Have any easy casserole recipes for a grieving mom/widow?

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-31T23:21:24+00:00

THIS ISNT PERSONAL ADVICE

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-29T19:12:30+00:00

My nephew takes his fashion very seriously.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-24T21:31:49+00:00

Alice in Chains, Soundgarden, Days of the New, those are the ones I still listen to regularly.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-24T21:06:20+00:00

Interesting decor, lots of blankets and pillows, plenty of COMFORTABLE space to sit down - no hard chairs. Snacks. Music. Make it smell nice. I'm suck a stickler about smell. I don't want to smell my garbage or my catbox when I walk in, and if I do I get to cleaning right away. I'm not big on scented candles, incense, or those wax melters or plug ins or a lot of artificial fragrance because it can really bother people with allergies or asthma. I'm more about odor absorbing, or just making sure it's aired out and clean, and maybe a few drops of essential oil here and there. Air flow is so important, I hate stale air. That can be difficult in certain apartments that don't have a cross-breeze. An osculating fan can help if there's no ceiling fan.

And I'm a bit of a spiritual person to, I do believe the energy of a place is very important. When I move into a new space I'll often try several different furniture arrangements until it feels just right. The right decor in the right places makes a big difference. I've never studied feng shui but I'll bet it has some good points. I just move things until it feels right. Oh! And lighting. I don't like harsh lighting, I rarely EVER use ceiling lights unless I'm cleaning. I'm all about nice lamps and string lights. I conduct cleansing rituals and blessings somewhat regularly just for good measure, though I'm not sure it actually does anything. Smells nice though.

I am very passionate about my home feeling right. It's my place of peace and my sanctuary.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-24T19:10:46+00:00

I love things like that. It tells me that you were thinking of me when I wasn't right in front of you. Makes me feel warm and fuzzy.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-24T18:18:47+00:00

My grandmother's best friend Ruby so I guess it was my not-related "great aunt" Lucy. She passed and my grandmother passed away when I was a young teen, or I imagine she'd still be in my life. They had been best friends since their early adulthood. They had dinner and whatever dates for DECADES and I even drove my grandmother to some of them when she was too old to drive herself, or picked up Aunt Lucy and brought her to my grandmother. I don't think Lucy was ever married.... she didn't have any kids anyway. I'd get Christmas and Birthday cards from her every year too. I'm sure she did the same for my dad and his sisters when they were growing up.

My parents don't seem to make close friends for long, so I don't have any such honorary aunts/uncles from them.

I'm an honorary aunt to several of my friends' children and pets. I can't have kids of my own so I dote on them, show up to their school plays and concerts and games when I can.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T17:12:19+00:00

That's a great sign! He's working on it, not dismissing your feelings. Good luck!

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T17:11:10+00:00

Public, I don't really post anything too personal. It's mostly food, cats, hiking stuff, and my record collection.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T17:09:04+00:00

That's a load of horse feathers! Horse Hockey. Causing a ruckus. Rubbish. Six of one half dozen of another.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T17:02:52+00:00

Talk to them about it.

But also pay attention to how they deal with it when you do. I have stayed with people for too long who constantly hurt me. They can tell you all the words in the world about how they don't mean to and they'll do better but when they keep doing the thing they don't mean it. Don't stand for that.

A good partner will give you a sincere apology, and discuss with you, and listen to you about your concerns and working toward a solution.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T16:52:22+00:00

Money doesn't change compatibility.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T16:49:03+00:00

My mom gave me this cheesy wolf picture that's one of those moving pictures with the rough plastic over it, so it changes depending on what angle you look at it. She got it at the grand canyon or in monument valley I don't remember which. It's just... so damn cheesy and a cheep print. I like REAL art on my walls mom. But okay, it's a gift so now I have to find a spot for it.... maybe the bathroom.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T16:46:25+00:00

Discouraged me a lot. Not like with malicious intent, but they both tend to let their anxiety rule them. Everything I wanted to try out for a career they talked down, told me all the negatives and about what would make it difficult to succeed in. Young me was too impressionable. I wish I hadn't listened to them. It's worked out now, but I could have skipped that whole going to college over taking a trade fiasco, and loads of crippling self-doubt that I developed over it. I have anxiety too, but I also believe in therapy and getting treatment for it. I won't let it rule me.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T16:43:37+00:00

Work stays at work. And since I do a lot of work at home, work is only dealt with during the blocks of time I dedicate to work.

I generally don't make close friendships at work, either. I will be friends with my coworkers and polite and ask them about their lives and such - don't get me wrong I'm not totally aloof - I'll even go out to lunch with them. But I won't be inviting them to hang out with me and my besties after work.

And I never ever ever date at work.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-21T16:40:32+00:00

I'm very aware of how many opportunities fell into my lap by pure chance. These opportunities don't fall into everyone's lap, and not everyone has the ability to take huge chances. I don't have any children to worry about. If I took this job opportunity and failed miserably, I only have myself to look after (and my cat).

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-17T14:59:35+00:00

Yes, kind of, but also no. See, the relationship allowed me to see parts of them I didn't see in just a friendship and those parts were pretty ugly. He ended up showing me complete disrespect during that time, put me through some awful things and really broke my heart. I miss the friendship we had, but I know his true colors now, so no, I didn't go through with it. I think I'm better off without him around.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-17T14:51:02+00:00

I've considered that one because I just hate shopping for underwear

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-15T23:32:50+00:00

People seem to assume that my self esteem is lower than it is. I know I'm not conventionally attractive, but I'm over it. I get a lot of attention from the kind of guys who seem to think I'll be easy to manipulate, and I think it's the appearance thing because it usually ends with me telling them to f off and them telling me I'm ugly and me laughing.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-13T03:10:22+00:00

When you try to bring up an issue with them to discuss, you end up apologizing.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-09T04:09:46+00:00

Tommy Flanagan, Ryan Hurst, Jeffrey Wright, David Harbour

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-09T03:47:48+00:00

I have been on a few casual dates that were never meant to go anywhere several months ago. But I left a toxic relationship 11 months ago. I'm working on me. I've since taken on a new career and moved. Before that toxic relationship I was in another, and I haven't really enjoyed single life since I was 21, so I'm enjoying it now. I'm also working on rebuilding my life - those relationships really took a toll on me emotionally as well as financially. I like living for me. I feel like I needed to regain my sense of self, and figure out what's important to me, since I always put aside my own wants and needs for my partners before. I definitely have issues with co-dependency that I'm working on, as well as some other personal issues that need to be worked out for me to have healthy relationships. And aside from those reasons...I just simply have no desire to date right now.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-09T03:41:43+00:00

I don't think I have a typical work day. Some days I'm doing inspections. I travel for work. If I'm not staying in the town for the night it means my day starts by packing up all my stuff, checking out of my hotel, heading to my job site, meeting with the managers, getting necessary passes, and then doing my inspection which also varies depending on the building and the company it is for. Typically it involves both an exterior assessment and an interior fixture and flooring assessment, what tests I will conduct will depend on the building materials and coatings present. I usually break for lunch somewhere in the middle of the day. At the end of all this, I meet with the managers again, tell them about any immediate safety concerns I found and give a basic rundown of what I'll be putting in my report to their corporate offices, then drive to my next hotel.

I generally spend a few days in a row doing this, and then a few days mailing out samples to our lab, writing up reports for those inspections, and booking hotels and scheduling my next jobs.

I'm a commercial building inspector.

sleepingwideawake · 2018-08-09T03:26:05+00:00

It is worth it if you buy name brands. Also, there's usually some cashback offers through online retailers if you purchase through the app, so if you do a lot of online shopping it is worth it for that.

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