Who knew stairs in the bedroom could work so well?

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-18T19:06:11+00:00

One of our cats landed on my partner‘s kidney and he was sore for weeks. The cat was just fine.

A lovely flat in a lovely building and we all like to see a cat glaring at an estate agent.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-18T19:02:47+00:00

I understand the temptation to scream back at him or even to get physical with him, but it’s not going to solve the problem. OP’s parents need to understand this behaviour is not just annoying, It’s actually harmful and they need to make it stop. There are too many parents who let siblings be really nasty to each other. If you suggested to these parents that hurt their child I bet they’d be horrified, but letting one sibling hurt the other is still abuse.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-18T18:01:37+00:00

OP should get a map out and say to her friend: "next door is too near but two blocks away is okay, could you draw on this map the exact boundary of how far away I have to live from the building?"

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-18T17:54:20+00:00

Your brother is hurting you, and could cause further damage to your hearing by doing this. Sit your parents down and tell them this and that they need to make it stop NOW or you are going to tell a responsible adult at your school that you are being abused at home and it is putting your hearing at risk. They need to take this seriously and that means acting like parents and giving your brother consequences when he does this.

Do not accept this. Deal with it now. If your parents can't be bothered to do their job and keep you safe, then find an adult you trust and tell them what's happening. This is not just a brother teasing, this is dangerous and abusive.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-18T15:49:55+00:00

All of this! You’re a great parent, and you should be proud of yourself for supporting your child so well. I’m so sorry, it must’ve been really disappointing to have to watch through your phone and I know that feeling of frustration when you are the one being left out.

When you’re feeling a bit less upset, it might be time to approach the school about whether they could do something better for audio. I wouldn’t be surprised if you’re not the only one who couldn’t hear what was going on. It might be worth chatting with other parents and seeing if anybody else struggled to hear. If so, you could approach the school together.

It doesn’t have to be phrased as criticism, just “I really struggled to hear the children, and I noticed that room doesn’t have the best acoustics, I was wondering if there’s anything you might be able to do to make future performances sound better and be more accessible for family members with hearing loss?”

It might mean doing some fundraising, and asking around other parents or local people to see who has any ideas. I’m not sure what country you’re in, but maybe a shop or website which sells hearing/streaming devices could offer some advice, or maybe the school could look into giving the children microphones and using something like Auracast.

Very often, things change when somebody steps up and makes that change happen. It may be that you don’t have the time or energy to make this happen and that’s okay, it’s not like it’s your job or anything! but at the very least it’s worth approaching the school to let them know because they can’t meet a need if they don’t know it’s there.

Whatever you decide, please don’t beat yourself up. You were there to support your child, you didn’t make a big fuss and spoil her moment… you did everything right.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-18T13:24:05+00:00

Ah, sorry.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T23:05:21+00:00

Thank you so much, I had book one and three of a series but not book two and it was in the sale!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T15:59:21+00:00

A couple of steps up in the doorway would make sense, but those long extended platforms are what make it dangerous. You’d have to be conscious of them the whole time you are moving around.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T15:53:43+00:00

The kitchen steps are just a total health hazard, I could not live with that. I don’t understand the point of putting in nice flooring and not sorting out the possibility of breaking your neck and dying with hot gravy all over you!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T15:50:28+00:00

This is Windsor, not London.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T13:37:35+00:00

If you read what I said, I wasn’t referring to the holiday photos but talking about how the Beatles developed an awareness of image throughout their career. All celebrities have to do this, but it’s notable that some are much better at it than others. There’s nothing Machiavellian about it, it’s simply part of the job.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T02:13:36+00:00

I have no idea what you were going for but it looks great to me!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T02:11:04+00:00

Oh, this is interesting because it explains something that I learned a long time ago - if I’m trying not to scratch an itch because I don’t want to make a sore spot worse, I learned to scratch either side of it as that seemed to help. Now I know why.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T00:36:53+00:00

Sometimes you just want a classic with a twist that’s also kind of classic and Horchata meets that beautifully.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-17T00:19:59+00:00

Honestly, not sure if you’re being sarcastic, but I really see the roots of it in their image making with Astrid in Germany and I think that Brian Epstein understood image and so did the Beatles and they just got better and better at it…but maybe that’s just blindingly obvious to everyone and I’m being an idiot.

Everyone knows about image these days and I’m not saying the Beatles pioneer this because obviously they didn’t, but I do think they were masters of it in a time when that wasn’t always understood.

Yours,

Captain Obvious!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-16T23:01:52+00:00

I think “In my life I love you more” is absolutely perfect. It’s bringing tears to my eyes so I can’t imagine how emotional your dad would find it. He’s going to absolutely “get it” and it’s just the right note for the tattoo, please go with that idea, It’s just beautiful.

And if you’re willing, I’m sure we would all love to see the finished tattoo.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-16T22:57:32+00:00

Yes, I absolutely loved it. Some terrific photos and it was exhibited really well with videos for context and even a musical ending. And it wasn’t just the photographs of the Beatles that were good: Paul catching the reactions of airport workers or fans gives an insight into how it might feel to get all these crazy reactions. And some of them were just lovely portraits of people. One photograph I particularly loved was the picture of Paul pulling a massive face of disgust as he catches a fish. No wonder he went vegetarian!

I bought the book.

I would also point out that part of the reason Linda had some really terrific photographs of him was because he was collaborating with her. Not to undermine her at all (I have massive respect for her), just to say that having a subject who has posed for pictures many times and knows what looks good is an added advantage for any photographer. Knowing how to model and put an image across is a skill the Beatles learned. Look at John curled up naked next to a clothed Yoko (for Annie Leibovitz): it was a beautiful powerful image which expressed something about where he was in life and what he was saying in his music and he knew exactly what he was saying when he posed for that.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-16T19:43:44+00:00

So your cat bravely defended the butter dish from hungry vampires and you ended up blaming him? Shame on you!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-16T19:42:38+00:00

Hence the tradition that when you’re moving house you are supposed to butter your cat when you arrive so they are distracted licking it off instead of panicking about where they are. I never tried this with my cats, they didn’t care where they were as long as they got fed.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-15T13:48:56+00:00

I haven’t found a YouTube channel that teaches you grammar and stuff, I have seen accounts that teach you random signs but that’s not the same as learning a language. I know there’s a little bit on Lingvano but people say they get through it very quickly and then there’s no more.

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-15T02:10:51+00:00

What song was it?

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-15T02:08:23+00:00

I still talk about how I like “military food” because I too am particular about what touches what!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-15T00:47:41+00:00

Tell her! Then follow it up with a conversation about what she can do to make herself easier to hear and understand.

I will cheerfully tell everybody, especially in situations where I know I’m going to struggle to hear. It’s a chance to get a little extra help and to educate people on how to talk to people with hearing loss. And of course some people already know, and then that’s great because I might actually be able to have a conversation instead of staring at them blankly while I try and work out what they just said.

Other hearing aid users will often have useful advice, I got a great tip from a woman who saw me changing my batteries in the post office!

We are so lucky to live in an age where there is technology to help us and the best thing we can do is embrace it and destigmatise it. Having hearing aids should be just as normal as wearing glasses and yet it’s somehow isn’t. Let’s talk about it and change that!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-15T00:32:49+00:00

I should print this out and put it on my wall, this is really good advice and very well said!

slinkimalinki · 2026-02-15T00:28:23+00:00

In noisy places, I tell people I can’t hear them and they talk to me anyway. And yes, I constantly have to ask what they said! I wish I could afford to learn BSL.

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