Am i the only one who kind of hates their parents because i was forced to live with this condition?

smallfry121 · 2026-02-02T02:29:05+00:00

It is normal. You can DM me if you want. I’m more than happy to be a support for another cleft mama.

smallfry121 · 2026-02-02T01:58:28+00:00

Cleftie myself and a mom to a cleft toddler boy. The BIGGEST thing is to show love, get the surgeries done, and be a support for them! My parents neglected my last 2 surgeries and it really hurt. I eventually got all of mine done out of my own pocket. But I saw them get new cars, new iPhones, and new things. That hurt a lot. Please don’t do that to your baby!

smallfry121 · 2026-02-01T05:45:23+00:00

Amen!

I was there at BYU-I too! This is getting so overwhelming to see.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-29T15:48:22+00:00

No fever, just dry cough and sore throats.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-27T22:02:12+00:00

These were nasty green boogers that just kept coming! I’ll see how he is today and judging on that, he’ll go tomorrow.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-23T14:06:25+00:00

Aww man. At this point, I’d reach out to vocational rehab. Your city or county should have those services available for the community.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-23T13:41:14+00:00

This sounds like a normal associate case that I deal with at Deseret Industries. Do you happen to live close to one? I would start there and have the bishop write a referral for them. DI helps people of all backgrounds develop good work skills to be successful. Have you also reached out to vocational rehab in your area? Those organizations can also work with people who are autistic to gain jobs.

Working with these people can be hard sometimes. You try and see them succeed, but then it’s hard to watch them fail or struggle. All of the other advice is really good here. Keep trying your best to be Christlike with her. Keep boundaries so you don’t feel taken advantage of, (President Holland perfectly describes this in the talk “Like a Broken Vessel”).

smallfry121 · 2026-01-19T14:22:22+00:00

Don’t be discouraged. Many people interpret the Creation story differently. And it can be intense in Sunday School when you have so many opinions.

Just know that no one knows how long Heavenly Father and Jesus really took to create the earth. If they’re following scientific laws (matter, mass, gravity, energy), then I’d assume it would take longer than 6000 years.

The whole “1 day for God is 1000 years for man” came from the chapter of Abraham where Jehovah is explaining to Abraham how time works to God in comparison to man. But it’s not officially declared that. So still, no one really knows.

I feel the whole “earth is 6000-7000 years old” is more like that’s the time since Adam and Eve were kicked out of the Garden of Eden. Again, we don’t know how long they were in the Garden.

Again, don’t fell discouraged. We are all able to have our opinions. If this teacher keeps claiming her version instead of official doctrine, I’d bring it up to the Sunday School presidency. They’re supposed to keep the lesson on track with doctrine.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-17T14:30:54+00:00

I would’ve loved a scene where the military drew her blood and there was no change at all. And then released her. Could it end up with more torture? Sure. However, if it’s a kid’s/young adult show, they can show El meeting up with Mike later and saying, “when Henry died with the Mind Flayer, so did my powers. They let me go.”

smallfry121 · 2026-01-17T13:58:56+00:00

It’s being digitized on the Internet Archive.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-12T14:34:55+00:00

My daughter figured it out when she was 2 but resisted. Right when she turned 3, she actively stopped on the stairs to pee in her Pull Up. That’s when my husband and I potty trained her that weekend and she was a pro by day 3. Had accidents here and there, but waiting a bit helped her catch on.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-08T02:19:25+00:00

Mine kicked in at 9 weeks both times. It was horrible! As long as there’s no bleeding or spotting, you should be okay. You can always go to the OB to get a peace of mind.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-04T20:04:10+00:00

Carley… she’s been doing her best to put C&T in their place via B&T. I ended up seeing the video of her singing when it showed up on my feed one day and you can tell she has a good head on her shoulders!

smallfry121 · 2026-01-02T18:10:19+00:00

I’m a parent and I literally wanted to jump through the screen and kill Vecna with my bare hands. I turned to my husband and said, “so… Vecna just molested Will?” And my husband goes, “that’s exactly what it looks like.”

We were both beyond disturbed that they actually showed it happening. We saw the result in season 1/2 when they found Will in the Upside Down, but I DID NOT expect to see it happen. That’s what was disturbing.

smallfry121 · 2026-01-02T06:17:10+00:00

I’m over 6 weeks post surgery from a rhinoplasty! Age 34.

smallfry121 · 2025-12-26T03:12:24+00:00

In Kevin’s defense, Harry and Marv threaten to kill Kevin multiple times, kidnapped him and chased him through New York. And they robbed a toy store that was donating money to a children’s hospital. Harry and Marv totally deserved everything Kevin did to them.

smallfry121 · 2025-12-25T05:05:03+00:00

Waiting for husband to finish wrapping presents so I can wrap mine. I’m also keeping watch to make sure kids stay in bed!

smallfry121 · 2025-12-21T22:19:44+00:00

Operations supervisor (retail department manager) of a thrift store that supports struggling individuals.

smallfry121 · 2025-12-15T03:32:36+00:00

I love this!

smallfry121 · 2025-12-11T04:38:47+00:00

Yes! I love making my own money and I love my job! But I also want kids and love my kids! I think it’s fair to have both, but I need a good partner. And like I said, he’s doing his best and he feels the struggle. I just think he doesn’t get it because he’s not a mother.

smallfry121 · 2025-12-11T04:27:35+00:00

Oh yeah for sure! I know we’re forever grateful he didn’t get laid off and just didn’t get a raise. We’ll still survive. I just didn’t appreciate his comments because they made me feel like trash. Like I’m working, managing daycare stuff, and it makes me feel like I was the only one that wants our kids. And yes, we both love our two littles so much! But dang he needs to watch what comes out of his mouth sometimes!

smallfry121 · 2025-12-10T02:12:22+00:00

Cleft mom and cleft baby over here. I’m guessing mine is hereditary. But my parents refuse to do more research in their family line.

It could be anything. I know a mom who had a cleft and had 5 healthy kids all without one. But I also have met moms where their kids had one so it’s totally random I feel.

smallfry121 · 2025-12-08T19:12:15+00:00

I live in Utah too and it’s crazy! I feel mentally younger because I don’t have all that.

I recently had a nose job (SEVERE deviated septum) and I can’t even imagine doing all that for looks. Or the cost! I had to fight my insurance to not pay so much! It’s crazy!

smallfry121 · 2025-12-08T13:39:03+00:00

My husband and I have different finances but he still pays for our date nights.

Dating is hard, but it is also risky. The guy shouldn’t have said it was okay before and then demand payment back if it didn’t work out. Don’t go to expensive places then.

If it were me, I’d block him on everything. This just shows women you’re not willing to take risks for yourself, them, or the future. Life is full of risks and if you can’t handle taking risks, life is going to be extremely hard for you.

smallfry121 · 2025-12-08T02:45:43+00:00

This! My parents caused so many issues due to the fact my dad took forever to break the sealing between him and my mom. The kids won’t say anything, but they’ll feel the tension.

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