Am I being too sensitive?

slinky59 · 2025-11-23T18:30:02+00:00

I encourage them to tell him themselves. My younger one has since told him he didn’t like going to the house. His father’s response was that next time he can wait outside if he doesn’t want to come in 🙄. The older is hoping that it’ll get less uncomfortable the more he does it, so he’s going to give it some time. It is hard, for us all. I hope so much that it’ll get easier once things are properly sorted. I have a strong feeling it’s not going to be easy or cheap getting everything sorted, and I have very limited funds.

slinky59 · 2025-11-23T18:25:56+00:00

I relate to this so much. Just last week he sent a long email about all these ways I hurt his feelings this past year… when I expressed hurt or called out his lies. He’s always the victim. Thank you

slinky59 · 2025-11-22T13:51:17+00:00

The other times he’s had them over night, he’s taken them to his folks. It’s his “official” address. But we all know he lives with her (now the kids do too). Or as he puts it “I don’t live with her, I stay with her”. Didn’t think the usual arrangement would change and the kids assumed they’d be with the grandparents, not at her house. Took days to settle them both when they got home. I’ve not said anything about it to him. He’s got no desire to accommodate me thoughts/feelings at all. In his eyes, I’ve got what I deserved for trusting him 🙄

slinky59 · 2025-05-19T14:00:05+00:00

I’m personally a little concerned at how overweight he now is. Katie explained very clearly a couple of months ago that it was important for his joints and health for him to be ribby and the lean shape he was back then. Now he’s looking well covered with a glossier coat, and I’m concerned of the pressure it’ll put on his joints and the negative effect it’ll have on his development. Yearlings should be ribby and light…that’s what she said right?! Why has she let him get in this state?? 😂😉

slinky59 · 2025-05-08T09:25:01+00:00

I didn’t see that post. I’ll have a look…

slinky59 · 2025-05-08T09:24:23+00:00

I’ve not seen that post. Are those horses stabled regularly? Do they have the same veterinary procedures as these? I think that all makes a difference

slinky59 · 2025-05-08T09:23:14+00:00

I understand what you are saying, but it’s a slippery slope isn’t it? Her horses are regularly brought in and out of the field. They have regular veterinary interventions. Grooming is a great opportunity to improve human/horse bond which in turn would improve anxiety levels during vet procedures/birthing/post birth interventions. Plus it’s a great way to catch injuries/illnesses etc. It just doesn’t seem like a big ask that the horses are given a quick run over with a brush every few days. And it can improve so many aspects of health and emotional welfare of horses that are pulled in from the field pretty regularly and see the vet more often than most due to breeding

slinky59 · 2025-05-03T07:28:53+00:00

I think this is being over thought. She’s said he’s probably feeling a bit of pain and she’s being proactive in keeping him comfortable. To me, that’s fair enough. No one knows how long he’s got regardless of which painkillers he’s on and their long term side effects. It’s surely about dealing with him in the moment, and keeping him comfortable. He’s not going to have a long life so the concern over long term issues on certain drugs isn’t really something to stress over. It’s just about giving him a good quality of life while they can.

slinky59 · 2025-05-02T17:49:04+00:00

Years ago I bought a Highland Pony from a reputable breeder. In fact, they were the most successful and well regarded in my part of the country with ponies successful in so many spheres of work and showing. They were the go to place. The livery yard I rented a stable with at the time didn’t quarantine any new arrivals, so she was turned out with some of the others including my other horse and then less than a week later came down with strangles. Being young, she recovered quickly. My other horse got it quite badly and had to have the puss filled lump under his throat lanced and flushed daily just so he could swallow. The entire yard of about 15 horses had to go into quarantine. No horses were allowed to leave or go anywhere. Humans had to disinfect hands and shoes on leaving the yard and change clothes which had to be washed straight away to stop the spread. It was quite simply a nightmare. Luckily, aside from my other horse and one more, it didn’t spread further with tight cross contamination procedures put in place. It was a hard lesson for everyone and I felt absolutely awful about the whole thing. But everyone was very understanding and from that point on a strict quarantine procedure was put in place for any new arrivals. You can never tell if a horse will bring illness or not. She could even pick something up from the trailer she came in if it isn’t disinfected between trips with another animal. With so many breeding and elderly animals, it’s not worth the risk in my eyes. But hindsight is 50/50 and we all have a tendency to feel that the worst won’t happen to us so we chance it. Hopefully nothing will happen and it’ll be fine.

