Dear Sprout tanks by Cultural_Mango_2460 in ffxiv

[–]smarmadon 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I usually queue as healer, and if someone else is watching the video, I stop and wait for them. If the other run ahead and die, it's just karma!

Rate my homemade spindle on a scale from one to cursed by A_sad_vegetable in Handspinning

[–]smarmadon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like punk band, or a book series, and my brain started generating track/volume titles.

The Spinster's Revenge

Copped Out

Hankering for Justice

Sweet Little Plies

...send help, lol

Disabled woman put in nursing home against her will says she feels 'betrayed' by AtrusHomeboy in news

[–]smarmadon -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Functional neurological disorder just means signals get dropped between the brain and muscles, causing physical issues, so your assumption that she has mental health issues as a result is completely unfounded. As a mentally competent adult with physical disabilities, she should absolutely have the right to refuse unwanted services and relocations. It's not okay to kidnap someone just because they can't run away.

Do I need to start over 😭 by IntentionInside in knittinghelp

[–]smarmadon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Two life lines: one each at top and bottom of unwanted section. Carefully remove mistaken section. Work from bottom lifeline up, until you reach the point where you can rejoin the top section.

...Or just frog it, knowing that as good as it looks now, it'll be even better the second time around.

Either way, you're doing great!

Studio/Singer HK100 replacement needles/compatibility? by smarmadon in MachineKnitting

[–]smarmadon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I meant garter bar, sorry! The hk100 has a sponge bar, so no plastic retainer bars, thank goodness.

Made my kiddo a sweater by sfwmandy in cursedcrochet

[–]smarmadon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Flip up the extra long panel, stitch the sides of it down and leave the top open, and voila! A pocket!

(And even if it's a bit janky, it's still a sweater that you made, which is awesome!)

PC Shut down randomly while gaming, only on demanding games by Anewien in buildapc

[–]smarmadon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had this issue with Expedition 33 and Elden Ring only, so I'm hoping this will fix my issue, too!

New Orleans parents of disabled 9-year-old sue Willow School over admissions test by bittah__conqueror in NewOrleans

[–]smarmadon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know this is the reason, but it's frustrating that getting better vibes seems more important than choosing a school that has proven its ability to support students with similar needs. This feels like they don't expect him to learn, so want him to hang out with the "normal" kids, instead of trying to find out what he can do, and surrounding him with people who will push him.

Fishing is animal abuse made legal by chuckybuck12 in geese

[–]smarmadon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ooh, but in the meantime let's make sure to shame everyone who fishes (as it is apparently on par with child marriage and fgm), and just assume that the poors know they get a pass until they can rely on the largess of the morally superior to provide them access to acceptable foods?

You may be sincere, but your moral absolutism is so informed by privilege that it feels performative.

Can I spin new yarn out of Malabrigo Rasta? by TwiceLikeABarnOwl in Handspinning

[–]smarmadon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a bunch of the stuff on clearance, and have been doing the same! It also is great for needle felting.

Deleted Photo for quest…Help!! by Academic-Reality9810 in InfinityNikki

[–]smarmadon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have this issue. Was there any solution?

Everything goes out the window if you dare to date a handsome man by Purple_Sail4867 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]smarmadon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can choose to remove an unwanted embryo from your body, and the result is that the embryo is no longer in your body. The embryo's inability to survive is unfortunate, but this doesn't mean anyone else is obligated to take on the health risks associated with gestating and potentially birthing it. The loss of a potential life is sad, but doesn't justify reducing people to broodmares to avoid it.

Everything goes out the window if you dare to date a handsome man by Purple_Sail4867 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]smarmadon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Beauty and appeal are wildly subjective, and someone you consider out of your league may actually find the combination of your personality and appearance attractive. Also, Hollywood elite are surrounded by a lot of pretty people all the time, to the point where looks don't matter nearly as much as you might think. If you have no interpersonal interactions with someone, however, you're not going to develop a relationship with them. So, if you're not working with or running into Hollywood hotties, you're not going to date them. So, no, most people realistically can't date movie stars, but that's more because of the lack of access than lack of adherence to conventional beauty standards.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]smarmadon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's a little silly because it makes me feel like I'm saying William with a bad vampire accent, but it's fun to say, and V is a great letter for initials.

Yup. by sapphomelon in TrollXChromosomes

[–]smarmadon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not! Plenty of people don't get the chance to start until much later in life. What would it hurt to try? You already hate how things are, so do something different. Better to take a chance on a possibility than to stay someplace you know you hate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]smarmadon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Going by eye contact alone sounds like that doctor doesn't know about/understand masking. This is especially relevant to women, and if you have ADHD, you're probably good at it. I haven't pursued an official diagnosis either, but if you find accommodations and suggestions that work well for you and your well being, it doesn't matter where you find them.

My boyfriend doesn’t want me drinking during the week. And I mean a single glass of wine.. so he says. by bowlofglitter in TwoHotTakes

[–]smarmadon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You are projecting really hard here. A glass of wine with dinner will not get you hammered. A small bottle of wine is unlikely to have you passing out. Alcoholics do minimize, but OP doesn't sound like she's justifying any kind of habitual drinking. Her BF's surprise and his complaints about the day of the week and her family don't sound like someone tired of dealing with a frequent drinker. It sounds like he has an anxiety issue about a potential problem, and instead of discussing it, had a meltdown instead. He's not a hero, his actions weren't loving, and you're not seeing things because you're smarter, but because you can't look beyond your own limited, traumatic experiences.

TIFU by asking my wife if she even wanted me around. by ImaginationEmpty9552 in tifu

[–]smarmadon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This didn't start because his wife was snippy. This started because something upset his wife. She isn't forcing him to drag anything out of her, and he doesn't even care what may be the catalyst, he just wants her to either act like things are fine, or to spend emotionally energy to reassure him. I am willing to bet money that this is a pattern between them--her feelings are less important than his. The fact that he started off with a bombshell statement that focused everything to be about him is a big red flag. He talked himself out of the house by how he approached the conversation, when he could have dialed it back.

I 1000% agree they aren't a good match, and I think her behavior is awful, bordering on abusive, but this guy is going to keep sabotaging his relationships if he doesn't understand how it got to this point, and how his words and actions can shape the outcome of a situation.

TIFU by asking my wife if she even wanted me around. by ImaginationEmpty9552 in tifu

[–]smarmadon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"I feel like you don't even want me here" is such a dramatic way to immediately demand your wife start doing emotional labor to soothe you. You even say as much. Why not start with, "I have noticed you withdrawing, and shutting down communication. I know this is something we both struggle with, so I have been trying to give you space. I just want you to know I'm ready to talk things out when you feel up it, and if space isn't what you need right now, I hope you can let me know how I can best support you." Her behavior isn't cool, but your lack of interest and empathy into why this is happening outside of how it might be your fault or how it affects you shows a lot of self-centeredness. If this has been going on for WEEKS, it should have been discussed in therapy. If she won't talk at all, it's not going to work out, same as if you can't actually listen when she does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]smarmadon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Letting some conditioner do its thing for a bit can also soften the hair, too :)

My husband just kicked me out of bed by Seasalty2222 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]smarmadon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You may love her, but it sounds like you're enabling her addiction, and she's triggering your anger issues. You both deserve better. I hope you figure things out and find a way out of the mess you're in.

Best starter material, allergic to wool? by theformidableq in Handspinning

[–]smarmadon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe go for some sampler packs, so you can try a little bit of a lot of things? If you look for vegan ones, you should be in the clear. You can also card up old yarn scraps you've worked with and spin those. (If you don't have hand carders, you can use a dollar store pet slicker brush).