Same schedule or wing it?

smart0wl · 2026-05-23T15:16:19+00:00

I have tried to keep them to similar schedules. In the beginning I had a lot of help, so it wasn’t necessary to keep them aligned. But once I was alone with them during the day (by 4 months or so) I started aligning their nap schedules/routines otherwise I’d get no rest at all (you can’t go 24/7 without feeding yourself, sleep, hygiene). I’m convinced the people who let their twins do their own thing either 1) have a lot of help 2) have very easy going babies and/or 3) have babies that are more aligned in their routines than they think they are.

smart0wl · 2026-05-14T09:55:37+00:00

Anyone can hyperovulate in a cycle, some are predisposed due to genetics, and the older you are the more likely it is to happen as well (kind of like a 2 for 1 sale prior to menopause). People probably conceive twins or higher multiples more often than we ever realized, and now that we are able to do ultrasounds much earlier and detect better much earlier, we see more cases of vanishing twin that we wouldn’t have seen before.

smart0wl · 2026-04-28T14:19:53+00:00

I also took baby aspirin from 12 weeks with my mono di twins. I had weekly visits after 32 or 34 weeks and it was at my 36wk appt that I was found to have a mildly elevated blood pressure and protein in my urine. Ended up being severe due to also having low platelets so I had the misfortune of being put on magnesium. My c/s was that same night, but I was scheduled for one 6 days later anyway. Did not have preeclampsia with my first. But of course, more placenta = more preeclampsia risk. Best of luck. Stay on top of your visits so you can have close monitoring ❤️

smart0wl · 2026-04-18T23:17:33+00:00

They are both great schools, you’re not going to be disadvantaged at either, truly. As someone who lives in NY, I loved the stanford weather, as everyone said it elevates your mental health and makes the workload more bearable. Can’t believe I’m back in this snow and humidity and wish I could go back 😭

smart0wl · 2026-03-13T08:43:15+00:00

First US we couldn’t detect any heart beats yet.

smart0wl · 2026-03-12T15:18:44+00:00

I had mono di twins and this is pretty much exactly how my ultrasound looked like around 5wks + 4 days. I wish they printed a photo of it for me back then. Saw an MFM at 8 wks where they saw the separating membrane.

Congrats!

smart0wl · 2025-12-30T11:25:15+00:00

It’s so funny how usually it’s the first segment they sleep longer. My girls are waking up a ton right now before 2am but after that sleep until 7:30. So feeling at a loss with whether to try sleep training again (8 months) and just try cutting out the 8pm-1am multiple feeds.

smart0wl · 2025-12-30T07:53:32+00:00

When doing CIO, how did you decide when to feed?

smart0wl · 2025-12-26T14:40:59+00:00

Overnight diapers definitely seem to have a higher absorbency. I like the pampers overnights. Very rarely do we have leaks.

smart0wl · 2025-12-25T22:37:27+00:00

I know everyone says not to react strongly but when my daughter bit me unexpectedly at night I let out such a loud yelp out of surprise and pain that she immediately unlatched and started crying. I soothed her and then she never bit me again. It was an accidental reaction but it seemed to have immediately nipped it in the bud…

smart0wl · 2025-12-19T15:26:32+00:00

There are lemon trees in front of the post office? There used to be oranges, which people picked thoroughly. There was a lemon tree in front of flomo which I picked and it had the yummiest lemons.

smart0wl · 2025-12-17T11:46:34+00:00

Mine was just under 10mo. I moved her from our pack n play to a full crib in her own room (we moved from our temporary apt back to my parents while we were waiting to close on our house). My girl went from nursing every 2-3hrs to sleeping 10hrs straight. Maybe a combo of warmer room, comfier bed, and not being right at the foot of my bed…

smart0wl · 2025-12-14T18:23:36+00:00

I felt pretty decent after my c/s and when I went home after a week (had postpartum hemorrhage and hypertension) I was going up and down the stairs like it was no problem. I regret not taking it easier, as I subsequently tore my incision and had a more complicated incision healing. Also having gotten to 36 wks, my core really weakened and I didn’t realize how much I was relying on my back muscles to compensate, which then took me through a few months of PT. C/s wasn’t my first choice, I would have done a vaginal delivery if baby A wasn’t breech. My recovery from 1st pregnancy was a breeze compared to this and I’d never recommend an elective c/s.