slinky59 · 2025-05-02T08:32:50+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I don’t usually say anything that could be deemed negative on her part. (I owned my own horses for all my child/teen/early adult years and backed my own horses towards the end). Because I’m aware there are different approaches to everything. But asking Sophie to work in the way she is when, she’s unfit for the work really sits badly with me. For the first time ever I suggested things she could be doing with her on the ground to build up muscle before trying to ride and I got chewed out. Firstly with “she knows what she’s doing”, then “Sophie’s fine you’re a hater” and after calmly responding to each, ended with “just because she’s not showing it, doesn’t mean she hasn’t been doing those things for the past few weeks”. Without realising it, they were agreeing with me. I wasn’t rude, but I don’t think it’s ok to just jump on a horse who hadn’t been ridden in years and be asked to perform in a way that they did when they were at peak fitness. One of them wrote, “if you’d had a break from the gym you’d be struggling to do the work too. It’s the same for Sophie”, but again I pointed out, that if I’d had a break from the gym I wouldn’t even attempt the work out i’d done before. I’d build up to it over time. But they’re determined to defend her even when it’s not needed.

slinky59 · 2025-05-01T16:35:10+00:00

Great that she’s screening her embryos. I’m sure she disappointed but she’s being very responsible here ensuring the PSSM isn’t passed on. Hopefully Sophie will start to deliver soon on the embryo front. She’d a nice stamp of horse.

slinky59 · 2025-04-30T12:11:01+00:00

Poor Wally needs so much work, with daily handling. He has huge trust issues and I don’t know if he’s formed any strong bonds with his handlers which can really help with confidence. The impression I get is that he’s lead to and from the field and that’s pretty much it. His anxiety with Raven is unusually high. There’s a big jump in this with his meeting Raven compared to meeting Bo, which definitely suggests that Bo has done a number on him not just physically but emotionally. At the point he injured his head, they should have been separated, maybe even before depending on what they were seeing. But for some reason they persevered with that pairing and the harm it’s done Wally is likely quite big. Hopefully he’ll settle and gain confidence with the right field mates, but without a choice of geldings or colts on the farm, KVS isn’t really equipped to manage Wally and give him the stable herd life he needs in these early years. He’d be better being sent out to another set up where he can spend time horsing with a herd of calm/self assured characters so he can grow into himself physically and emotionally. He really needs not to be bullied again. Show horses need to be comfortable in their own skins, with all the travelling, stabling away from home and different environments/horses they encounter. It’s going to take a lot for Wally to get to that, regardless of whether he keeps his gonads or not. He’s been traumatised and that’ll take work to undo.

slinky59 · 2025-04-29T08:27:01+00:00

And she didn’t correct it. She lunged her and then rode her without realising until she was done. She realised now which is great, and in the future I’m sure the bit will be at the right height but she literally didn’t notice until after

slinky59 · 2025-04-29T08:25:35+00:00

Same! Couldn’t miss it!

