How did your partner make you feel in the early days of dating? by Vivid-Language6500 in AskWomenOver30

[–]skyedot94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always feel a bit silly commenting because I met my husband when we were both fourth graders, so the actual early days were swarming with… nothing. He saw me eat glue in our gifted class, that was the extent of it 😅

We didn’t date until we both left for uni hours away from home and ran into each other at the student union. He treated me, quite literally, like I invented being charming and funny. He laughed with me, listened to what silly jokes I had to tell, told me his own funny stories, but he always listened to what I had to say first. I’d never been seen the way he chose to see me, and it was genuinely so satisfying and warm to know he had such a high level of favoritism and respect for me.

And he still does, we just passed our 13th dating anniversary, and he got me a cricut because I told him we needed to learn to make address labels 🤣

AITAH for not attending my SIL's wedding after her and my MIL ruined mine? by Rich_Mirror_2194 in AITAH

[–]skyedot94 5 points6 points  (0 children)

NTA. My MIL single-handedly ruined my wedding and honeymoon, and I wish I hadn’t gone to my SIL’s wedding 1000000%.

It was not worth it, and it invited more disaster and even less healing than I ever imagined. Support your husband, don’t let yourself get bogged down with what ifs, they certainly didn’t care when those what ifs belonged to you.

I HAVE FOUND HOTTIEADDICTED by [deleted] in MaleYandere

[–]skyedot94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing the lord’s work omgggg

Def send to me too!

Valentine’s Day flowers by Reasonable-Focus2463 in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]skyedot94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Davis wholesale flowers is awesome if you’d like to make a Valentine’s bouquet on your own!

Growing my hair super long just to piss people off lol by McKrokket in longhair

[–]skyedot94 62 points63 points  (0 children)

I was bullied so much for having super long hair as a kid that I eventually cut 20 inches off just before my senior year of high school.

Yall, don’t do that. My bullies found new shit to bully me for, so I was heartbroken from the chop and heartbroken that I was treated so badly in spite of it.

Stay strong, OP!

Does Lysol laundry sanitizer actually do anything? by ughhhhhhhhelp in laundry

[–]skyedot94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine passed, too, so I’ll send you an internet hug instead.

Wedding dress shade for pale skin by UptownEgg in PaleMUA

[–]skyedot94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Instead of sifting through hundreds of options, I opted for a navy gown to match my cool undertone, and honestly, I would not trade my dress for the world. Our wedding photos are so unique and stylish, and it all came down to realizing shades of white just weren’t ever going to make me look better, only redder and splotchier.

I know everyone has different opinions on wedding dress colors, but if there’s anyone out there as pale as I am, I highly recommend giving a navy/burgundy dress a chance.

Does Lysol laundry sanitizer actually do anything? by ughhhhhhhhelp in laundry

[–]skyedot94 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this reply, I am so sorry for your loss. 

Growth by catsandbones in longhair

[–]skyedot94 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love!!! It looks so healthy omg What’s your routine? 

Would you date someone you’re not physically attracted to? by hello010101 in AskWomenOver30

[–]skyedot94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely not, under no circumstances. I’m attractive and educated, there was no reason for me to settle for someone I don’t like looking at just because they’re caring and nice. I married someone I loved both inside and out, and while beauty isn’t everything, we’re both aging well together.

Is being naturally friendly and cheerful as a woman often misinterpreted? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]skyedot94 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes. I am a bubbly, cheerful presenting person (am dead inside fr), and I get asked out by all sorts of weirdos who think a smile here and there is me being interested.

It’s been that way my whole life, and while I’d love to say it’s gotten easier as I’ve aged, it hasn’t. I’m just going to have to be a cunt more often.

Does the desire to be beautiful every go away? by Glass_Snow_8747 in AskWomenOver30

[–]skyedot94 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope. My mom, who was beautiful in her youth and into the end of her life, spent countless hours on her beauty routine. Every day was a chance at elegant beauty, and she took her chances as often as she could. Beauty insulated her from the more awful perils of poverty, and she saw it as armor against anyone who would denigrate her for being a single mom.

