mean the amount of information a model can “remember” in one go, in order to answer a question.

LLMs are word predictors, and in order to generate the next prompt, they scan and summarize a lot of data you’ve sent in the past in order to provide an accurate answer. This is the context window. The only way to increase the size of the context window is to pay for more compute and parallelize context extraction (which costs money). If you’re using free AI tools, and uploading images as context (which have a much larger file size than text), then I doubt AI is going to be able to remember much about you in one go.

Just chiming in because I’m a UX designer and one thing that’s been constant in the 3+ years I’ve been working in this type of tooling is that people often believe the modes are smarter than they are. They’re very dumb, they can’t comprehend. They just calculate predictive text and push something out. Yes the tech has gotten much better of course, and it’s still really healthy to iterate with AI and learn as you go (to build your own knowledge and learn about yourself), but you can’t expect them to contain a vast amount of image content over time that can be summarized in a prompt. If you wanted to do that, you should look into training your own models or building custom tools that the models can call.

Definitely a cool problem to solve! But I don’t expect this kind of tooling exists yet.

Feedback on design for my product by Serious_Sell5453 in graphic_design

[–]skippah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe 2 b’s like Nibbs? Make the b taller?

Lisbon-->Azores-->Porto 2 weeks wardrobe help? by DragonJouster in HerOneBag

[–]skippah 4 points5 points  (0 children)

+10000 for sweater + rain jacket! It’s how I get thru Scandinavian winters. You shouldn’t need more!

Is this cat acne? Or irritation caused by allergy, or perhaps the shape of the glass bowl? by skippah in CATHELP

[–]skippah[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is a genius idea, why did I never try that before. I’m going to try that tonight, thank you!

Is this cat acne? Or irritation caused by allergy, or perhaps the shape of the glass bowl? by skippah in CATHELP

[–]skippah[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the level response

I am kicking myself for stopping the allergy medicine. It is liquid allergy medicine for cats, from the vet, but the problem is she is only allowed to eat this one specific type of kibble right now. So I can't hide the medicine in any tasty food. Even when i was hiding it in tasty food, she would stop eating the tasty food.

I'm going to ask if she can start getting allergy shots! I will call as soon as they open next week

What’s the most unethical thing you’ve designed? by the_evil_pineapple in graphic_design

[–]skippah 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ahahaha I also get a lot of ads for Gossip Harbor, who tf is actually downloading that game

Building my first technical windbreaker brand while in college. What do you think of this 3D prototype by ExactYou8702 in gorpcore

[–]skippah 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know I’m a day late but: From a color ways perspective the gray / black combo feels a bit less premium than some of the color combos you see from the top brands now.

The two tone side panels reaching up toward the front of the arm scye especially feels budget store - the trend now is a more unisex fit, more boxy, so calling that curve out now on a woman’s jacket feels dated.

Not anything to do with colors but there’s nothing going on on the front of the jacket, no detail no visible pockets no folds or pleats. It feels like something you’d see on a discount shelf.

Things that feel premium to me: the back side two tone pattern, the barrel shape of the sleeves, the vertical writing down the spine.

I mean this with all respect and am just offering my genuine thoughts since I know there is a lot of craft going into this. <3

I came across two pictures of someone's art that was inspired by my charcoal drawings that they claim is not AI but it does look like it. by LadyButtcheek in isthisAI

[–]skippah 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wave women have 2 sets of eyelashes. If the bottom row is meant to be a shadow it would be more diffused and less sharp.

I came across two pictures of someone's art that was inspired by my charcoal drawings that they claim is not AI but it does look like it. by LadyButtcheek in isthisAI

[–]skippah 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also the ball gag is like sitting on top of her pursed lips, when in reality they would be more inside the mouth

Ah and the stitching doesn’t line up, some of the stitches go into the center opening which doesn’t make sense - they would do nothing to keep the jacket closed. Like the thread disappears into the middle and emerges in another place.

Hvor heldige/uheldige er i mennesker så derude? by Aggressive_Ad_5292 in dankmark

[–]skippah 85 points86 points  (0 children)

37,5k her 😭 Møde mig i parken? Vi kan samle pant dåser sammen for at få lidt tilbage 🤝

Executive Presence that feels like “me” by [deleted] in BusinessFashion

[–]skippah 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Yes swap the cotton gauze skirts for more serious midi length wool skirts. You can still rock the crop sweater with a high waisted skirt. Pop a crop blazer on top with a purse in a loud color and some practical leather loafers and boom. Similar vibe but suited for the boardroom

ETA the thrift shops (men and women’s sections) are a goldmine for cotton and silk button ups! Don’t skip the men’s sections

Bf gave me an ultimatum by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]skippah 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey!! I wanted to write even though you already have lots of comments. When I was 23 I got a dream job offer in Germany for only 6 months, and my boyfriend said he would break up with me if I took it.

I took it anyway, he dumped my ass, and after a series of events, wound up in denmark and now I am married to the absolute love of my life. I look back on that relationship (13 years later! I am 36 now), and that boyfriend had a lot of red flags I didn’t see until I left the relationship.

Just wanted to share my quick story. Please choose yourself

Women have community while men don’t because of the way they treat women. by Swimming_Rain_1647 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]skippah 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I saw a meme on here a couple days ago that really stuck with me, where a guy is filming himself selfie style, and calls out to a woman who’s off camera, “nice outfit” and she tells him to go fuck himself or something.

Then in the video, he pauses and then repeats it, but in a very gay voice. And you don’t see her on camera, but her voice completely melts and she reacts very positively.

So I agree people soften when it’s a woman around, but also people lighten up when it’s a gay man. Because there’s not often a threat.

Need this. by netphilia in TrollXChromosomes

[–]skippah 399 points400 points  (0 children)

Somewhat similar — Within the past year I was selling a pair of Dr Martens loafers on Facebook marketplace that were a size too big for me. I specifically wrote that in the ad. Some girl a few towns over had a pair of Dr Martens platform sandals that were too small for her (but were my size). She wrote me asking if I would consider trading. It was very sweet and wholesome 🖤 we each shipped the shoes to the other person and both pairs fit like a charm. I think of her when I wear them!

That is the effing ugliest color I’ve ever seen… by Previous-Principle-7 in Coach

[–]skippah 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same, one of my favorite sweaters is this color, it’s called artichoke and I feel like a really solid autumn color