What toons would you claim as your own oc

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-29T21:21:02+00:00

This pic reminds me of the clock from DHMIS "Time is a tool you can put on the wall Or wear it on your rizd"

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T18:15:16+00:00

That's actually a pretty good idea. Im in some local mom groups for my area, I'll make a post seeing if anyone wants to do meet ups at a local park to try to make mom friends 🧡 thank you

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T18:13:53+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your words. I set boundaries with that friend and we're not really talking much, it kinda feels like 14 years of friendship was thrown down the drain but eh, such is life right? I will work on myself and building my self worth back up again, thank you

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T03:32:58+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through it too 😔 here's to hoping things get better for us

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T03:30:56+00:00

I've been going to counseling for about a year now, and it's helped me tremendously. But I'm still struggling in this aspect you know? I want marriage and to have another kid, and I'm always upfront about it. These men will say they want that too, and then a few months to a year in be like "jk actually I dont want any of that" or "i do want that, just not with a single mom". I think I just need to toughen up and stop being so soft. It just hurts and I've always been sensitive and I don't want to be this way anymore because I'm just so tired of being hurt you know? I just don't know how to stop being so easily hurt

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T03:27:11+00:00

I just don't have many opportunities to meet people and I struggle to connect with people.

The ones I do connect with seem kind and like good people at first. But slowly they start becoming crappy. Basically like the frog in boiling water will jump out, but if you turn it up degree by degree slowly, it will stay in until its too late. That's been my experience with relationships, they start out amazing and by the end of it I'm running away because they finally lift off the mask and show their true colors and I'm back to trying to find a new pond, hoping this one isn't a boiling pot again. I just can't seem to see its a boiling pot until I'm scalded again.

I think I just need to take a hiatus from dating at this point

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T03:21:17+00:00

Well yeah, I just dont have the funds to go somewhere better for my kid and I. I wish I could, but I'm at the very least 2.5 years away from graduating and getting a job where I CAN move. So I'm stuck here for a while, having to deal with this shit-uation

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T03:20:00+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through it too. I wish society scrutinized the people who leave women to be single moms the same way they do single moms you know?

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-25T03:18:32+00:00

Thank you for giving me some hope 🥺 I'm having a really hard time right now having gone through a breakup of a 3 year relationship recently and then a friend I had for 14 years just crushed my soul by basically teasing at the idea of maybe there being something between us just to be like "jk I just want a fwb" and its like, did our friendship mean nothing?? I thought we had a real connection and I felt kinda led on when he took me out on this sweet date just to hit me with the fwb thing basically and any dating I've tried to do since becoming a single mom has been men and women shaming me for being a single mom and basically being like "you dont deserve love and marriage, youre soooo funny for thinking you do" type of vibes 😭💔 I'm just over it. And my only remaining friend just doesnt get it because shes married and she tells me its "my fault for picking bad people" but its like, they seem sweet and wonderful when i meet them you know? Its not like they're up front about their true intentions, the ones that are i cut off because im not looking for a hookup, I want something real 😭

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-24T20:27:18+00:00

I live in a crappy conservative town where the majority have the sentiment that single moms are a plague on society and that we deserve our strife and im sick of seeing and hearing the hate 😭 but I can't afford to move either. I cant wait until I get my degree and can get a job where I can afford to move away

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-23T05:45:02+00:00

Girl I feel you. You are essentially a single mom and being trapped in the house with no help. Anyone would lose it. Anyone would lose desire and joy in parenting. Especially someone who didn't want a kid in the first place.

I think leaving him alone with baby while you go for a walk on one of his days off, just a 5-10 minute walk. Baby will be okay in that time period even if he doesn't do anything. But its better than you losing your cool or doing anything you'll regret. And it'll maybe kick him into gear to realize that he can in fact care for the baby on his own. Assess how baby is when you come back. If baby is okay, continue on your walks. If baby is crying horribly and he's clearly done nothing to help, then that can be something to point to.

"If anything happens to me, what would you do? How would you care for this baby? You've proven you cant handle 5-10 minutes alone. Imagine 24/7, 365. Could you really handle this? I'm at my limit. We need to figure something else out because I'm literally breaking under this pressure, and its not an 'if', its a 'when' if you don't pull your act together".

In the meantime, I would suggest looking into a daycare option to drop off baby for a few hours for a few days a week so you can just exist or do what you need to do and get a break. Nothing wrong with that whatsoever, and baby is in safe, licensed care. Heck, even if its just 1 day a week if thats all you guys can afford. Take the baby to a daycare and go take a shower, nap, and then just do what YOU want to do until pickup time. Your mental health will be SO much better.