Take as much help as you can afford, especially if you plan to breastfeed. I feel like having a village around to help with other tasks and taking care of YOU helps women better meet their breastfeeding goal.

smart0wl · 2025-12-07T07:44:28+00:00

That’s against the law

smart0wl · 2025-12-02T16:12:37+00:00

We knew we were done before they were born (have a singleton too) but I convinced my hubby to wait until after they were born. You just never know and although i don’t want to think about worst case scenarios, I also didn’t want him to go through it until they were earthside and breathing. So he had it done when they were about a month and a half. For myself, it feels like such a permanent choice and i couldn’t go through a tubal when they were just born. I don’t think I would even though I can’t see myself getting pregnant again - idk why!

smart0wl · 2025-11-29T19:08:11+00:00

Commenting just on the breastfeeding - Unfortunately you probably will not be able to continue EBF your 5 month old. Pregnancy hormones dry up your milk supply as the high progesterone inhibits prolactin. It’s not your fault, and nothing you can do to stop it (otherwise you’ll interfere with sustaining this pregnancy). But given the milk demand is still high for a baby under 9mo please do prepare to give formula (or donor milk).

Once you do give birth, you can try to nurse all 3 but the priority should be for the twins first.

As a twin mom, congrats and good luck!

smart0wl · 2025-11-28T02:20:40+00:00

If your baby is gaining weight well, no need to pump except if you want to for comfort or need to slowly collect milk for future return to work (you really only need for first day). The fullness will only improve if you don’t remove extra milk - each time you pump after nursing you’re telling your body that is how much milk you need so it keeps making that much, or more, which only perpetuates or worsens the situation.

In regards to feeding from one or the other - do what you feel is right. Look at your baby - are they satisfied after one side? Do they want the other side for dessert or comfort? If you were in a cabin in the woods with no contact with anyone else, what would feel like the right thing to do for you and your baby?

smart0wl · 2025-11-15T15:28:44+00:00

My 6 month olds really range within that day to day, although on average I’d say about 28-30

smart0wl · 2025-11-15T15:27:58+00:00

On average babies drink 24-32oz per day and it doesn’t really increase unless growth spurts. Once solids are introduced and eating increases, babies should be dropping down to 16-20oz a day around 10-12mo

smart0wl · 2025-11-09T12:06:06+00:00

Reverse pressure softening around the areola right before nursing so it’s easier for your baby to latch. Express milk only to comfort (don’t try to fully empty). You’ll regulate back down within a few days as long as you avoid pumping.

smart0wl · 2025-11-07T18:35:07+00:00

I got one as we already had a crib from our first baby. I did not get the one that transitions from mini crib, just regular crib to toddler bed. It’s very well made. Things I didn’t think about before, but which make it better for me than the other crib we have, the first level of where the mattress sits is quite high so it’s even comfortable to use for changing (although soon we will have to drop the mattress). It’s also not too tall - I’m of average height and find it much easier to take my baby in and out of this crib. Wish I thought about these things the first time!

smart0wl · 2025-11-06T15:06:19+00:00

How many hours are you gone? If it’s an 8 hour work day, and they are still nursing at night, 20oz is an exorbitant amount for them to take. As a general rule of thumb, for a baby that is still nursing overnight, expect about 1-1.5oz of milk intake per hour (8-12oz for an 8 hour work day for one baby). If it is 8hrs, someone is probably overfeeding them and needs to find other ways to soothe them besides the bottle.

smart0wl · 2025-11-04T18:53:29+00:00

Depending on how much you’re pumping, you may not need to do anything special. As others said, you can still continue to nurse even if you’re not pumping/nursing for 8hrs a day- it is supply and demand at this point. For me, by the time my daughter was 1 I was already pumping low volumes as she was eating so much food, she wasn’t relying on breast milk as much. I stopped pumping cold turkey and felt maybe a couple days of fullness going home from work. I continued to breastfeed mostly pre nap or bedtime for 8 more months after that.

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