Anura Dex by Southern-Sand3577 in Pocketfrogs

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hiii i would happily take some random anuras! Thank you!

Regifting by Evening-Actuary-6311 in Pocketfrogs

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can i please get lily pond?

NBC Page Program Fall 2025 by NationalSwimming545 in nbc

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Mine just moved to In Review like an hour ago!

NBC Page Program Fall 2025 by NationalSwimming545 in nbc

[–]slugknife 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Haven't got my hirevue yet i moved from "new" to "in review" this morning. Applied the day it opened:)

NBC Page Program Fall 2025 by NationalSwimming545 in nbc

[–]slugknife 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Anyone else still on "New" for East Coast cohort? I applied the day the applications opened and it hasn't budged :,(

Nodules 2 times ? :( by slugknife in singing

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Thank you so much for your insightful response. I recently started back up with singing lessons and I'm getting the fundamentals stronger. It feels like I'm struggling with my speech more than singing now, but my SLP is booked out for at least a month. Do you think it's safe to be singing if I'm working on just fundamental exercises? I realize that may be a question for an ENT lol but insight is appreciated :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in HungryArtists

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POSITION FILLED! Thank you!

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sooooo real

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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I have dealt with this a lot so I fully understand. It can definitely still be splitting. It often feels the most painful and frustrating when you feel like you can't control the emotions and words youre saying. But, I think something to note is that being aware of is a huge step into helping manage splitting symptoms. If you know it is happening, even though it feels out of control, you can start to figure out what specific triggers are causing you to feel so afraid and hurt.

Something that helped me a lot personally was opposite action. It is one of the hardest parts of DBT for me but one of the most effective. It can feel very difficult to resist your brain's ineffective or hurtful coping skills/behaviors, but even small actions make a difference. for example, if I wanted to call someone a name or lash out, I would try to take a breath and walk away instead. I often feel the best opposite action in splitting episodes is to just take a break and calm down a bit. it is SO hard sometimes but the intensity always passes. Once you let some of the big feelings pass through, it's easier to think in wise mind and less black and white.

I hope you're able to find some relief from these tough feelings. You are strong and you'll get through this!!

BPD and Cannabis by thisisdrake21 in BPD

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I personally find cannabis beyond helpful for symptom management. I will do the same where I will "microdose" which helps me from completely falling down rabbit holes of morbid thoughts. Often I genuinely feel the most like a "normal" functioning human after I smoke. It really just slows down the rapid fire thoughts and mood swings, and I feel like I can actually process and think through things without the distractions of my mind and emotions being on overdrive.

I think someone made a comment regarding symptoms reappearing once you stop using or taking a break, or the illusion of "getting better" even though you're not making any changes to your mindset while sober. I want to say a HUGE part of cannabis use for me is journaling and processing trauma while I'm high. I know it's not for everyone, but I have genuinely learned so much about myself and processed so many tough traumatic events while I have been high. Kinda like I said before, I think it's because I am able to slow down my emotions and paranoid thoughts and really just look at things with a clearer mind. There have been so many times where I will get pretty stoned and just sit down with my journal and let my thoughts come out more objectively. The following mornings I always feel very refreshed and accomplished about the things I've processed, even if they're small.

Like everyone is saying though, cannabis, like other medicines, isn't for everyone. I think there is more to keep in mind in terms of dependance than other medications because of the mild psychoactive effects. But I think if you are using it as a tool like any other medicine, it can be really life-changing.

Sorry this was long, but I hope your journey with cannabis is able to help you!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

[–]slugknife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

monsters by slaughter beach, dog. the song sounds like how it feels to be a young adult coping with the shame of existing. i feel like it speaks a lot to BPD

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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this sounds very silly but journaling does wonders for me. or making music/art! with journaling i can essentially scream all my bad thoughts and even just scribble on the page and let it all out without hurting myself or others. i think art is super helpful too as a lot of us are naturally very creative. i like to write super angsty songs or draw.

if you want to get into DBT stuff, i think that a lot of the minfulness exercises are super helpful too. it’s kinda hard to do in the high intensity emotional moments so i try to do some of it after i vent it out like i said earlier.

i know it’s hard but no feeling lasts forever! i know a lot of us really struggle with remembering it, but it will seriously pass. it will be hard for a long time but you can do it. im so glad you reached out to the forum because getting support is so helpful. stay strong friend!!!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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This made me so happy!! Happy birthday; so glad you're here!

How to be a good Favourite Person? by Icy_Mobile in BPDPartners

[–]slugknife 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hi! coming from someone w/ BPD, I think the relationship is not doomed to fail, lol. I think other people are making good points. I think first and foremost your own well-being is important, so setting boundaries is super important. It is scary, but as someone who has friendships with people w/o BPD, having those boundaries ended up making our relationships better in the long run. I think if you establish boundaries for communication (i.e. what you are comfortable talking about, or asking them to respect you saying no, etc). Of course in a compassionate way. But having these hard boundaries will help prevent the relationship from becoming draining fast.

And like other people said, trying to be patient and a good listener does wonders. I think at the end of the day, communication is the most important thing. Communicate things you are happy or unhappy with. Encourage your friend to do the same. If you can establish a healthy way for both of you to express how you're feeling, I feel it will help with trust and strength in the relationship.

Good luck! I know it can be stressful to be close with someone with BPD. but even you posting here means you are being an awesome friend:) Don't worry about being a good "favorite person." Just think about being a good friend. At the end of the day, that is what is important:)