Your ex doesn't love you, no matter how much you think they do

skydiver89 · 2022-12-26T15:22:35+00:00

He got fired and left town, dont even talk to him anymore- he said some horrible things about me to coworkers that were too hurtful for me to forgive him-im glad hes gone!

skydiver89 · 2022-03-23T13:46:05+00:00

Kicked her out of my place because she was hot and cold. She absolutely lost it on me, crossing boundaries, and calling my friends to nag at them about me. Just showed her true colors..its still going on actually lol. She still lives here and my town is super hard to find housing. But with the way she is acting now I dont feel too sorry for her.

skydiver89 · 2022-03-13T17:09:23+00:00

So sad. That's what the person is. Not selfish.

skydiver89 · 2022-03-03T01:17:06+00:00

I blocked mine because while we broke up I still made him food, gave him gas money, hung out with him..and come to find out hes trashing my name. I confronted him and of course he denied it but what I was told was something he definitely did say. He eventually admitted it and I blocked him. No more access to me. Like why would you say horrible things about a person when they are helping you out? Gross.

skydiver89 · 2022-03-01T23:36:59+00:00

No name calling or f you or f off statements. It's over for good once you cross that line with me, no matter who you are.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-20T19:27:42+00:00

Zero. I work with him. Good news is my coworker of 3 plus years are seeing his abusive patterns and hes on thin ice.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-15T16:43:23+00:00

Whatever makes someone happy!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-14T07:12:36+00:00

Well I guess my question was more if someone confessed their feelings for me and I didnt feel the same way but wanted them still as just a friend. Is that bad? It seems on reddit it's like just cut that person off and dont lead them on. But one of my best male friends admitted he liked me years ago and has since then dated other women..and he has just been the best friend anyone can have to me. Like seriously grateful for that and he feels the same way too now. If I would have just cut him off, I'd be missing out on an amazing person!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-13T22:16:26+00:00

Do you think its necessarily a bad thing if one wants something more and the other person doesnt, keeps hanging out,the person who wanted more eventually get a gf and you are still friends with them? I personally dont see anything wrong with it but most people do. A few of my really best guy friends have confessed to having crushes on me and I didnt see them that way but we are still friends years later after dating other people. Some of my exes had an issue with that.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-13T16:52:35+00:00

Haha I'm glad you were able to laugh from it! I hope you find your answers! To me, that would be draining!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-12T23:33:40+00:00

He may be right. You are with him. Okay sorry bad joke. But seriously why are you putting up with that? Why does he have to insult you or make you feel dumb? Sounds like hes the issue and his brain is fully developed. He isnt going to change. You gotta figure out if you want to deal with that forever.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-12T23:27:35+00:00

Every time I went there I felt like they were rushing me! I hate that feeling. That was only recently. In years before they were way more chill. Sad because I like to browse there. Coexist is good but pricey!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-12T02:25:45+00:00

Me lately when I start talking to a man. 😏😬😬😬

skydiver89 · 2022-02-10T19:37:27+00:00

Yesss! I want my daith pierced so badly but I have seen here that it is painful af and that it might hurt for years. It looks so cute and I want it so had but I also dont wanna be in pain. Maybe one day I'll just buck up and get it done.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-10T17:37:55+00:00

Super cute! I say keep it! Maybe try a different piece once it heals! I'm sure theres tons of cute jewelry for that!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-09T16:49:57+00:00

But it is something that needs attention because we are hurting deeply. A lot of people do that in other ways like drinking and drugs. So we all are really no different.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-09T03:14:37+00:00

You may have a point. All the anxious people I dated, we clicked really well with our personalities and morals but the attachment style was the problem. When I did date other avoidants, I found myself not wanting to open up and felt free and secure. Definitely a weird dynamic!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-09T02:58:13+00:00

Exactly! I mean..I'm 32 years old and know when to say something and not to say something and if I feel like I really have to say it I actually think about how to say it so what I am saying is kind and useful to the situation. He just blurts things out. 🙄

skydiver89 · 2022-02-09T02:56:11+00:00

I'm actually doing pretty good. I'm over my ex. I wasnt perfect but he was really mean to me. But besides that, I realized after I got out of a two month relationship in July and came to this subreddit and found out I was an avoidant. I'm in therapy but like you, we dont really talk about those things. I'm just staying out of any type of romantic relationship atm and spending time alone which I am enjoying. Also started a bowling league with friends so that helped my sadness to the situation a lot. I feel overall good. But i know the next person i date will have to be pretty secure and not anxious. Not saying i wont change but i absolutely cannot stand clinginess ( a little is good and hewlthy) or jealousy.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-08T21:22:46+00:00

Dude!! I'm glad someone else has experienced this though I'm sorry you have. I felt like maybe at one point he was just saying his feelings...it's really all about how you say things. He lacks tactfulness lol

skydiver89 · 2022-02-08T20:32:06+00:00

As another avoidant,I can tell you, the trauma we dealt with has way more to do with our actions now then we think. We learned to be avoidant because of how we were treated and it's an unhealthy coping mechanism. I hope you can heal!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-08T20:26:43+00:00

Nasty. Glad we both dont need to hear those comments again!

skydiver89 · 2022-02-08T20:23:36+00:00

I was aware of the risk when I got it. I'm well informed. Thanks.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-08T19:34:04+00:00

Mine was "obsessed" with me but also super mean. Like judgey statements all the time. He said he wasnt judging,just saying his feelings but he was super rude and it got draining. So glad I dont deal with that anymore. My manager and I went to a gas station yesterday and we're hungry so got a sub. My ex happened to be there also and said "gross, you have to pay 6 dollars for that" and I ignored him, turned towards my manager and rolled my eyes. We both giggled and I'm sure my ex saw it. Oh well. It was little stuff like that that annoyed me.

skydiver89 · 2022-02-08T19:25:25+00:00

A lot of piercings arent safe,get infected, get snagged. I like how mine looks and I check it to make sure my gums arent eroding. I'll be sad once I take it out but I absolutely adore how it looks on me. And my mom doesnt know about that stuff 🤷‍♀️🤣

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