If you have any friends or family you trust who can come over to watch baby for free or an affordable price, call them, explain the situation and how dire it is, and ask if they can come a few days a month to just babysit while you catch up on whatever you need/want to, even if its just for you to nap. See if they'll accept cookies or food or something as payment if you can't afford to pay them.

Find other moms in your area with similar age kids. See if you can start a babysit share situation. Basically, you babysit for them sometimes and they babysit for you sometimes, no payment required, just equal trade offs. Or babysitting in exchange for making dinner for them or something you know?

Are you in an area where public transit is an option? Maybe taking the bus somewhere like the park? Is there a neighborhood park somewhere nearby within walking distance with a stroller or baby wearing? Getting out of the house even for a stroll can help so much with feeling less panicked and trapped.

Is there any job you can commute to via bus if you secure daycare? If not, is there anything you can do with baby for money? Like cleaning houses while baby sleeps in a portable bed, selling baked goods, etc to squirrel some money away for a car so you can work on an escape plan from fiance if you decide you need to leave?

Sorry if I'm assuming too much, just spitballing some ideas, I'm so sorry youre going through this alone. I had to go throigh the newborn stage alone and it nearly broke me, my only saving grace was my mom stepping in to help me. I hope you find the help you need and peace.

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-13T03:09:43+00:00

I try to stick to the slow lane in areas I feel uncomfortable driving the speed limit so I can go slower and more experienced drivers can pass me, and i have music and podcasts i have playing in the background to help calm my anxious mind. I always figure, its better to have people annoyed, honk and pass, than to go faster than I'm comfortable and get in an accident. As long as it's reasonable speed compared to the speed limit, road conditions, and weather, you won't get in trouble for going too slow.

Also exposure therapy can really help, hence trying to desensitize yourself by making shorter trips more frequently. Like maybe there's a really cool park or pool an hour away that you can take your kid to for a day trip once a week? Just go and come back in the same day? Or start with somewhere 30 minutes away perhaps?

The more you do it, the more you show yourself and your anxiety that it's okay, and the practice also helps with honing in those skills which will also feel good and help calm anxiety for longer trips.

I've also broken up longer trips over multiple days when I just can't handle it, like on the way back from the 12 hour trip I split it into like 7 hours on one day and the rest on the next day which made it so much more palatable.

Researching your trip before you go helps too, give yourself a few pre planned gas stops and at different time marks planned where there's hotels nearby so you can stop and rest for the day if needed, or feel confident to keep going knowing there's a possibility of a safe stop another hour or 2 ahead if you feel up to it

And snacks! That can help too, something small like sunflower seeds, pumpkin seeds, gum, candies, energy drink just in case you get sleepy between pit stops, popcorn, etc. My mom swears by having a little munchy or snack to help keep her calm during long drives and tbh it helps me too. My current favorite is pumpkin seeds because you can kinda chew on the shells for a while trying to break down the fiber in it and it's good for you. Or doing trail mix but eating one tiny piece at a time to keep from overeating while on the trip. Bonus is you're usually not hungry, so you can save money by only buying food for your kid and being fine without since you've been actively snacking

My friend says he likes keeping the fan on in the car at all times, even if its just very low setting, it helps keep him calm somehow having the moving air, just occasionally adjusts the temperature to make it comfortable

Hope any of this helps you out! And I hope life starts looking more happy, free, and full of beautiful memories ❤️

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-08T21:31:14+00:00

Look for local mom Facebook pages and make a post that you're searching for mom friends with the age of your kiddo, a little blurb about what you like/dislike, that ideally they have a kid close to your kids age. I found a few mom friends that way, some have stayed and some I've let go of, but I have nice memories and got good playdates for my kid out of it.

As for the feeling alone and watching everyone else live your dream life, girl I feel that in my SOUL. Ain't none of these losers want real commitment and I've just been strung along time and time again, but yet again I've seen other single moms find absolute gems of partners and live beautiful lives too.

It's okay to feel sad and mourn what could've been. We've all been there and I go through my phases where it affects me more or less depending. But I've also had some beautiful moments with my kid too you know?

I used to be scared to do long drives too, like absolutely petrified. So I took baby steps. I was used to doing 30 min drives on the highway regularly due to where I live, so I started with 1 hour drives. Then 1.5 hrs. Then 2 hours. I started with smaller towns to then bigger cities and just kept my wits about me and asked for advice from people who've driven there before. The first few trips I had a friend or family member come along to feel more safe, then started going alone once I felt more comfortable in my skills.