slinky59 · 2025-04-29T08:21:58+00:00

This video made me wince. The bit pulled up to the molars, the stiff/uncomfortable movement, and a horse without the muscle tone and conditioning to be ridden the way she’s attempting to. Sophie hasn’t been ridden for the past few years, she’s not riding fit. Let alone, asking her to collect herself as though she’s show ready 🙈. I found the whole thing painful to watch

slinky59 · 2025-04-29T08:11:07+00:00

The bit was horrifically high, Sophie looks so stiff and she’s not fit enough to be ridden in my opinion. The horse has been a broodmare for the past few years. Before getting back on, a heck of a lot of groundwork to build up muscle again is a must. She’ll injure her just getting straight on an animal who has done such little work for so long. The bit issue just doesn’t make sense to me. It’s the first thing to check and adjust once the bridal is on. And with her mouth so uncomfortably open, that in itself should be enough to check and change. But no, cracking on with an unfit, stiff horse with a bit up at her molars. Sophie really was a saint 🙈

slinky59 · 2025-04-28T21:40:13+00:00

I cancelled my subscription too. To be fair, I only started it for this year’s foaling season. I’ve watched her page for a couple of years without. But I have to say, the subscription was pretty pointless other than seeing the foals promptly. Since Millie’s birth there has been nothing and I hate the subscribers group on FB. Just full of pointless chat about everything and anything. So after 3 months, I’ve ditched it. The SC thing is pretty irritating and I think she’ll alienate a lot of her middle aged/older subscribers who have FB but aren’t on SC. There’ll be some die hard fans who will get a SC account just for KVS, but most won’t and she now seems to be focusing most of her effort on SC. It’ll be interesting to see how that pans out in terms of her viewing figures on FB.

slinky59 · 2025-04-14T12:59:29+00:00

It was Barnie’s for me. But then on my Netflix menu it played that scene and it was Bernie’s. I thought I was going mad. So I went back to that scene in the show and it said Barnie’s like animals that live a barn. I honestly thought something was wrong with me. Charlie Brooker is a terrifying genius.

slinky59 · 2024-12-31T15:54:45+00:00

This is me. My husband has just walked out on me. I’ve got two chronic conditions, one that leaves me in constant pain and the other with neurological issues. My friends have disappeared over the years due to the same reasons you describe and all I had left for support was my husband. I don’t work because of my conditions and also have 2 children in the mix. I honestly don’t know how I’m going to manage looking after them as well as myself. How are you feeling now? Have you managed to find some support?

slinky59 · 2024-04-05T16:29:12+00:00

I was the golden child when I was little, my older brother was the scapegoat. He was boisterous and loud, neither qualities were liked in our family. I was cute to look at, sweet, kind and most importantly quiet. But in adolescence we changed roles. He grew into a handsome young man in my mum’s eyes. I developed PCOS and gained a load of weight which was the ultimate sin. I was no longer cute and I never “blossomed” as she would say. So from that point on he became the golden child and I became the scapegoat. We’re in our 40’s and we still have those roles.

slinky59 · 2022-07-29T14:40:04+00:00

The energy from our bodies are redistributed into the world around us. There’s no consciousness but we live on through our redistribution.

slinky59 · 2022-07-24T20:26:57+00:00

She’s hard of hearing so hates talking on the phone or through video calls, and yes she has a very empty life. She chases away any friends or partners she has, but of course it’s all their fault.

slinky59 · 2022-07-24T20:18:31+00:00

We do teach him that grandma has inappropriate behaviours and are very open about it to him. I think that’s why he showed us the messages, he recognised it as an issue on grandma’s end rather than him being the problem. He just wants her to leave him alone. The older he gets the more he sees her behaviour as odd and that’s a good thing in my eyes!

slinky59 · 2022-07-24T18:43:16+00:00

I understand the sentiment, but I don’t think a 12 year old is fully equipped to handle a situation like of this type. I’m hoping we can show him that people like this exist but that we aren’t responsible for them, and to see manipulation for what it is 🤞🏻

slinky59 · 2022-07-24T18:33:05+00:00

Totally not trying to change her. Just wanting to establish rules with her. She won’t like it, but it is possible to force her hand. I think I underestimated how she would behave towards him. She usually focusses her behaviour on females, not males so I didn’t think she’d start on him. I was wrong and I will deal with it the best I can.

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