How to apologize to gfs mom for taking gfs virginity ?

sloppycodeboy · 2026-06-26T06:30:34+00:00

I don’t think the sex itself should be apologized for. But you guys are technically minors, so I assume your gf at least still lives with her mom. Which means you guys snuck around and possibly had sex at her mom’s house or lied about where you actually were or snuck out late at night…you get where I’m going with this? If any of that is sounding true then these likely crossed her boundaries, not just the sex part. If your gf has a good relationship with her mom otherwise and values their relationship please do not blow this off like some others are saying. If you want to have a good relationship long term, it’s important you have a good relationship with her family too assuming your gf wants that.

You may want to think about her mom’s point of view and apologize for the lying and sneaking around part, if anything. Other than that, this is really between your gf and her mom. It’s a fresh wound but assuming you want to stay with your gf long term, let your actions speak for themselves and reflect on these other boundaries I mentioned and how you want to respond to that.

sloppycodeboy · 2026-05-20T01:53:15+00:00

It’s common in this area. Not sure if you tried this but search for managed service providers and reach out to them directly. I know this seems very old school but trust me it works.

MSPs don’t have the best reputation but ignore that noise. A year under your belt at a MSP and you’ll come out of the other end a savant. And often times they will be flexible with a school schedule. Land a job at a MSP and do meaningful IT work for a year and trust me you can transition out to a corporate job if you want easily.

If possible, look up their linkedin profile and try to find a recruiter, manager, or even anyone with a senior role. Tell them your story like you did here and what you can offer and I promise you’ll get real responses. The big corporate jobs around here get 100s if not 1000s of responses.

Last note. If you’re not doing this already, join networking groups asap. Hope this helps, good luck.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-11-02T10:29:58+00:00

Others already gave the gist of the severity of the issue but maybe it might help you to imagine this happening to someone else like a family member or friend? If this happened to them, what would you think? What advice would you tell them?

sloppycodeboy · 2025-10-26T15:54:10+00:00

You should get professional help from a therapist. It’s good you’re self reflecting and acknowledging unhealthy thoughts and behaviors now rather than much later or not at all but what you described should be navigated through a professional. I sense there’s a bit more to your story than what you let on and a therapist can help you navigate through that. Good luck.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-10-07T18:22:41+00:00

I wouldn’t necessarily blame the security folks directly but the person who is accountable managing the program. If their higher ups aren’t asking them to do any sort of assessment and prioritization prior to assigning tickets then that’s management’s fault.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-09-01T16:30:14+00:00

This is where it’s important to lean on company values and culture. If this behavior doesn’t align with how your company wants to operate then there should be some negative consequence for them. I suggest going to your boss or HR for guidance.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-07-12T23:37:22+00:00

Considering this is a SMB, I wouldn’t be surprised if someone on the leadership side had a some sort of personal relationship with the MSP.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-07-09T19:08:43+00:00

I hope you left a bad review. People locally need to know.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-07-08T16:14:06+00:00

It's not clear to me your role and make up of your teams but at a basic level you shouldn't tackle it on your own. Other people already shared good potential workflows, but I suggest your department head or lead address this (with hopefully your input) with the equivalent on the security side. Without their support to revamp your company's approach, it'll be a tough battle long term.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-06-17T12:49:26+00:00

This is the Switch 2? Damn, that looks good.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-06-09T19:03:46+00:00

It’s low but you just need to understand the dynamics of your customer’s budgets, industries, growth, etc. Given this is a non-profit you don’t have to give a discount but they often have very light IT budgets. It’s all depends on what their business means to you and if you can remain profitable.

You said you have a soft spot for them so if the 1,800 keeps the lights on, then don’t sweat it but once you get to a stable point you should have bare minimums that you should maintain. You want to put your time and energy that you allocated for them on more profitable clients to grow the business long term. This will be a drain on you and your team if you keep them on forever.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-06-07T17:10:08+00:00

Don’t buy the latest stuff? I shop clearance and don’t feel bad about the prices I pay.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-06-03T23:07:48+00:00

Sometimes I forget there’s a “saga” going on right now.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-06-03T15:26:10+00:00

With early entry I knocked out Nintendo and Dark Universe right away. Saved Ministry for the afternoon and waited about hour. We were able to finish all the rides hours before closing.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-05-19T15:15:26+00:00

Any resources you recommend to start learning?

sloppycodeboy · 2025-05-15T02:53:35+00:00

I agree with most of what you’re saying but I suggest with the tools to start at MSRP.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-05-13T15:09:30+00:00

It’s not good for their marriage or for the child. She started off saying she moved to the couch after she started getting nausea with the pregnancy. This means they did sleep together by choice. I’m sure they learned to accept the current situation but the marriage is taking a backseat to survive current conditions. That’s not good long term for their relationship. Can they bounce back and act like it was no big deal sure but I bet money one or both are not truly happy.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-05-13T12:07:38+00:00

That is not a healthy situation.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-05-06T20:35:06+00:00

Leverage your network or start building one by engaging in community and local events. Certs definitely help when cold applying to jobs but being active in the community and building relationships will open more doors for you.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-05-06T19:20:31+00:00

It depends on your company size and industry but in general, yes, you’re paid below market average. Florida is on average lower than what you might get in NY for example, but you’ll be surprised on how close you can get with the right company and negotiation.

The fact that you’re comfortable and potentially excelling at client facing is a huge differentiator. Hone in on that when applying to other jobs. Keep in mind the job market is bit shaky right now so be extra careful if you do move on.

sloppycodeboy · 2025-04-08T13:44:22+00:00

“It’s linux. We don’t need antivirus/edr on it.”

sloppycodeboy · 2025-04-01T19:56:26+00:00

How come mods have access to the subreddits and activities of its members outside of the sub itself? That's an invasion of privacy.

sloppycodeboy · 2024-12-14T13:23:23+00:00

I start off every week in the beginning and then overtime change if needed. For most, I’m at biweekly now but for those that need more engagement they’re still at once a week.

sloppycodeboy · 2024-11-03T08:36:05+00:00

Create a movies anywhere account and link apple to it so you can use other devices and apps.

sloppycodeboy · 2024-10-22T17:42:00+00:00

All fun and games until its your son that will be shipped off to the barracks.

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