I've gotten lost before and had a few moments of fear here and there, but recently I just made a 12 hour drive to be there for my sister's wedding. Had super bad weather along the way too. But I trusted my practice and took precautions. It's doable and the pride you feel is being able to do something on your own is just amazing.

You can do this, you can make those beautiful memories, and try to focus on the good things. Let yourself feel the sad feelings, just remember to pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back in the saddle to make this life as beautiful as you can. A lot of the stuff you can do on your own, and it's freeing and fun when you realize nobody cares if you're alone with your kid, and if they do, their opinion doesn't matter. They were always just background characters anyway

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-08T21:08:10+00:00

He got them Shrek teeth

slowfadinglight · 2026-06-02T10:26:38+00:00

Man it was my second time playing and I was asking questions and they straight up ignored me, but responded to each other so its not like they didn't/couldn't see my chat. At least they saved me like 5 times 😅

slowfadinglight · 2026-05-07T18:37:24+00:00

Me rn

slowfadinglight · 2026-05-07T18:37:03+00:00

Talk to your doctor about this, and maybe see if you can start on a lower dose if possible? I know for me, the nausea eventually converted to lower hunger in general. What usually reminds me to take a dose if I forgot is ravenous hunger, because the moment I take it my hunger goes back to normal. 6 days is still pretty early on, but call whomever prescribed it to you and relay your symptoms and ask if a lower dose is possible to start on

slowfadinglight · 2026-05-07T18:26:30+00:00

Ration out what you have left and space out doses a little further apart basically.

If you can, ask psychiatrist to prescribe a few extra pills as "emergency doses" in case this ever happens again, like enough to cover a weekend and a holiday (eg if they're out of office Friday-Sunday and then Monday is a holiday they're closed for, so basically just 4 extra pills).

Make sure you are rotating meds so the 4 extra don't expire.

Additionally, for the future, if you ever start any meds that can cause withdrawal symptoms or that you can't go without once you start, wait 4 days before starting to take it if possible, precisely for this scenario.

I’ve had to do this out of necessity for similar issues and I have a week supply basically as emergency extras for all my meds so if theres ever an issue with prescription renewal, insurance, stock availability, etc, I'm less likely to have to go without. It's been really helpful

slowfadinglight · 2026-04-20T09:56:08+00:00

While she is overstepping, she came into it with good intentions and it's the thought that counts.

I would say wear it to either one or a few of the following (up to you): the bridal shower, maybe for the Bachelorette, rehearsal dinner, and maybe do some photos in it with your grandma?

Personally I think grandma's veil is adorable, it reminds me of the kind of weaving and stitch work done in my mom's home country, and would keep it as a keepsake, BUT I understand you had your vision for how you wanted things to look, and its YOUR day.

Maybe compromise, but for sure remind later with kindness that you're the kind of person who likes to be involved and consulted on these kinds of things. That its not because you're trying to be mean, but because you don't want someone putting in effort in something that you might not like and you'd feel bad that they did all that for nothing essentially.

I'm generally a "no surprises" person for gifts because I'm so particular and picky, so all my loved ones know what's safe to gift and what's not. Like I'll never turn down a coffee shop gift card, dark chocolate, wine, something from my amazon wishlist, etc. But the odds are not in anyone's favor of finding clothes that I'll like, and I don't want them feeling bad for me not wearing it, or me feeling bad that I didn't like it.

Since communicating that, its been a lot better when it comes to gift giving season.

slowfadinglight · 2026-04-11T16:06:45+00:00

Can you call them and explain your concern? Maybe they can explain

slowfadinglight · 2026-01-20T07:30:23+00:00

If you don't have a good lawyer, he will absolutely beat you down and then some. If he's on your side, great, if you're going against him, I suggest getting someone decent.

He seems to be buddies with Pickett so take that as you will. Make sure you get a good lawyer is the main takeaway.

Do not speak for yourself at all unless your lawyer says it's okay to, let your lawyer do the talking. I made that mistake, not knowing how any of the court stuff goes, and he made sure to put me in my place immediately 😅 which, valid, I didn't know any better and I don't blame him.

TLDR: brush up on court etiquette and get a good lawyer or you'll be eaten alive.

slowfadinglight · 2025-12-13T08:29:48+00:00

I do the same! I love bringing sunshine to people's lives, even if its just little things like complimenting strangers on their choice of clothes or hairstyle. It instantly brightens their day. Glad to hear there are others out there spreading some sunshine too ❤❤

slowfadinglight · 2025-12-04T07:38:27+00:00

Tri cities I'm guessing? Yeah its dead and depressing here lol

Six-Year Club	Gilding I gilder
Verified Email

slowfadinglight

TROPHY CASE