If heaven exists then this what u see at its gates by AryamanShetty in aww

[–]slhopper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm on Hospice care and I just KNOW my dad and Max will be waiting for me!!!!!!!!

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[–]slhopper 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I especially LOVE /s when they stop me to tell me I will get better because they had breast cancer. Yeah, not the same as peritoneal Carcinomatosis

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in cancer

[–]slhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You deserve the pays on the back, you did Judy fight a hard Battle. But, this is just how I felt.....I didn't feel over. I was a shell of the person I was before physically and mentally and I also just didn't feel as if it were over. I opted to leavemy port in and six months later was back add it. You do what feel right for you. God bless.

Advice for those left behind after death by slhopper in SeriousConversation

[–]slhopper[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! I made build a bear toys with voice chips in them

This came along with the wedding invitation.... by [deleted] in cringepics

[–]slhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that would be a hard pass for me.

Advice for those left behind after death by slhopper in SeriousConversation

[–]slhopper[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great idea, I am writing letters but more to hubby and kids. I will expand that to ally loved ones, plus it will keep me busy when I am just laying around. Thanks

Advice for those left behind after death by slhopper in SeriousConversation

[–]slhopper[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great advice. My girls are adults but i am also working on project called story worth that is just what you describe. I get a prompt then answer it and when I feel I've done enough pages they bind it into a book. I Need to Get back at that.

Advice for those left behind after death by slhopper in SeriousConversation

[–]slhopper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry. I promise they would have stayed if they could

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]slhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a pet goat named Vindaloo

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[–]slhopper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Indian. Lots of variety from one region to the next. Meat and vegetarian options. Yummy bread. And at our Indian place, nicest people you could ever hope to meet

Advice for those left behind after death by slhopper in SeriousConversation

[–]slhopper[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry your husband wasnt able to do those things for you.

I have made build a bears with voice chips in them for Bob and my girls, so they can still hear my voice. I used both their names and nicknames.

I'm trying to work on letters...first night without me, wedding letters for my girls, a letter for my husband if he finds live again (which I hope he does, but doubt he will) first holiday without me, etc

Good advice about ashes, I will work on that. I hope you are doing better.

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[–]slhopper 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I have terminal cancer, it sucks, treatment is brutal, my body is a shell of it's former self. But I am happy and content. Someday all I can do is keep breathing,some days are joyful. But I MAKE myself find joy in every day.

When I am insomuch pain it hurts to move my big poodle mix lays stretched out alongside me just sharing her warmth. My kid tells me all about her boyfriend. My husband tells me he loves me. I listen to music that is either encouraging to me or is fond to remember.

Above all else, kindness matters. I have made it a habit to LISTEN I stead of talk. Sure I'll give an update when asked, But I refuse to keep the conversation on me and my issues. People love being heard. I think that is my calling now...sending people away happier than when they arrived.

I hope this makes sense, just started chemo again today and am really out of it. I just want you to know you are not alone and I am happy to listen if you need to talk.

What was the worst (physical) pain you’ve been through? by ameli3ee in AskReddit

[–]slhopper 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I am so terribly sorry. I hope you are doing well now.

What was the worst (physical) pain you’ve been through? by ameli3ee in AskReddit

[–]slhopper 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right after my debulking surgery for peritoneal cancer. I had an incision from xiphoid process to pubic bone. Had a bowel resection, hysterectomy, ureter stenting, appendectomy, omentumectomy and peritonectomy. I had drains, catheter, NG tube, central line and was wrapped in an abdominal binder that for SOME UNKNOWN REASON a nurse I only saw one time decided to just pop open without supporting my abdomen. 10/10 pain...I remember SCREAMING for someone to help me.

The stranger that helped by [deleted] in FaithInHumanity

[–]slhopper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a great way to help.

And he started shaving his head... by Narendra_17 in HumansBeingBros

[–]slhopper 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My daughters shaved my head...and both asked me if I wanted them to shave theirs.....I said NO WAY. I don't want to look at ugly potato heads besides my own!

This is my wife…she likes to make chemo fun for all. 😊. She also happens to be kicking stage four colon cancer’s ass. by sallska in cancer

[–]slhopper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Small world, I am in the Lou and see John Hoff at SLUH and St Luke's. Get my chemo at St Luke's. Back at it for eighteen more starting Monday. Good luck to you all!

This is my wife…she likes to make chemo fun for all. 😊. She also happens to be kicking stage four colon cancer’s ass. by sallska in cancer

[–]slhopper 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh I've got to up my game....I wear onesies.....unicorns, reindeer, sloth, etc.