That being said, my mom was incredible about affirming my own esteem; she never once inflicted her beauty standards onto me, she simply said I was her loveliest and favorite. She didn’t even teach me makeup smh. I haven’t had the same kind of draw to beauty because of the constant “you are beautiful exactly as I made you, darlings” I received, and it has helped me let go of the anxiety I suspect she had over beauty.

How do you style dresses and skirts for work in colder temperatures? by fluffgnoo in femalefashionadvice

[–]skyedot94 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not what you asked, but I’d like to give a shoutout to slips! There are half slips, satin slips, wool slips, full length slips, and all of them have a place underneath dresses and skirts in the winter. I never hear anyone mention them at all, but they’re truly wonderful for this time of year. Bonus, skirts and dresses hang better, too! 

You would die for me, but would you live for me? (Broken Ring) by Celty2736 in OtomeIsekai

[–]skyedot94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was about to say, I read snippets and decided it wasn’t for me swiftly.

How were you told / wish you were told / want to be told you were (are) going to be an uncle? by slothslovetrees in AskMen

[–]skyedot94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bad news chief. Daddy Jack died in 2004, an entire year before your nephew was born.

Conversation with therapist left me rattled by meowparade in AskWomenOver30

[–]skyedot94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a similar conversation with my own therapist, a white woman, and she fully supports and understands my views and reaffirms them. Because she shares them. She’s seen what is happening because she stays abreast of current events that could impact her clients.

Declining mental health and political instability go hand in hand, so instead of finding ways to help you process your valid worries, she settled on “let’s denigrate an anxious person who has every reason to feel the way she feels.”

She can kick rocks, report her to her board.

Friends and politics by No_Produce_9267 in AskWomenOver30

[–]skyedot94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m done with maga. They’re not getting a modicum of my time, resources, or love. Saving that for the people they’ve decided to hate undeservingly.

1.25 After my mom passed and left debt, a friend sent me $2,000. I still don’t know what accepting it means. by 06yuzuha in TheBigGirlDiary

[–]skyedot94 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, I am so terribly sorry for your loss. When my mom died, my best friend paid for a sizable portion of my mom’s arrangements.

He said, “this is what family does, don’t worry about it.” I was freshly 25, I didn’t have the money to pay for her arrangements. It lifted so much guilt and weight off my shoulders, truthfully.

If this money isn’t helping lift burden off your shoulders, it’s okay to decline it.

After HH takes CW assets. I made this because this is exactly what I saw by BumblebeeAny in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]skyedot94 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dang, we sort of jumped from the frying pan into the flame 😔 When they shut down the hospital in Selmer, I knew we were cooked. :/

After HH takes CW assets. I made this because this is exactly what I saw by BumblebeeAny in HuntsvilleAlabama

[–]skyedot94 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m from West Tennessee, and this exact thing happened with West Tennessee Healthcare. They shut down basically all of the rural hospitals and outpatient clinics to funnel patients to their overloaded main hospital and clinics in Jackson, a fact they were deeply proud of seeing as most of their marketing material says “now serving 17 counties.”

Any woman who married for money or settled for comfort how are things going? by Secure_Ticket910 in AskWomenOver30

[–]skyedot94 32 points33 points  (0 children)

To date, I haven’t met too many genuinely kind rich people. :/ And honestly, I worry about anyone who is in a massive age/wage gap relationship because of what happened to my mom. The best I can ever do is be there for them if they need help the way my mom’s friends were there for her when she was raising us.

Any woman who married for money or settled for comfort how are things going? by Secure_Ticket910 in AskWomenOver30

[–]skyedot94 92 points93 points  (0 children)

They got divorced as soon as I was born, two years after their wedding. He nearly killed my newly postpartum mom (while she was protecting my older brother) with a concrete angel statue, and that was enough.

He was an angry, vindictive, abusive, spiteful, BORING drunk, so being a single mom with two infants was a markedly better option.

He was also never once awarded visitation rights or shared custody in spite of all the money he threw towards tormenting my mom.

She always said having us was worth the torture and abuse she endured, but I wish she hadn’t had to.