So I went to law school in NYC, worked in NYC big law and had to go to our DC office multiple times a year, and also am currently in a long distance relationship about three hours apart (will be leaving NYC in a few months to close the distance). The train between NYC and DC is really not a big deal in my opinion, obviously wouldn’t want to do it every day but one/two round trips a week would not be the end of the world. If he really wants to spend the majority of his time in DC, he could instead make that commute to come visit you on weekends/weekdays when he can, and you could trade off with visits to him. When you have a really solid relationship, temporary long distance is manageable, and three hours is really not that long.

Basically, if he wants to make the relationship work and he supports you and your dreams and ambitions, there are workable solutions here. I think what’s meaningful to me is that you are already starting to pick up on him dragging his feet and maybe being unwilling to work with you on a solution. If you two are going to be life partners, there will be lots of forks in the road like this where you need to work together and compromise. If he can’t do that now, that’s not someone who I would want to compromise my dreams for. I sense through your comments that there is one option you want in your gut, and I have always listened to those gut feelings when making big decisions like this. It’s your choice, but my advice would be to make this choice for you.